Mommy guilt

lola6711

I feel so guilty because it feels like I am bonding with one of my DDs more than the other.  She is so much needier and I hold her twice as much.  I am always putting DD2 down to tend to fussypants DD1.  Please tell me it will all even out in the end.

kimarino13

It will even out.  Mine take turns every couple months being the "needy" one.

Sharra711

kimarino13:

It will even out.  Mine take turns every couple months being the "needy" one.

Mine do too, except right now it's DD and DH Don't feel guilty! I'm sure you are giving each baby what they need!

AGFaso

No advice yet, mine are still packed away, but wanted to offer ((hugs)) and say I'm sure you're doing a wonderful job, mom!

MADforever2009

Oh yeah... In the early stages one was wayyyy more needy. Now they take turns... I'm sure you're doing your best.

AlishaMay

One of my DDs had bad reflux/allergy issues/colic for the first 4 months of her life.  I pretty much held her the whole time, and she required a lot more of my attention.  I remember feeling terrible about it, but there wasn't much I could do.  When we got her issues under control, I was able to even out the playing field.  Since then, it's been an ebb and flow, and like PP's said, they'll trade off as time goes on. 

It helped me to remember that they don't know any different than what you give them - so they're not feeling cheated in the least.  You're doing a great job!

OrangeSmoke

kimarino13:

It will even out.  Mine take turns every couple months being the "needy" one.

This.  And they also go thru phases of liking either daddy or mommy more.

tmbuchmann

My DS was very needy in the beginning and would only settle down for me, I felt that way too because DH always had DD. Well now DS is very mobile and he is not needing me and I'm getting more DD time now!

Thisgirlslife

It might make you feel better to know that I am struggling with the same thing right now ( they are 11 weeks ).  DS is very needy & let's just say...intense, and  DD is so Zen that she doesn't require as much of me~ which at times I am grateful for, but then I feel bad for feeing like that.  Everyone keeps telling me things will even out.  So~ I try not to worry about it too much.  We just do what can I guess.  I am sure you are doing a great job..this raising kids thing is just tough sometimes.