When does it stop? My DD is 7, and she whines about everything known to man. This weekend I took her shopping with a good friend of mine, and her daughter. She whined about the music I was listening to, she whined about the place we chose to go eat, she whined about the food, and she whined when R got something, and she didn't. I'm about at the end of my rope with all of the whining, and Iam not sure where to go from here. DH works out of state, and is only home for about 2 wks at a time, so it is just me at home.
It's really not just the whining either, it is the constant complaining that is getting to me as well. DH and I took both kids on a short hike yesterday (2 miles), and she complained the ENTIRE time.
Is there a light at the end of my tunnel? Right now it is still looking pitch black
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Re: Moms of older girls (re whining)
I refuse to listen, respond or acknowledge until my kids speak to me in an appropriate tone and voice.
I remember my DD going through a whiny stage at around the end of 1st grade, going into 2nd grade. My son will be 7 in August, and he's getting pretty snarky.
My sister teaches elementary school art, and she says 2nd graders go through a snarky/whiny stage.
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I teach 3rd and my girls aren't whiny, but they complain and fight with each other alllll the time.
I took them outside today and after five minutes of being out, I had two girls complaining about being bored. Go play!
I miss the whining phase. Now, it is arguing. My 9 year old's sentences start with "No" or "Actually", to which she adds her oppositional opinion. She can argue about anything... math facts, history... you know, things that are facts and can be verified... she begs to differ.
If this may help you, I'll share our strategies to deal with whining...
1) TONE: I'm sorry. I have a hard time understanding you when you speak like that. Can you tell me again in *your happy voice* ? (I made the mistake of asking if she would speak to me in a normal voice... which made her more upset... because she misconstrued that as me saying that she was not normal).
2) GENERAL COMPLAINING: It sounds like you don't want to do this again. Let's do our best to enjoy today. In the future, you don't have to join us when we do XYZ.
3) APPRECITATION: We planned this event for you. We put a great deal of time and thought into it because we thought you would enjoy it. If you are not happy; then, we will not do this again.
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