Goooood morning!

momtwins19

so both babies STTN last night!! and they didnt wake up until 8:00 when DH was making all kinds of raquet before going to work. oh, speaking of which DH didnt get home till after midnight last night working, so we never got to talk. hopefully today we will. and i'll update on that. but this morning he was in a good mood, so hopefully no sparks will fly. anyway, had to post about the good news of LO's STTN!!! hopefully they will do this again tomorrow and from here on out.

RedWingsFan

I am glad that they STTN for you.

I hope you and your H can work things out, but it is not right or normal to have to walk around on eggshells with your partner.

momtwins19

i have hope that we can work this out. and i know it's not normal. i just thought he would "out grow" it, but tonight provided he can come home at a decent time, ill approach him on the subject again, and i have been researching how to control your anger in a healthy way, which i think will help a great deal, and than we can start working on why he feels he has to tie me to the house.

OrangeSmoke

Congrats on Sttn!

Hoping your dh will see the light and treat you in a way that a human being deserves to be treated.

RedWingsFan

momtwins19:

i have hope that we can work this out. and i know it's not normal. i just thought he would "out grow" it, but tonight provided he can come home at a decent time, ill approach him on the subject again, and i have been researching how to control your anger in a healthy way, which i think will help a great deal, and than we can start working on why he feels he has to tie me to the house.

Please be safe and keep us posted.

Do you have anyone nearby that you can call if something happens, or can you let someone know that you will be speaking with your H tonight and to check in on you?

Please be safe.

momtwins19

OrangeSmoke:

Congrats on Sttn!

Hoping your dh will see the light and treat you in a way that a human being deserves to be treated.

TY. on both. and im sure he will. he is a good guy deep down, he just has issues that need to be worked through, and i know he can do it if he tries. trust needs to be gained first

momtwins19

RedWingsFan:

momtwins19:

i have hope that we can work this out. and i know it's not normal. i just thought he would "out grow" it, but tonight provided he can come home at a decent time, ill approach him on the subject again, and i have been researching how to control your anger in a healthy way, which i think will help a great deal, and than we can start working on why he feels he has to tie me to the house.

Please be safe and keep us posted.

Do you have anyone nearby that you can call if something happens, or can you let someone know that you will be speaking with your H tonight and to check in on you?

Please be safe.

 

his parents are near by and his sister is even closer. but nothing is going to happen. when i talk to him, he doesnt blow up, he is very understanding. its the after we've spoken and something pisses him off when i get the "brunt" end of things. all will be well i assure you. but i will be safe

sunnybrook.

I think I missed an earlier post, but I think I get the gist of it. Please make sure you have a plan in place. Know who to call, how you will get there, have all the essentials you will need in case you need to flee in the diaper bag (assuming that won't set off any red flags if he looks in there), emergency contact numbers, etc.

Good luck and please keep us posted. 

fallbride110406

Maybe this just comes from being young (I think you said you were 20?) but people don't change just because you marry them. If he blows up on you over little stuff and controls your Internet usage, demands you get certain things done during the day, etc., he really isn't a good guy. Sorry, but you cant expect him to change, especially if he refuses or "gets pissed" when you bring up counseling that he obviously needs.

Look, I get the anger thing, my husband had a super short temper too. But that *** was addressed before we even got married. He had two options, see a counselor and get it under control or lose me. He went to a counselor the next day and is on medication now to control his anxiety that was spurring anger/frustration. There's no way in he'll I'd have brought kids into our relationship if he hadn't treated the source of his anger. it's completely unfair to them.

busybea

momtwins19:

RedWingsFan:

momtwins19:

i have hope that we can work this out. and i know it's not normal. i just thought he would "out grow" it, but tonight provided he can come home at a decent time, ill approach him on the subject again, and i have been researching how to control your anger in a healthy way, which i think will help a great deal, and than we can start working on why he feels he has to tie me to the house.

Please be safe and keep us posted.

Do you have anyone nearby that you can call if something happens, or can you let someone know that you will be speaking with your H tonight and to check in on you?

Please be safe.

 

his parents are near by and his sister is even closer. but nothing is going to happen. when i talk to him, he doesnt blow up, he is very understanding. its the after we've spoken and something pisses him off when i get the "brunt" end of things. all will be well i assure you. but i will be safe

do you have someone in YOUR family or a girlfriend nearby? Family is family and wether you like it or not, his family will stick by his side not yours.

momtwins19

busybea:

momtwins19:

RedWingsFan:

momtwins19:

i have hope that we can work this out. and i know it's not normal. i just thought he would "out grow" it, but tonight provided he can come home at a decent time, ill approach him on the subject again, and i have been researching how to control your anger in a healthy way, which i think will help a great deal, and than we can start working on why he feels he has to tie me to the house.

Please be safe and keep us posted.

Do you have anyone nearby that you can call if something happens, or can you let someone know that you will be speaking with your H tonight and to check in on you?

Please be safe.

 

his parents are near by and his sister is even closer. but nothing is going to happen. when i talk to him, he doesnt blow up, he is very understanding. its the after we've spoken and something pisses him off when i get the "brunt" end of things. all will be well i assure you. but i will be safe

do you have someone in YOUR family or a girlfriend nearby? Family is family and wether you like it or not, his family will stick by his side not yours.

 

my family is over 1,000 miles away an as for a girlfriend, i wish. if i had a girlfriend to hang out with, i wouldnt have time for this site (no offence to you ladies)  but he kinds burned every bridge in his family when he was a teenager and doing stupid sh** his mom always sticks up for me(she's his step mom) and tells him he's a jerk and an idiot and needs to treat me better and so on. so if i came to her and said i was scared of him, she herself would come with me and fly me back to my family. she has even said this to my face. so im not worried there. and his step sisters would help aswel. they have seen his temper. they know.