Rough day to be a twin mom (but my boys are still effin awesome)

daisybride78

Don't get me wrong, my twin boys are effin' awesome, but man, today has been rough. I just feel like NO ONE (except for you gals) understands how hard it is to be home all day by myself with 16 month old twins, especially while being pregnant, tired and ridiculously hormonal.

My sister came to visit today with her 3 and 5 year old and we all met my mom at a huge, fun park. I was so excited and was looking forward to it all day because I would have HELP at the PARK!!! We go to a small tot lot by ourselves occasionally, and while the boys have a fantastic time, I am usually a nervous wreck, running around trying to watch and wrangle both boys. Well, we get there, and my mom (who had been watching our crazy dog) brought the dog with her. There was a huge sign that said no dogs allowed. So we put him in the car and of course he just barked his head off.  So I said I would take him to the big grassy field and run him around so that he could get some exercise and then go back in the car. I took Joey with me since he was being clingy and asked my mom and sister to please watch Henry. Well, two minutes later, Henry is running down the field towards Joey and I. I waited for someone to come get him or come help me, but they didn't. So I was in the middle of a huge field with 2 boys running in opposite directions and a crazy dog. They started running towards a small ditch and while I was running after them, I slipped and fell and got all muddy. While I didn't hurt myself, I was furious that I was left by myself with the dog and both babies. I picked up both boys and wrapped the leash around my hand and stormed towards the car. My mom and sister were like, "what's wrong?" I could barely get out how mad I was without crying.

Maybe I was over reacting, but it's just so hard to do it by myself all day, 5 days a week and then when I think I am going to get some help, but don't, it's just so disappointing.  

*sigh* thanks for letting me vent.

1G2Bmommy

I have those days ALL.THE.TIME!!! While I have gotten pretty use to taking my 20mth old boys to the mall, grocery store, doc appts, etc. alone, it sure would be nice once in a while for someone to offer to either 1. watch them so I can do what I need to do, or 2. offer to go with me for help.

I can't imagine taking them to the park by myself. It's hard enough to take them outside to play in the yard by myself without them running in 2 different directions and chasing after them both.

missfire

I hope you told them that! I know how you feel - every time our babysitter cancels on me, I'm in tears. I wait all week long to have a few hours where I don't have to listen to crying, where I can get out of the house without a huge bag, stroller and two crying babies, or can just be a PERSON. And to then be told I have to wait another week before I get even a tiny break, it's a big disappointment.

mlkwmu

I'm right there with you!  Last weekend we were at my niece's confirmation.  My husband was her sponser and had to sit up in the church with her and be there early.  While other members of my family were supposed to be right behind me in another car.... they sat around doing miscellaneous things so when I got to the church I had to carry my DD in her carseat carrier, my DS in my arms and the diaper bag into the church from the back of the parking lot. There was absolutely no way they were going to make it in church so I sat in the cry room.  When my family got there, they proceeded in going straight into the church leaving me in the cry room.  Needless to say, my DS had no want to sit still for an hour and 15 minutes service so I ended up heading back to the car with the both of them once again (after some crying and throwing of toys) and text my husband that we'd be in the car waiting for him.

I was so frustrated by the end of the day :-x

leviandlandensmom

I'm so sorry I can imagine how frustrated and hurt you felt.

SpinningJess

  "while pregnant"  I have NO clue how you are doing it all, other than your Wonder Woman powers.  I only have one 18 month old at home, pregnant with twins and I can hardly keep up with him.  Carrying him for any distance is out of the question.  Could. Not. Imagine. trying to keep up with two.

Hugs to you, this too shall pass!!

(Oh and yes you have the right to be upset, you asked them to watch one of your kids and they didn't!)

amanda31H

I could picture myself in that scenario in a second and would have reacted the same way! 

My BF called me today in tears because she was having a "bad Mom" day.   They happen, and they suck.  I totally get needing to let it out because, girl, it's really really hard sometimes.

jamie217

I would have been the same way, I can't even image how I would have acted if I were pg and hormonal on top of it!  My Mom went with us to see the Easter bunny and to "help" and was so helpless, the whole time I was wishing I had H with me instead.  I people THINK they get it, but they don't...my Dad once told me that he thought that taking care of twins was "a little bit harder than taking care of one baby"...I wanted to smack him!  Now he watches the girls one day a week and those words have come back to haunt him! 

Your doing an AWESOME job! 

janjag

I could cry reading this.  No, you're not overreacting, IMO.  No one really understands... even my MIL who had twins is no help to me

I'd completely stopped doing things like tot lots and story time, or errands in general by the end of 2T.  My OB wanted me to take it easy, but also I just had a hard time lifting and carrying and chasing my girls.  It is OK if you let go of doing things, as you feel necessary!