Hi Fellow December Moms!
I need some baby shower advice from anyone who is more in the know than I am.
My sister asked me about my baby shower this weekend - when I wanted to have it, who I wanted to invite etc. and instead of making me excited, it made me feel stressed. Her kids are teenagers, so she's not really in the know either.
I don't live where this shower will be held, so I will have to travel. When I suggested Labor Day weekend she said that would be too early (and not a good travel weekend for her). When do people usually have showers?
Also, who do you usually invite to your shower? Is it like a wedding shower where your friends and your parents friends are invited (that you may or may not know very well) or is it usually just more of your close friends?
I would really appreciate any insight you have.
Thanks so much!!
Re: Shower advice - when and who to invite??
I was just talking about this with a friend at lunch over the weekend. I am due Dec. 3rd, so my shower will probably be mid-October or so, I think. I will invite pretty much the same people as who came to my bridal shower- my mom and two aunts, plus a few cousins who I am close to who live locally; all of my close girlfriends; my MIL and SIL will probably come- they live out of state, but came for my bridal shower; and a few close friends of my mom and MIL. I think there were about 30 people at my bridal shower, and I'd like to keep the baby shower around the same size.
I have been to baby showers with 15 people and showers with 50 people- it's really a personal choice as to who you invite- it can be as intimate or crazy as you want it to be!
Well with DD#1 I didn't have an actual shower. My shower was scheduled for when I was 34 weeks and my water broke at 33 weeks and I was in the hospital for a week before I was included! So even if it is early, its not a bad thing. I would say around 30-32 weeks would be a good time to have one.
I doubt we'll have one for this one too - just because its #2 and honestly we already have a ton of stuff.
It hasn't really been brought up yet, but I'd like to have my shower some time around 32 weeks (give or take a week or so) - right around early October.
Knowing our families, it will probably be one big shower with both sets of aunts, female cousins, and family friends (and my friends). That's how my wedding shower was and it was a lot of fun. The only thing I can see is less of the family friends that I'm not as close with.
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My mom just asked me about this the other day...here's what I'm doing:
I am due 12/1/11, and my shower is planned for 10/1/11 (just because my ultrasound puts me a little ahead, so I could go at the end of November).
I have a pretty large family on my DH's side, as well as my side, so it will probably be pretty big (60ish plus people).
I would invite close family and close friends. Think about people that would be offended if you didn't invite them...that's how I go about it. It will probably be mostly who was at my wedding shower.
Good luck!
I'm having two showers that I know of. Both will be in late September, I'm due Dec. 5.
I'm just inviting family and close friends. It will be very similar to the guest lists for my bridal showers.
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I say have the shower when its most convenient for you, hosts, and as many guests as possible. We will be in our hometown the first week in September, so my sister is throwing it then. I'll be 26 weeks. Of course it is a different situation since we will be there anyway and it's a 15 hour drive.
May I suggest you ask her how many people she is prepared to host before you give her a list of invitees? This eliminates any awkwardness of you writing down 25, when she has the resources for 10 and then she either has to a) stretch to accommodate you, or b) have the conversation of "can you cut some of these people."
I think who you invite depends on your circles. In some circles it is common to invite lots of people, and in others it is common to invite just your 10 or so closest friends and family. My cousin is having a shower this summer so I think I will follow her lead with invites. Maybe you could ask your mom who in the family is normally invited to these get togethers?
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