I just finally told my mom tonight that I'm going to the doctor to get some testing done.
Up until this point, I haven't talked to her about any of our TTC journey. I've kept it completely secret.
I chose to tell her tonight because she's been really hurting my feelings lately with comments like "I keep waiting for someone to give me a grandchild." Lately, since my brother and his fiance broke up, her new favourite saying is "Well there's no hope for grandkids from him any time soon, so it's all up to you."
She even says things to people when we're out together. For example, if they mention they're new grandparents my mom will half look at me and say "We're still waaaaiting...."
I was starting to really feel hurt... like I'm a failure. I already feel that way every time I get my hopes up and then I get my period.
So, tonight, I told her and I also said that I get defensive when she makes comments - but I still don't think she gets it. She sort of brushed it off like ... oh yeah, that's great, you should get that testing done so you can get back to making a baby.
Ugh. Now that I'm off the phone I think it was a mistake to even mention it.
Have any of you had to deal with parents acting like this? It's really not cool.