Do you ever feel like you are going to lose it?

dbryson

This is how I feel right now.  And every time I try to plan a GNO or activity away something happens and I have to cancel.  I'm so tired and need a break.  I feel like all I do is watch children, clean and work.  And now I'm adding painting and everything else to the list because I think we are about to put our house on the market.  I'm just so tired and I need DH to step it up.  And working until midnight or 1 am and then having Colton wake up at 5:15 am every morning doesn't help.

Am I alone?

 

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com

No, you are definitely not alone.  I have a lot of stress and guilt on me all the time.  I work full time so I'm away from my boys for at least 9 hours a day.  Then we get home and we have to rush to get dinner ready.  I try to spend a little time with them before it's time for baths and bed.  I feel like a rotten mother because I don't spend enough time with them, but then the little time I do spend with them, I sometimes lose my temper and they just exhaust me.  My dh can be of some help...when he's home which seems to be never!!  He's either traveling or working late nights.  It gets old very quick.  I've been thinking about quitting my job, but my dh wants me to continue working because we can do a lot of things with my income and he doesn't want to lose that just yet.  I just feel like a single parent most of the time due to his work.  I actually have a GNO planned tonight so I'm excited about it. 

emowens

Almost hourly Danielle...not alone at all!

mingaling2

Absolutely!  And I only have 1 child and a DH that never travels! 

You are definitely not alone.  Let's plan a GNO - for reals.

lindzed

Yes, right this minute I feel that way.  My 23 month old hates my 3 week old and my husbands solution is to just keep them together until they like each other.  I could see how that would seem like a great idea if I wasn't the one here that was trying to actually do it.  My poor toddler is stuck in the house watching tv all day.  He is the type of kid that is terrible unless he gets outside or we go do some type of activity.  Did I mention that every time my 3 week old baby cries, my toddler has a huge fit and starts screaming too (yes imagine both kids crying for 3 weeks straight).  So far this morning we have made it to fit number 6.  I'm pretty sure I'm going to lose it very soon.

K&P414

Girl, you are definitely not alone!  Except I feel most of the time I feel like I've already lost it and I'm grasping at straws trying to get it back.

mrsd0907

Gah, everyday lately, it seems like. Between Derek regressing and whining all the time because he wants attention to Parker screaming all the time because he has reflux. Oh and he will only calm down for an extended time if I am the one holding him. A GNO would be heavenly.

tracigator

Nope.  You are definitely not alone.  My neck and my back are actually one big knot from all the stress I am under right now and I don't even work and DH rarely travels.  My kids are acting their ages and I'm about to kill them both.  I don't remember the last time I had a GNO.  Seriously.  I tried to plan one with the moms from preschool a few months ago but everyone had to cancel.  If I don't get a break soon, I really don't know what I'm going to do. 

Mrs.Guz

More often than I'd like, and I have one child, and don't work. I will say, since DH has been home, it happens a lot less. I'm dreading when DH goes back to traveling all the time. ( I hate it when I get to the point where I completely lose my temper and yell at Abigail out of pure frustration. Especially when I make her cry. I feel like a huge failure as a mom.

tmhopkins13

Didn't you see my status on facebook yesterday? LOL Yes I always feel like this but thankfully I got some relief coming-my mom is coming on June 18th for 3 weeks, because we are 95% sure that she will be moving here and she needs to get some things settled so I am just holding on to that, but you are defintely not alone, I know it sucks but that's what we do, we couldn't leave it to the husbands they're not built for it!!

amyb05

daily...sometimes hourly

hthomas02

you are definitely not alone! big hugs momma, big hugs! (and bigger wine glasses!)

Pecswife

I asked my gyno yesterday if she could prescribe me some happy pills. It was a negative.

KT&John

(((HUGS))) I have just started my new gig of working 15 hours a week and being home with the kids. I have the kids in MMO from 9-12 two days a week so I can go into the office.

The 10 minutes between daycare and the office while I am in the car by myself is very theraputic I was just thinking how the biggest qualifications for my new combo job are patience and energy. Unfortunately both are limited resources.

I hope you get a break soon. I for one, am up for a GNO any old time

andrea922

If you had seen the tantrum Finn threw last night, when dh was out, prompting Lila to join in chorus, and my reaction to him, you would see that I not only feel like I am going to lose it sometimes, I do actually lose it sometimes. It makes me feel awful. A 3 year knows how to push every.single.button.

A GNO is a great idea, they just never last long enough  

rara855

Yes, yes, yes.  

Alison422

I am right there with you, except I feel like I have already lost it.  I feel like mean mommy all the time and I hate it.  Caroline is just acting like a typical almost 3 year old, but she definitely knows waht buttons to push.  And it doesn't help when Taylor is screaming at the same time.  I just keep trying to tell myself that this all will pass and they won't be this age forever, but it's not helping that much lately.

LaruC27

Every second of every day.  I told DH i was going to have a sitter come one day I wasn't on call and watch Addi so I could go see a movie I have been wanting to see and all he did was complain about the cost of the sitter <eye roll>  It would be worth it for me to do something for myself for once since he seems to take over my half days in the summer planning trips to his parents house. I am with you and so over it. 

SunshineGirl07

Oh yeah!

There is no doubt in my mind that being a mother is the hardest job on this planet. Going back to teaching was ten times harder this time around. There were days where I felt that I didn't sit down until 10 at night due to a fussy toddler or around the clock feedings. I'm glad I have the summer to just be with the kids and get the house back in order. I will definitely take time out for myself as well. That is my key to staying sane.