Pregnant after IF

Outed Myself At Work

A really nosy woman I work with actually asked me if I was pg 2 days ago!  I guess in certain things you can see a bit of a bump.  So, I figured I had to tell my boss at least.  He was on vacation and I just told him and his boss this morning. 

I was so nervous telling them - not b/c I'm afraid of any career reprecussions but just b/c it makes me nervous to tell people.  I was less nervous about it last week when we told friends b/c we had just had a Dr. appt. and heard the heartbeat.  Now it's been a week since that appt. so it makes me nervous...

TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN :(
IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
Lap 7/21/10
IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!


James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!

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Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!

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Re: Outed Myself At Work

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    I had a client ask I figured it was time to tell my work as well :)
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    I completely understand.  It was hard for me not to keep my pregnancy a secret, because everyone knew at work that I was going through IVF.  I work in a pretty small office, so taking off that much time caught people's attention and they figured it out.  Just try to relax, and everything will work out!  I am 31 weeks now, and I still get nervous making any plans for the baby!!! I scheduled my baby showers immediately after a doctor's appointment, just so that I would have the peace of mind that the baby was fine the day before.  My husband calls it paranoia, but I honestly can't help it.

    TTC since Fall of 2007

    IUI #1 April 2009-BFN, IUI #2 May 2009-BFN

    BFP July 6, 2009-Miscarriage July 9,2009-Chemical Pregnancy

    IUI #3 May 2010-BFN, IUI #4 June 2010-BFN

    IVF #1 October 2010-2 embryos transferred on Day 3-BFP!!!

    Elijah Gage Born July 7, 2011!!!

    FET-April 19, BFP!!!

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    etoyamaetoyama member
    Congrats on coming out at work!
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    I found that once the secret was out, its easier to get excited about being pregnant.  Congrats on coming out!
    TTC Child #1 Sept '08, Dx: Unexplained, DOR 2 IUI's = BFN, m/c, IVF 1 = 0 embies to put back, IVF 2 = BFN, IVF 3 = cancelled, IVF 4 = BFP with 1 embie. Our son came into our life on 9/28/11. We are in love! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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    How rude of her to ask you that!
    m/c 7/17/10
    Dx: MFI- 3% morph
    IUIs: Gonal-F + Ovidrel + b2b IUI= BFNs
    IVF with ICSI= BFP! EDD 11/25/11
    3/18- Beta #1 452! 3/20- Beta #2 1,026!! 3/27- First u/s- TWINS!
    Our twin boys arrived at 36w5d due to IUGR and a growth discordance

    FET: Medicated FET moved up to 5/23 due to ovulation
    Transferred a 6BB hatched blastocyst- genetically normal female embryo
    BFP! 5/28- 5dp6dt      
    6/1 Beta #1- 223! 6/3 Beta #2- 567!


    Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
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    My boss and coworkers (there are only 4 of us total in the lab, including my boss) knew I was doing treatments so they knew about when I would be expecting to know if it worked or not.  I told my female coworker the morning after I got my first positive HPT at home the night before... but waited to tell my boss until I got my positive beta.  I told my male coworker after we saw the heartbeat at my 6w u/s... it was also my birthday that day and we were all going out for lunch so it made sense. 

    I waited to tell my HR rep until I was out of first tri just to let her know in case I needed to fill out paperwork, etc.  People from other labs in our same Center are starting to notice and find out, but I didn't make a big announcement and don't plan to.  When I get farther along, it will travel through the grapevine on its own.  :)

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    congrats on coming out!!! i felt so liberated after i came out!
    ::PAIF/SAIF Welcome::

    TTC since July 2008
    IUI 1,2,3 BFN
    IVF #1 C/P, FET 1,2,3 BFN
    IVF#2 BFP

    it's a girl!!

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    JenCWJenCW member

    Happy coming out day!

    As hard as it is to start telling people, at some point they're going to find out!  It's hard to hide a bump forever. : ) 

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    jcathjcath member
    I think it's great - we shouldn't be prisoners of our fear forever.
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    I can't believe people ask that. But it sounds like it went well with your bosses. Congrats on coming out!
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    I totally feel the same way, it just makes me nervous to start telling people.  It was ok to keep it within my inner circle of close family and friends.  But now starting to tell work and the rest of the family (like aunts and uncles) is a little bit scary.  I don't have another appt until next Friday, I think I need a weekly check-in just to be sure!!! :)
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