Are you asking DH for a push gift? PIP

coachswife3

I never got a push gift with my DDs, and never asked for one, but I REALLY want this necklace. I think I may ask if I can get this as my cut (c-section) gift. I'd like it with 3 pink pearls though.

 https://www.etsy.com/listing/62586282/natural-nest-necklace-with-white-pearls

 

forensicmama

No, I've never really thought of it. That's a pretty necklace! I'd love a motherhood necklace, one with a November birth stone and one with an October birth stone.

10kris

I used to work in a jewelry store when the fad of a push present started and most men didnt even know what it was.  Most of the men came in and asked what he was supposed to get as this present and they would just take whatever we would tell them because they didnt want to get in "trouble".  I think this is becoming just another reason for someone to get more jewelry.  Isnt your gift your little miracle in your arms?  Did you give him a "knocked me up" present?  I think if he feels moved enough to go out and get you a token for remembering the occasion thats nice but it shouldnt be labeled and make the poor guy feel forced to get you something.  

KrisM86

That's a lovely necklace! 

Personally, I don't really need or want a push present. While I think it is a sweet gesture, my SO being right there to support me as I give birth to our baby is all the present I need! 

coachswife3

10kris:

I used to work in a jewelry store when the fad of a push present started and most men didnt even know what it was.  Most of the men came in and asked what he was supposed to get as this present and they would just take whatever we would tell them because they didnt want to get in "trouble".  I think this is becoming just another reason for someone to get more jewelry.  Isnt your gift your little miracle in your arms?  Did you give him a "knocked me up" present?  I think if he feels moved enough to go out and get you a token for remembering the occasion thats nice but it shouldnt be labeled and make the poor guy feel forced to get you something.  

 Lol @ a knocked me up gift!! I'm not going to force him to get me anything. I never ask for anything. I think I may just show this to him and say its pretty. If he takes the hint them good if not I want be upset, and will eventually get it for myself.  

LauriJean_2009

Honestly, I'd be happy with flowers.  He's only gotten them for me once (When I started my new job in 2007).    Anything else would be a bonus.

cantalopes24

I got a pretty white gold ring with black and white diamonds that I stacked with the ring I got when I had my son. He bought it early so I could show it off.

OUKap

I am getting earrings. BIL gf told him about the concept of giving a gift and H was thrilled about it. He was planning to get me something anyway. I was expecting or asking for anything, but it is so cute how he is so interested in it. He's a keeper. :-)

welcometowonderland

Well, my husband owes me so I'm getting my tattoo as a push present.

PearlPink

I'm not asking DH to get me anything, but he mentioned it after reading a daddy book, so I trust whatever he gets will be perfect.

ellewoodsSC

I've casually mentioned the notion of a push present to my hubby, but not really expecting it and I'm not going to be disappointed if I don't get one.  Some people get upset at the idea of a push present because they feel a baby is gratification enough.   I think its a cool idea because there's a HUGE disparity in the physical demands that women have to endure for 9+ months culminating in labor/or c-section.  Thus I consider it a gesture of appreciation and recognition of the mother's efforts. 

maryNamory

tradition here is that with each pregnancy when a woman gives birth she receives a Hawaiian bracelet with her child's native name.  Dh said he is going to follow this custom

rkto

ellewoodsSC:

I've casually mentioned the notion of a push present to my hubby, but not really expecting it and I'm not going to be disappointed if I don't get one.  Some people get upset at the idea of a push present because they feel a baby is gratification enough.   I think its a cool idea because there's a HUGE disparity in the physical demands that women have to endure for 9+ months culminating in labor/or c-section.  Thus I consider it a gesture of appreciation and recognition of the mother's efforts. 

but I also feel sorry for my H.  Every day I laugh when the baby kicks or moves around and tickles me.  He cant feel anything. He is so left out. So yes, we have to endure the nausea and pains but we also get all the glory and the fun stuff. It is pretty freaking cool to have a baby inside you.

I would like my house to be cleaned professionally.  I am calling it my push present, but it is for both of us.

christiney06

It's very nice, but i would wait til my birthday or Christmas instead of asking for a gift for having a baby.  

klquinn

I'm not asking for anything though I saw DH on a jewelry website last week......and he quickly closed the page when he heard me.  What I want instead is to save up more money for a down payment on a house.

Elsa1984

I think that ASKING or dropping hints for a gift is pretty selfish. I won't be asking for anything. If he gets something, that is nice and thoughtful (whatever it may be). If he doesn't...no biggie.

Our baby is the gift. The gift that keeps on giving. I don't give a rats arse about jewelry when it comes to making something as amazing as a baby.

My surprise at the end of pushing is finding out if it is a boy or girl......that is a really cool surprise...... 

 

FrauElyse

I'm pretty sure my DH has no idea what a push present is, and I don't plan to bring it up.  I'm not big on jewelry anyway, and what am I going to do without it, not push?

karinothing

I do not really feel comfortable asking for gifts, no matter what the occasion.

manbearpig31610

I am not asking for a gift but if I get one that would be nice I have absolutely no problem with the idea of a "push present" though. I don't know why everyone gets their painties in a bunch whenever this subject comes up. Regardless, it's a beautiful necklace and I think it would be even nicer with pink pearls. It's not like you're asking for a lot. You're on your third csection and you're asking for a $20 necklace. In my opinion, that's showing restraint.

Janimal

In our relationship, getting each other gifts is one way we show affection.  Whether it's DH surprising me with my favorite chocolates or me leaving a surprise for him on the seat of his car - it's what we do.  Of course not all couples do this, it's just part of our love language. 

When I was pg with DD, DH told me he wanted to buy jewelry for the occasion and asked me what I would like.  I didn't ask - he brought it up.  I told him that something with our daughter's birthstone would be special to me and I could give it to her one day.  October=Opal, so not expensive.  I got a pretty necklace and earrings.

Many women seem to respond to push present posts that it's nice if DHs buy them, but it's not ok to ask.  I disagree.  What's wrong with asking?  If you would like your DH to choose something special for the occasion, he won't be able to read your mind.  There is a difference between being an entitled beyotch and communicating with your partner about something you would like.  Pregnancy and childbirth is an amazing time of a woman's life.  Of course gifts aren't "needed" but it is a time to celebrate.  For me personally, jewelry bought when having our children has much more sentimental value than gifts for my birthday every year.  If DH hadn't brought it up himself, I probably would have said I would like something for the occasion. 

I think this time I will give DH a Tiffany's catalog with some things highlighted!!!   Bwahahahaha!!!

FabulousMrs.P

That's very pretty.

No, I am not asking him for any kind of push gift.  The baby will be my gift. After struggling with infertility, a healthy baby in my arms is all I really want!

cszlachta

christiney06:

It's very nice, but i would wait til my birthday or Christmas instead of asking for a gift for having a baby.  

 

This--with DD I mentioned to my husband that I would like a piece of jewelry with her birthstone, but I wasn't sure what.  We never had another conversation about it, but I started thinking a necklace would be good.  Well, for Christmas when she was 5 months old he bought me a beautiful white gold/diamond/ruby necklace.  The idea is that I will give it to her some day  

ebp913

I told my DH about the push present and we've talked about going to the jeweler where I got my engagement ring to look at some options.  I don't need him to spend a bunch but I know he probably wouldn't buy me jewelry otherwise so I'll take this opportunity to get something memorable and nice that I will have forever. I am thinking earrings but I haven't looked at anything really yet. 

I know my DH is not the kind where you drop a hint and he remembers months later and surprises me with a great gift.  He needs more specific reminders and direction to do things like that but that's just the way he is. 

mellymel12

I will not be mentioning anything to my H. If he decides he wants to get me something, that's fine. But I think he has no clue about 'push presents'. If anything, I might just get a necklace for myself after she is born.

brownrubino

I brought up the push present to my husband the other night. He said my push present will be having sushi at the hospital after the baby is born! I've only been harassing him about sushi being the first thing I eat after the baby is born since we found out we were pregnant.

FallFabulous

That's a lovely necklace... but no I will not be asking for a push gift.. I believe that is what our baby will be!

jessica0602

My husband will be bringing me an ice cream sundae (I have GD) and smuggling in a 6 pack to the hospital.  That is my push present.

BriannaHH

I have avoided responding to the push present posts in the past but I have this sudden urge to put in my two cents

IMO, purchasing a piece of jewelry to commemorate the birth of your child is not a reward for giving birth.

I have pieces of jewelry that were given to me when I turned 16, 18, 21 and 30, when I graduated HS, college & law school and when I got married (other than my rings).

When I wear them, I am reminded of these milestones and the jewelry represents that moment in time for me. I love each one of them for reminding me of these events.

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I don't understand the outrage over this sentiment. 

Also, I am not demanding that MH purchase this item for me. We will go and look together. 

 

rescueddogmom

I won't ask for one and don't expect one.  We have spent a lot of money on the house we moved into in November and I'd rather keep making improvements to it than spend the money on jewelry.  But, I don't see anything wrong with the idea of a push present, I just don't really want one myself.