Dadchelor Party, have you heard of this?

ellewoodsSC

My DH just sent me this link about the newly emerging trend of "Dadchelor" parties.

Sounds fun!  If women are getting push presents, there's no reason a dad to be can't spend a little time bonding with his boys.  

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/13/dadelor-parties-celebrate-first-time-fathers_n_875968.html

ladybirda

I can't help but roll my eyes at this. If guys want to go out with their buddies fine, but they don't need a special set aside party. They're not the ones going through the ups and downs of pregnancy or not allowed to drink at all for nine months. If anything, there should be a mommy-blow-off-steam party like a month after the kid is born where mom gets to go out with her gals and drink her weight in margaritas. Come to think of it, I might do that anyway..... #pumpanddump

LauriJean_2009

ladybirda:

I can't help but roll my eyes at this. If guys want to go out with their buddies fine, but they don't need a special set aside party. They're not the ones going through the ups and downs of pregnancy or not allowed to drink at all for nine months. If anything, there should be a mommy-blow-off-steam party like a month after the kid is born where mom gets to go out with her gals and drink her weight in margaritas. Come to think of it, I might do that anyway..... #pumpanddump

Agreed.  MH is on an all guys golf trip right now.  He would have done this if I were pregnant or not, don't think there's anything special to celebrate with a big night out.  If that were the case, I would have had a bash each month I tried to get knocked up thinking it was my last hurrah.  

I definitely have plans with the girls for November to get a bit tipsy and let MH drive me home, if anything, I deserve it for driving him around this whole pregnancy.  

LauriJean_2009

Also, the fact the the baby is still in my uterus doesn't give my SO a free card to be irresponsible as this article touts.  "One last night where responsible decisions don't matter"...

And I bet most of the men going WITH the dad-to-be are dad's themselves.  

soon2bjmn

Yeah, um no. DH has Guys Nite Out every couple of months in addition to a guys day if a buddy is in town for the weekend or whatever. Also, I'm not getting a push present so he can deal with not having a second bachelor party

cantalopes24

ladybirda:

I can't help but roll my eyes at this. If guys want to go out with their buddies fine, but they don't need a special set aside party. They're not the ones going through the ups and downs of pregnancy or not allowed to drink at all for nine months. If anything, there should be a mommy-blow-off-steam party like a month after the kid is born where mom gets to go out with her gals and drink her weight in margaritas. Come to think of it, I might do that anyway..... #pumpanddump

My friends are already planning a girls thing for post baby for me lol. I am going to have a small kegger at my house for MH before baby.

Kitty Holland

ladybirda:

I can't help but roll my eyes at this. If guys want to go out with their buddies fine, but they don't need a special set aside party. They're not the ones going through the ups and downs of pregnancy or not allowed to drink at all for nine months. If anything, there should be a mommy-blow-off-steam party like a month after the kid is born where mom gets to go out with her gals and drink her weight in margaritas. Come to think of it, I might do that anyway..... #pumpanddump

Agreed - it looks like an excuse to have a second bachelor party to me. And the message behind this just hits me wrong. The woman is already committed once she gets the two lines on the HPT, but the guy gets to plan that one last night of irresponsible freedom well into the pregnancy. Just seems horribly misguided and immature.

Mrs. Mo

ladybirda:

I can't help but roll my eyes at this. If guys want to go out with their buddies fine, but they don't need a special set aside party. They're not the ones going through the ups and downs of pregnancy or not allowed to drink at all for nine months. If anything, there should be a mommy-blow-off-steam party like a month after the kid is born where mom gets to go out with her gals and drink her weight in margaritas. Come to think of it, I might do that anyway..... #pumpanddump

Agreed ! They can drink with their buddies anytime. We are the one's that constantly have to watch what we eat/drink and deal with all the other physical aspects of being pregnant. They only have to be supportive of us.

cantalopes24

Mrs. Mo:

ladybirda:

I can't help but roll my eyes at this. If guys want to go out with their buddies fine, but they don't need a special set aside party. They're not the ones going through the ups and downs of pregnancy or not allowed to drink at all for nine months. If anything, there should be a mommy-blow-off-steam party like a month after the kid is born where mom gets to go out with her gals and drink her weight in margaritas. Come to think of it, I might do that anyway..... #pumpanddump

Agreed ! They can drink with their buddies anytime. We are the one's that constantly have to watch what we eat/drink and deal with all the other physical aspects of being pregnant. They only have to be supportive of us.

But I don't think it's about the pregnancy, but everything that comes after the baby is born. MH's friends surprised him (without even telling me) with one before our first loss, and I thought it was really sweet. I am going to help plan a smaller scale house party with his friends for this baby.

 ETA: We call them "man showers" and I will definitely be having a first night of freedom party when the baby is a couple months old so to me it evens out.

Liz4444

DH goes out for dinner/drinks with his guy friends or they all go and play golf on a Saturday or Sunday at least once a month anyway, why would he need a special name for it?  I didn't stop it from happening once we got married and I wouldn't ask him not to go once the baby is here, just as he would never tell me not to have a day/night out with my friends.

scarlettoctober

I saw this over on 2nd Tri yesterday.  I think it's ridiculous.  Yes, your life and priorities change after kids, but it doesn't mean you never get to have fun again.  If DH wants to go bowling with the guys on a Saturday night, go for it.  If I want to go to a movie or dinner with my friends, I can. 

LauriJean_2009

cantalopes24:

But I don't think it's about the pregnancy, but everything that comes after the baby is born. MH's friends surprised him (without even telling me) with one before our first loss, and I thought it was really sweet. I am going to help plan a smaller scale house party with his friends for this baby.

 ETA: We call them "man showers" and I will definitely be having a first night of freedom party when the baby is a couple months old so to me it evens out.

I think  "man shower" is fine if it's about celebrating the man and his upcoming fatherhood.  I think going out for a night on the town is also ok.  What I disagree with in this article is that it sounds like a Bachelor Party. i.e.  "Let's go to Vegas, get *** faced, wake up on the strip, and wonder where our pants are."  It's the premise that there is no responsibility that irks me.

MicMamma

My husband has been all about this. The problem is he wants to do it in addition to his Fantasy Football draft party trip the month before. We're trying to save up for a few weeks of unpaid maternity leave and when I told him he really needed to choose he just told me to take less matenity leave. I'm only taking 8 weeks! (I swear to God, he has said some of the stupidest things since I got pregnant. But that's another story.) Plus, we're not taking a babymoon, but he wants to make a dadchelor party a priority?!?!

Truthfully, I think it's a crock. Men shouldn't be encouraged to leave their pregnant wives at home and go out and party. Women can't do it, why should they? They're the ones that have had to do nothing the entire pregnancy while we suffer. Plus, I'm sure my husband has no clue what a push present is. I'm not expecting one.