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35baby

I am having trouble naming my 1st child.  My boyfriend is not new to this couldn't care less.  In fact I know he is miserable about her coming into this world.  I am pretty much going it alone.  He is barely there to be dragged to the doctors with me when I have an appointment.  My question is will he get more on board with her arrival if I ask him pick out the name? Should I just pick one out myself? What in the heck would she be called anyway?  Stressed out and undecided. Welcome any opinions.

faeriequeeneonwow

Sorry to hear that your boyfriend is fighting about being in the picture. I would suggest picking a few names out yourself and then just asking his opinion closer to your due date. If he wants no say in the name, then leave it at that - there's no need to push him about it.

Let us know when you start thinking of specific names - after all, that's what we come to the board for

forensicmama

Wowie. He kind of sounds like a douche. I'm not so sure he'll get on board if he's not on board already. Forget about him - you have a gorgeous little girl coming! Hopefully he'll fall in love just as you have. I doubt his choosing the name will have any weight in his choice to care. If he comes around to that, that will be his choice. You could come up with a list of possible names and ask his opinion on it. I think he should have some sort of input if you two are together.

As for making a list of names...

Your mom's name.

His mom's name.

Names of grandmothers or significant figures in your lives.

Names you simply love.

Names from Nymbler.com or behindthename.com

 

Come back to this board as often as you want. We can help you sift through the good and the bad and the ugly. Good luck!

sugarpumpkin716

i'm sorry you have to deal with that. IMO anyone who gives you stress or grief doesn't deserve to be apart of the decision. that's just me though. sounds like he isn't supportive, so a decision like this should be yours. don't fret you'll find a great name.

TwoStrong

I just wanted to say that I am sorry that is happening to you. My thought is that you can share the names with him but go with what you love anyway. This name issue isn't the biggest problem you have with him and sorry to say, isn't likely the biggest problem you will have with him in the future. A name isn't going to help him stick around for her.

brookelynpaisley

Yikes. It sounds to me like he is generally disinterested in having another child, period, so I highly doubt that picking the name is going to cause a change in attitude.

I think you should name her what you want, because I'm sorry, but I don't think he sounds like he's going to be very involved in her life if he can barely be bothered to go to appointments with you now. And you definitely should give her your last name. What is your name style? Are there any names you like and maybe we could suggest others?

I think there are some serious red flags about your relationship with this man, and you should really do some thinking about whether or not you want to play happy family with him, if he even sticks around.

lesliekins

I am so sorry that your boyfriend isn't very supportive. Honestly, I would make a list of names you love and if you are feeling nice (and I wouldn't be...) then I would maybe let him help you pick from that list

LovestruckAJ

sugarpumpkin716:

i'm sorry you have to deal with that. IMO anyone who gives you stress or grief doesn't deserve to be apart of the decision. that's just me though. sounds like he isn't supportive, so a decision like this should be yours. don't fret you'll find a great name.

This! What a douche. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Make the decision for yourself.

zaramarie81

I am so sorry. I would choose the name if I were you. You have no control over whether or not your boyfriend will become the man you and your baby will need. He may or he may not, but you can't force it. Perhaps wait until she's closer to her due date, see if he expresses a desire to contribute to her name, but don't have any expectations either way.

35baby

Well I like the idea of naming her after grandma's.  I was thinking of putting a spin on his grandma's name (only cause her name was very religious and a lot to live up to) and my grandmother's name for a middle name.  Still not sure I want to type it out yet, but when I have decided on something will definetly share with you all.  Thanks for the feedback.  I still welcome any and all name suggestions.