2 Baby showers...WWYD?

Hoszowski

So I'm very appreciative that I'm having two baby showers (one which is a joint with another friend), but do I invite the some of the people from the joint baby shower to my personal one as well (and vice versa)? By no means do I want 2 gifts but I'd feel rude if I didn't at least invite them!

WWYD?

EastCoastBride

No, you don't invite them to both. 

alliapistor

I had this issue with our wedding showers.  Looking back now, I would invite your mother and your DH's mother to both showers and maybe any siblings.  Everyone else - pick 1 shower. 

BrendaLou1969

Invite them to ONE shower only. 

gigismomma

This depends on the person you are inviting.  I had three, not by choice but I had a work one, a MIL one and my mom threw me one.  It was overwhelming to be honest.  My BFF attended all three mostly because she was helping out but I told her not to buy anything for any of them that just her being there was enough.

If you are close to people I think they will get the picture one gift is enough. 

We had two ladies in the office pregnant at the same time...they had a joint baby shower and I received an invitation to their personal showers.  On the personal invitation it did not include where they were registered and basically said to come and "celebrate with friends and family".  I brought a side dish and wine with me not a baby gift.

krissy_messenger

alliapistor:

I had this issue with our wedding showers.  Looking back now, I would invite your mother and your DH's mother to both showers and maybe any siblings.  Everyone else - pick 1 shower. 

 

This is exactly what I was thinking and what we ended up doing because we had 2 showers as well.

mrsredmoose

alliapistor:

I had this issue with our wedding showers.  Looking back now, I would invite your mother and your DH's mother to both showers and maybe any siblings.  Everyone else - pick 1 shower. 

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RoxyLynn

Joint baby showers are touchy anyway - it's highly, highly unusual for someone to be equally close to both the guests of honor.  I'd invite very few to that one, and everyone else to the other one.

As a general rule the only people invited to more than one shower are the grandmothers-to-be.

christinaramirez08

I saw invite them to one shower only. I'm having 2 showers also. One for my close friends and family (only about 20 people) and the other, which will be coed, for my husband's friends and family - currently 30+ people and that's just the women so you still have to count S/O's and children. My DH's family always does big for baby showers so we'll have a jumper for the kids and it will be held at a local park.

UnicornBee

I am going to say it depends on the person. I am having multiple showers as well (if I could combine them I would but it is just not possible without lots of drama involved). I have a few friends that I am inviting to two of them. I contacted them about it and they are fine with it. One of the showers is in KY (I live in OH) and the other is at my house. The friends I contacted live 2 hrs from me in KY, and the shower in KY is closer to them than my house is. I also know them and that the other shower might fit their schedule and social circle better. When I contacted them about it, they said they have no issues with it, will pick the one that works best for them, and cannot wait to see me.

My mom and sis are being invited to the one in KY as well (they are throwing the one at my house) because I know my mom really wants to meet that side of the family. She helped me track them down for DH last year.

rhubarb123

Only invite people to one shower (except your mom and MIL).

Danac210

I'm having two showers. One hosted by my SIL and DH's aunts and one hosted by my godmother and friends. I'm inviting my Mom, my best friend (also baby's godmother) , MIL and SIL to both. I told them all I just want them, not multiple gifts. I especially want my best friend and Mom at my in law shower for moral support

Hoszowski

K thanks a lot, mom, sis and best friend will be invited to both but everyone else will just be the 1 shower!

weddingbells2010

I guess I'm going against the grain here, but I disagree- I think you can invite those that are close to you to as many showers as you want, but I would certainly tell them that there is no obligation to attend them all (or any of them), and I would certainly say that I'm inviting them to both for their company, and that I DO NOT want multiple gifts. I have two coworkers that I am good friends with who attended both my work shower and my "regular" shower, and they attended to have fun and be with me.  They brought a card to the second shower so as not to show up empty handed.

teachergal05

alliapistor:

I had this issue with our wedding showers.  Looking back now, I would invite your mother and your DH's mother to both showers and maybe any siblings.  Everyone else - pick 1 shower.