Both are my age and we've all been married for around the same time. One is having her second, the other is pregnant for the first time but having TWINS!!!! (emphasis, my MIL's not mine. This from the same woman who thought that telling me about how she read the book "Heaven is for Real" and believed that I would meet the babies I lost in heaven as if that would be some sort of bizarre consolation. After receiving said text, I promptly got up from my desk at work, walked into a bathroom stall and burst into tears where I proceeded to cry for approximately one consecutive hour. Every time I think I'm making some sort of emotional progress, something like this happens....or I have another miscarriage.
I finally caved and started researching therapists near my office in DC. This board has been so helpful to me during the past year, but IRL I have no one. My husband has been as supportive as he knows how to be, but he doesn't really understand. Every single person I know seems to be able to have healthy babies on a whim, whether they want one or not. I'm just so tired of feeling like I'm in this by myself.
Re: My MIL thought it would be appropriate to text me about DH's Two newly-pregnant cousins...
BFP 2.19.11 - Missed miscarriage, April 2011
I can totally relate to this post. You are definitely not alone. I don't understand what is with the multiples announcements lately and why people think we are appropriate people to tell personally.
I'm so sorry she did that. People do not understand how hurtful it is to hear about yet ANOTHER happily pregnant person. My DH's step-mom did the same thing to us (she told us about my DH's cousin's pregnancy the day after our D&C....yeah, thanks).
I'm glad you're seeking help from a therapist. No shame in that...I have my first appt. this Saturday. I too feel like I have no one IRL because my BFF is pregnant (she's due 3 weeks after I would have been) and my DH doesn't understand why I'm still "wallowing" and not "over this by now". It's only been two weeks since we learned the baby died, but he's "over it" and is actually angry at me that I'm not. Sigh...
Anyway, this post is about you, not me. I'm very glad you're looking into getting more support. I really hope it's helpful for you. In the meantime, be kind to yourself and know that you have us.
Endometriosis, s/p lap 2009
Behcet's disease, s/p partial vulvectomy 2010
Started bromocriptine to lower prolactin level 2010
Clear HSG 11/2010
DH morphology = 4, rest of SA looked good 01/2011
02/2011 First Clomid 50mg cycle
BFP 03/02/2011
No heartbeat at 10w5d 04/18/2011; D&C 04/23/2011
07/2011 Second Clomid 50mg cycle, BFN
08/2011 Third Clomid 50mg cycle, BFN
10/2011 First Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = BFN
11/2011 Second Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = BFN
12/2011 Third Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = BFFN
01/2012 Fourth Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = ?