I am worried that I am being rude...

lily87

...and not sure what to do about it.

My DH recently made a new friend who invited us to dinner tonight at his house with his wife. 

Anyone who reads my posts knows, that food is still pretty much impossible for me. I still have m/s, and I have a very limited diet. Throw on the UTI and antibiotics from this week and really I just feel like crap. It isn't a situation where I can just eat something to be polite. If I eat something, there is a good likelihood I will throw up immediately in their house which would be embarrassing.

Anyway, I told him all we could do is be honest. Tell them that I am on meds for it and that everyone should eat without me. I didn't want his wife going to a lot of trouble trying to accommodate me, when there are just no guarantees. But, now, as the time is approaching, I just feel really rude about the whole thing. To make matters worse, they are from a different culture so I am not sure if what I am doing is culturally offensive on top of it! Ugh.

I just really don't want to offend these people, and I am getting worried that this whole encounter will be uncomfortable. Has anyone else had to deal with this kind of thing? I mean, I just feel like a pain in the butt- but what else could I do?

GVSU-04

I don't think you're being rude... I'd rather sit there and enjoy the conversation rather than be in the bathroom vomiting.  I would think they would understand- morning sickness crosses cultures, KWIM?

PurplePanda83

Honesty is the best policy. I think since you are telling them ahead of time that you won't be eating because you will likely get sick (no matter what the meal) that you are showing you are trying to not be rude by eating and then running to the bathroom to throw it up.  I'm sure they'll understand.

ohsaysaysay

I'm in the same boat as you, still have morning sickness and UTI meds to boot!  I've been avoiding many social outings because i'm just too embarassed.  I'm sure if you bring it up ahead of time they'll be understanding!

kc10408

We were invited out by my in-laws weeks ago when food was still a problem for me (I nausea but mostly it was just my tastes had changed so much I just couldnt eat just anything, especially the barabecque they invited us to) I felt bad to say no to them especially when they never ask us out but you have to do what makes you the most comfortable.