Where should I go, what should I do?

msBlackandGold

I kinda think I need to change doctors. I shouldn't be this weary of calling mine and feeling like I'm being a bother. I just had my early u/s Tuesday (6w4d--measured 6w2d) and everything looked fine. Found LO fetal pole and hb at 129. I am on progesterone suppositories 2x daily, baby asprin and I take my prenatal v daily.

I have been shying away from BD with DH since BFP. But gave in after the u/s (it was transvaginal, and he figured if I can do that...then......

Well, this morning I woke up with brown discharge . And I'm cramping . My first miscarriage started off with the brown discharge and continued like a VERY long period. The second miscarriage was a missed miscarriage, but carried the baby until it passed naturally (again, it started with brown discharge and went on to be....well, not like a period).

I want to call my dr and see if they will check things again. But I'm sure I will be told by his nurse that the brown discharge is common and that I should only be concerned if the blood turns red. (I called earlier in the pg b/c I didn't have prego symptoms and wanted my beta checked--the nurse didn't seem pleased that I was requesting extra testing when I was scheduled to come in for the u/s a couple weeks later).

This really doesn't count as an "emergency" so couldn't go to the ER. There are clinics I could go to, but I don't know if they offer u/s especially if they offer transvaginal. And I'd have to pay to go to those (though it would be worth it to know how my baby is doing).

I really wish I felt like my dr's nurse cared about my nerves and why I would feel the way I do! And I wouldn't feel like a bother when I call with concerns.

bryanandkatrina

I was in a similar situation with my last OB and their practice.

Not only did they handle my m/c horribly, but they were just all around inconsiderate and rude. I would never wish that on anyone.

Needless to say, I switched practices asap and am soooooo happy I did so! My new OB and practice are amazing - they're all so very nice and accommodating, they're understanding and compassionate... it's a huge change from what I was used to.

If you're truly unhappy, I say get some recommendations for your area and start looking. There's no reason to be scared to call your own physician.

nekillo

 

Wow, I'm sorry your nurse is such a b*tch.  I'm seeing a new OB this time around and when I called to book my first appt they told me that with my hx of a loss (just one) to call them with ANY spotting whatsoever. 

I would say at this point, think about what they would recommend you to do. Is there any way you could put yourself on bedrest for 24 hrs?  keep your feet up and relax and see if the spotting stops? 

It could be from BDing, it could be from the u/s, but because of what my OB said, I would call at least to let them know.  If you have to, break down in tears on the phone with the nurse.  I hate it when ppl are insensitive to our worry and anxiety.  To a pgal mom, there are no puppies and rainbows in pregnancy!  Don't tell us that brown spotting is normal because we know it isn't always.

 

Good luck, sending sticky dust your way! 

Hugs!

 

Good lu

FmrAFBrat

bryanandkatrina:

I was in a similar situation with my last OB and their practice.

Not only did they handle my m/c horribly, but they were just all around inconsiderate and rude. I would never wish that on anyone.

Needless to say, I switched practices asap and am soooooo happy I did so! My new OB and practice are amazing - they're all so very nice and accommodating, they're understanding and compassionate... it's a huge change from what I was used to.

If you're truly unhappy, I say get some recommendations for your area and start looking. There's no reason to be scared to call your own physician.

This. After all the things that went wrong (& were ignored) with my first pregnancy I met with several offices before I found my current doctor. You deserve to be treated differently.

vlewis515

bryanandkatrina:

I was in a similar situation with my last OB and their practice.

Not only did they handle my m/c horribly, but they were just all around inconsiderate and rude. I would never wish that on anyone.

Needless to say, I switched practices asap and am soooooo happy I did so! My new OB and practice are amazing - they're all so very nice and accommodating, they're understanding and compassionate... it's a huge change from what I was used to.

If you're truly unhappy, I say get some recommendations for your area and start looking. There's no reason to be scared to call your own physician.

I agree, I had a horrible experience with my first ob and they handled my m/c horribly also. I switched at 27 weeks and never looked back, I love my new doctor and her nurses and staff are amazing!

As far as now, both the u/s on Tues and the sex could have irritated your cervix a little and caused you to spot. Happened to me a few times in 1st tri (but I did have bright red spotting) and each time the ob looked she said my cervix was red and inflamed but closed. So I think you should insist on having your doctor take a look for your own piece of mind and if they refuse...find a new doctor!

StephK86

I agree, you have to change if you are feeling uncomfortable there. Take it from me with my 1st pregnancy I went to an office I thought was a good place. I should have noticed that some things weren't right and I wasn't getting the best care. It was my first pregnancy though and I thought because the doctor I seen was always happy and encouraging that everything was fine.

I was having severe pains at around seven and a half months and was there for my regular check up. I told the doctor I seen that day and she totally ignored me. I kept telling her "I think these are labor pains, should I stop working?" (I worked on me feet at the time) She basically said wait until I seen my regular OB who was on vacation until next week and if I went into labor then to come to the hospital. Sure enough I went into labor. I had a terrible delivery with these people. I regret not leaving but I really didn't know.

You HAVE to be your own advocate and if you think you are being treated unfairly and your worries are ignored leave! I hope you find a doctor who will more understanding with you. Sorry you are going through all of this. Good luck.

ravenorchid

((Hugs)) I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I'm lucky that my OB has been concerned and cautious this whole pregnancy - I've been going for u/s every two weeks since the start and she'll always see me an extra time if I have any spotting or concerns. If your doctor isn't taking your concerns seriously, I think it might be a good idea to look for someone else.

ColleenS629

I''m sorry you're going through this. If you're not comfortable with your OB, I'd get recommendations for a new one/

haziedaze

I would keep looking until you find an office that you feel listens to you and responds to your fears.

I had pink/brown spotting with this pregnancy that looked just like it did with my BO. I was freaked! It past and everything is fine so far. I would work with the Dr's office until you get the reassurance you need, but I bet the spotting is from sex/the ultrasound.

Hang in there! ((HUGE HUGS))

Junebug060609

If you feel like you should call, call.  They are getting paid to give a damn.  If they aren't giving a damn, then yes, you should look elsewhere.  FWIW, most doctors want to know if there is bleeding...even if its a little.  Also FWIW, spotting post intercourse isn't uncommon (I had it too).  The cramping you mention is actually more worrisome to me than the brown spotting to me (I never had that with the spotting I had).  Definitely mention the cramping when you call as well as your history.

You aren't alone in debating whether to switch care.  I am too.  Different reasons, but ultimately it comes down to we both don't feel comfortable where we're at.