suddenly grateful for MIL, but ticked at my mom! wth

s270453

So, my MIL has always drove me crazy, and my mom has been the one I get along with.....ok.   Well my MIL has decided to become way helpful and babysits the boys, randomly buys us some groceries, brings diapers over, buys some formula, etc.  I know how lucky we are to have that, but I  always thought it would be my mom helping me!  I guess what ticks me off is that she is keeping my niece for my brother like 4 days a week....including overnights!   Buys her clothes, diapers, wipes, evrerything she needs!  But if I ever just ask her to babysit for me for a day, she acts like im inconveniencing her!  WTF  BTW, my brother is the one that mooches off my parents(and everyone else) all the time....I have to work twice as hard for the things I have and he gets them handed to him! 

Anyway, I didnt mean for this to sound ungrateful or like im entitled to anything, so I hope it didnt come across that way.....    I guess I just thought my mom would be more helpful, i dunno.  I just really needed to vent that!

tehawryluk

I hear you girl! Exact same thing here... sure the babies arent here yet, but Oh my... My mother actually told me once, when I asked her to watch my boys that she has a life.

Okay thanks, apparently that does not include helping your family or spending time with Grandkids! I hope for your sake your mom comes around... I've given up hope on that in the last few years. LOL

lenoard_30

So sorry your mom isn't supporting you like you'd hoped, but at least your MIL is there for your family! My mom has a history of flaking out when it's important (she was "sick" on my wedding day and didn't even make it to the church until after we started taking pictures - I got ready with my bridesmaids and didn't even see my mom until we did family group pictures!) so I'm afraid that she'll do the same after our kids are born.

I hope that your relationship with her gets better and she realizes that she's missing out on important time with you and your family! And if she doesn't, then try to think positive and be grateful that someone with that kind of attitude won't be around your kids AND they still get to have a grandmother (your MIL) who spends time with them and cares about them!

mrssizemore

Wow! I so could have posted this myself! Wow, sorry you have this situation because I know EXACTLY how you feel! Why is it this way????