WWYD in this case?

EliseB0323

I just found out through a friend that the wife of an old boyfriend has Stage 4 colon cancer. I feel horrible for the whole family. I don't know the wife, but I looked her up on FB, and the story is just heartbreaking. I run into the BF every once in awhile (we are talking every few years or so), but we haven't kept in touch. He is a very private person. Would you call or write a note, or would that be really awkward for everyone?

lollitots

I wouldn't do anything. It just feels wierd to reach out-of-the-blue to someone you haven't really kept in touch with. I know this sounds odd, but the wife may be wondering why you are reaching out to him now that she is dying. On the other hand, if you hear of her passing, I would send a sympathy card.

 

kelly&paul

Joyce+Mike:

I wouldn't do anything. It just feels wierd to reach out-of-the-blue to someone you haven't really kept in touch with. I know this sounds odd, but the wife may be wondering why you are reaching out to him now that she is dying. On the other hand, if you hear of her passing, I would send a sympathy card.

 

I was thinking pretty much the same thing. 

EliseB0323

kelly&paul:

Joyce+Mike:

I wouldn't do anything. It just feels wierd to reach out-of-the-blue to someone you haven't really kept in touch with. I know this sounds odd, but the wife may be wondering why you are reaching out to him now that she is dying. On the other hand, if you hear of her passing, I would send a sympathy card.

 

I was thinking pretty much the same thing. 

Yeah, this is what I was thinking too. But then I thought if the situation were reversed, I would appreciate hearing from him. But it would be weird.

brightning

Joyce+Mike:

I wouldn't do anything. It just feels wierd to reach out-of-the-blue to someone you haven't really kept in touch with. I know this sounds odd, but the wife may be wondering why you are reaching out to him now that she is dying. On the other hand, if you hear of her passing, I would send a sympathy card.

 

Ditto