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Adoption
So...Future Mama's Who Are Still Waiting...
How are you?
How are you holding up through the wait?
Any updates?
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Re: So...Future Mama's Who Are Still Waiting...
Hi there! DH and I are holding up the best we can by preoccupying (sp?) ourselves with other things.
We've had a few potential situations in the last 3 months where our profile was shown, but we were not chosen (BUMMER!). We are just trying get the positive message out of why we were not chosen at that time. Frustrating, but this is our lesson in patience...to say the least!
GL to you!
This really is a lesson in patience...I agree! We've had no news since our failed match over 2 months ago and it's so frustrating at times because it's entirely out of my control.
I have a list of house projects to keep myself distracted. At least it feels good to be checking items off that list as time goes by.
How often do you all check in with your agency? And when you check in, what do you ask? I've been checking in once a month only to learn that our profile is being seen - we're just not being chosen
Hey how are you?
Im doing ok.
I am still trying to find a job so that keeps me pretty busy as well as my volunteer job duties.
We were told a week and a half ago that our file was going up for preliminary review. So now we wait........
Hi there! We are holding up alright. We are matched with a birthmom due in a little over 3.5 months and with our previous 2 failed adoptions at the beginning of the year we are just trying to take one day at a time and not think about it (impossible, right?!). To keep myself occupied I started the Couch 2 5 K program which has gone well so far.
artletzler- you asked how often did we check in with our agency...before we were matched I checked in once a week with them (I just couldn't help it! Plus, they already have half of our money from the previous failed adoptions so my consultant told me not to worry if I feel like I am bugging them). I would either send the adoptive parent coordinator an email or I would call to just say hey and keep my name on the top of their minds. I still check in once a week!
That is frustrating! I'm sorry.
DH and I have plenty to keep us distracted, but I can't seem to keep my mind of 'the call' even when I have other things to do! I'm glad you are finding ways to get through it.
I'm so sorry about your failed match. It must make the wait even harder.
We actually don't check in with our agency. Although, we've only been waiting three months. They are the kind of agency that doesn't let us know when we are being 'seen'. As frustrating as it is to wait, I almost like not having the ups and downs of being viewed, but not chosen.
Good luck!!
Today the wait is driving me nuts! We are matched and so close, but after our failed adoption I'm just scared to death about the coming weeks. Our profile literally hasn't been shown at our agency since December and we are pretty open to most situations. So, I know if this falls through we are going to have to look into other options which I do not want to do!
We only contacted our agency once since December and they basically responded with "We have no birthmoms" so I won't be contacting them again!
Our next appt with the birthmom is Wednesday and I'm hoping maybe we get a c-section date then! I think the wait after being matched is even worse than the wait to get matched!
Waiting just stinks!
Other than our emotional scammer a couple of months ago, we haven't had any contacts. Our agency has sent our profile out to expectant moms a few times each month and our website receives some traffic, but still nothing.
We're holding up okay, though! We have a big family trip/reunion planned to Myrtle Beach in July, so we are really looking forward to that. I'm a teacher and school just let out, so I'm giddy that it's summer time!
This! What's ironic is that our BM never once waivered on her decision to place DD with DH and I. I was the one who had all the emotional roller coaster moments. I was SO relieved when we got an induction date- I must have danced out of the doctor's office.
Here's wishing you a swift and easy wait, your BM an easy labor, and you and DH your forever family!
Sounds like we're all wavering between normal and crazy!
But I guess that's what this process does.
And yes, it will happen ONE DAY for each of us. Right?!
Sounds like we should all be well caught up on household projects when we are all finally matched!
My DH and I are buying a log house my grandpa built in the 1980s. We have been doing a lot of renovations to it to make it more contemporary (i.e. painting the horrid 70s paneling, new tile, etc.) It is taking a lot of my thinking time at the moment and I am very thankful for it! I am pretty sure I would be going insane if I didn't have a distraction right now. Especially since the end of the school year is in 9 more school days (but who is counting)!