Auburn

LadyRed7

The entire Easter weekend was emotional. We were completely drained. They had a really hard time signing the surrenders. I said to my CW... "dear Lord, please don't let this be happening." They did want to see us afterwards. MH and I walked into the room and there she sat, eyes red and filled with tears. I lost it.  MH tried to make us laugh by asking what the blue booger eater was! 

I told her everything that i was feeling. That i wouldn't be a mom without her. That she is so incredibly strong and she and BF just gave us the most amazing gift. Leaving was even worse. We all (including CW) broke down at the elevator. I have incredible respect for these 2 young people. To make the decision that they made is beyond strength that i'm not even sure i have.

We have an open adoption with them. So far, it has been great. We keep in touch via text at this point. We will have 2x yr visits with them. 

AuburnBride06

I teared up again! It takes remarkable strength to do what they did. Our BPs are young too (17 and 19 when he was born). I remember hugging her in our hospital room and telling her that I couldn't love him any more than if he came out of me. They walked us down to the car and we just watched them hugging and crying as we drove away. Will never forget those images for the rest of my life. I'm actually texting back and forth with BM now.  

It is so draining! We were physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted. We were pretty confident in their decision, as they both signed before he was ever born and then BM had to sign again afterwards. But they made an adoption plan pretty early on. BF was pretty much a sure thing but BM didn't seem as likely, although her awful parents raked her over the coals for months about the adoption bc they were totally against it and she never wavered. But we were very nervous regardless and did not want to leave the baby at all during those two days in the hospital. We were blessed that we had him the entire time in a room with us.

I don't know if I could have endured a 30 day waiting period! OMG I think I would have went insane from all the anxiety. Here, it's 5 days after birth for no reason at all and then 14 days they have to petition the court for a reason.  Before those 5 days were up our attorney called us on an unrelated matter and my heart felt like it stopped, since we had already been home with him and all. I told her to never again call someone during those 5 days if nothing was wrong!

Well congrats again and welcome to mommyhood!