If you have a toddler and then had twins...

mrssizemore

If you have a toddler and then had twins did it take a long time to get your "bond" back with your toddler?  My toddler is almost 20 months and had to become a daddy's boy the last few months of my twin pregnancy because I couldn't move or function very well so he got really attached to dad.  Well, now that the twins have arrived I really want that bond we had back.  It seems like he thinks the girls are "mine" and he is daddy's.  He is doing well with the girls, but really just ignores them for now. How did your young toddlers react:? Any advice or tips are greatly appreciated!

leviandlandensmom

My tot really bonded with his Dad when I was on bedrest and he still definitely prefers his Dad over me but he's starting to like me more

SpinningJess

Good question.  I worry about this a little, but my son is already a daddy's boy.  He HAS gotten more clingy with me the last few weeks, maybe he can tell I'm changing (growing haha) but I still do my best to play with him, even if it's from the couch.  He'll be 2 about 6 weeks after the girls get here.

Rangergal9

My older DD has always been very fond of her daddy, but he definitely played with her more and whatnot at the end.  I didn't really notice the bond go away at all or diminish.  I read lots of books with her, snuggled on the couch with her, colored, played with play-doh and other things both before and after the babies were born.  My DD loved her sisters from the start and wasn't really jealous.  Now she dances and sings to them, gives them toys and plays with them (or at least she thinks she is).  I am sure things will settle down.  I will say my DD was 21 months old when the twins were born and it is a huge difference from 21 months to 27 months where we are now.

camachogossage1

My daughter will be 2 and 4 months when my twins are due and I worry about losing that bond with her.  I get emotional thinking about it.  I will need to give her as much attention as I can and let her know she's still my princess.