Thrown for a loop: DH and I thinking about adoption!

EnglishMajor03 · May 2011

Even though DH and I have talked about fostering when the girls get older it never really occurred to me to adopt... but I guess we are definitely in the midst of the conversation! I really don't do well being pg and I have some serious PPD issues so this might be a good option for us.

Just on Thursday I ran into a friend who had a 6 week old. I was almost brought to tears with amazement- an amazement I didn't feel with my two because of all my anxiety and depression issues. I *want* that supposed new mom feeling. I *want* to be brought to tears because I love a child, not because I'm emotionally a mess and want to jump out a window.

I don't know that adoption would erase all issues and it'd be a bright, sunny, happy Sesame Street day, but it's something to think about and consider and I'm thrilled to have the conversation. That's all :P

Stacyc625 · May 2011

Awesomeness!

If you want to chat more about it- shoot me an email. DH and I really considered adoption and started the process when we were going through IF

EnglishMajor03 · May 2011

Thanks. I think I'll make a few phone calls tomorrow to local agencies to just hash out what we're really looking at for costs/wait times, etc. DH gets a small grant from work for adoption costs and he's going to look into that tomorrow. I have no idea where this will lead but I'm really excited to have the conversation.

Stacyc625 · May 2011

That is really exciting. There are a lot of emotions and decisions tied to adoption for sure. Keep us updated!

eaglesfan700 · May 2011

Wow, that is so exciting! Also, that is wonderful that your DH will get a grant towards adoption, what a great benefit

Best of luck in the process and I hope whatever you ultimately decide, it goes smoothly for you

JessesGirl&MackenziesMom · May 2011

WOW that is exciting! :-) Good luck with your research and discussions!

I hope that in the future you do get to experience the new mom feeling that you want! I would love to see an update after you look into this more and make some decisions.

naturelle25 · May 2011

That is amazing!!! Keep us updated:)

Notwifezilla7 · May 2011

This is something DH & I have talked about a lot and still through the idea around. While it is an expensive proposition, it is an amazing option to parent. GL!

spunkyprincessmande · May 2011

That is awesome! DH and I plan on adopting someday. We have friends who have adopted and are in the process of adopting their second. I think it is such a wonderful option and good for you for even considering it. Best of luck!

erstwhile+maven · May 2011

The Adoption board has some great ladies to support, find support from and to ask questions. The FAQ section is really helpful, too. We're planning to go the foster to adopt route.

manbearpig31610 · May 2011

Congrats! How exciting!! While I haven't personally been throught the adoption process I am adopted. I was less than a month old when my parents actually brought me home so I obviously have no memory of it but my mom kept really good records of the whole process and a (for lack of better word) journal-type thing. Looking through everything, as an adult, it seems like it was a difficult and long process but I know when you're holding your baby it will all be worth it. I'm sure in your search you will find better resources but if you ever have any questions please ask away. My parents have always been very open about the adoption and I can maybe answer questions from a different perspective.