Did you ever think you couldn't conceive?
A backstory to my question:
I was with my ex husband for 11 years. We tried, but we were never able to conceive. I went to a infertility doctor one time because I thought something was up. He comes from a very fertile family, he was the only one that hadn't had kids yet. After the consultation with the infertility doctor I never went back.
In January of 2010 my ex husband got his new girlfriend (now wife) pregnant. I thought for sure that I had been the infertile one in our relationship. After my divorce I got on BCP to regulate my periods; they had been irregular for years and my doctor recommended the pill.
Fast forward to March 2010. I stopped taking the pill (due to the certain ones I was taking making me really moody) that month. I was with my fiance (now DH) and didn't think I could get pregnant anyway, so I didn't go back on the pill. I ended up conceiving in November 2010. I was shocked. I didn't think I could conceive.
So my questions for you ladies are:
Were you suprised to find out you were pregnant? Did you think that you could not conceive? Were you with someone and not get pregnant only to be with someone new and get pregnant?
Re: Did you ever think you couldn't conceive?
I was kind of in the same boat. My DH and I have been together for 10 years, married for 3. After we got married, I went off BC because I hated how it made me feel. (I was on Depo, it sucked).
After I started getting my period again, it was super irregular. I spent a few years off BC, and although we weren't trying per se, we never got pregnant.
I figured we would have problems conceiving because of it. We started trying in September of last year and we also conceived in November. I think what did it for us was in October I tracked my BBT, and just listened to my body vs. counting days after my last period.
It worked! I'm glad we had a fairly easy time of it. It was quite a relief.
Me and my DH ( fiance at the time) werent even trying. I wasnt on BC because the insurance i had was ridiculous. He had just come home from deployment. According to my conception date, it he was only home a few weeks and it It just happened.....but it certainly is a pleasant surprise
I had this same issue but I went off of depo as soon as we were engaged because we were told it could take up to a year to get pregnant. Well it took closer to three years, I was starting to think that I wasn't meant to be a mom. I almost gave up and I guess it just happened. DH was actually the one that told me I was pregnant... I didn't think there was any way it was possible because of our past difficulty. For us the "stop trying it will happen" excuse worked.
I'm a huge believer in everything happening for a reason! The right thing will happen at the right time with the right person because it was meant to be.
I was with my ex for 5 1/2 years. He got his last 2 exes before me pregnant, one conceived twice. He never had any children though, one had an abortion and the other two were miscarried. I was on and off birth control (mostly off) for 5 years and never once even had a scare. With his track record, I was beginning to wonder if there was something wrong with me. After we separated, I met the man of my dreams. I knew he was my soulmate when we first met. I was taking birth control regularly and managed to get pregnant just 6 months into our relationship. It was a little scary at first but we quickly realized what a miracle it was. Call me ignorant if I still believe that babies come from true love!
My uterine lining wouldn't thicken up on its own. With the help of medication I became pregnant with my ds. I had him this past October. I am now pregnant with baby #2 ALSO due in October. This was not a planned pregnancy and I didn't think I could stay pregnant on my own. That's what I get for thinking...
I had two miscarriages before this pregnancy, and didn't even have the money to pay for doctors who would try to figure out what the problem is. On top of that I discovered that because of a rare illness that I have, there are a lot of risks being pregnant with the illness. Some doc's won't even work with you if you are pregnant with the illness because it's so risky.
So, when I finally made it to the 2nd tri, my illness has entered remission, and baby is perfectly healthy. I am blown away & feel so blessed. My son will be called Tobias, which means "God is good" :-)
i had no problems whatsoever conceiving DS and DS # 2. but when it came time to start TTC again we could not get pg. My body started doing weird things after i'd O, like YI's every single month. Not fun! eventually we went to an RE b/c i had my FSH levels tested and it was 15.6. I did some research and found this level to be horrible! I thought the only way we'd be able to conceive was through IVF if that.
Luckily i had my FSH checked again and it was only 7. something. and my AMH was in normal range. We did one round of IUI w/ injectibles and here we are. I went from thinking i'd never be able to conceive again to being pg. w/ our first try w/ the RE.
I hope i never have to think about TTC again b/c it was the most stressful 2-3yrs of my life, from losing my 2nd DS, to having a missed m/c to then not being able to conceive for months, to what seemed like a doomsday FSH level, to pregnancy. CRAZY!
We decided to start trying 1 year after getting married, since we were both already 32 and didn't want to wait too long. I had started taking prenatals more than a year before our wedding and was taking a DHA supplement as well. I thought it would be really easy to get pregnant. I talk to my doctor and she thought it would go fine. So we started really trying, I was doing OPKs every month and we were having sex every other day until I got my periods. I knew I was having 32/33 day cycles with O happening on 21st day.
It was totally exhausting and after 5 months of not getting pregnant (and what seemed like everyone around me getting pregnant) I was starting to get worried. At 8 months of trying I had my annual exam and we talked to the doctor about infertility. And checked me out during my annual and said everything looked fine. She recommended a blood test to confirm ovulation and then an HRT. She also ordered a sperm count test for my DH.
I got my blood test and it was positive for ovulation. DH went on a Tuesday to get his test done, which he was not too happy about.
The next morning I woke up and thought 'jeeze my period should be here by now" I went to my planner and started counting, sure enough my period should have been here on Sunday and now it was Wednesday! I counted about 10 times, just to make sure! I then went to take a test and it POPPED PREGNANT! I was amazed and called to cancel my HRT that day! I called and made a blood test confirmation appt with my doc and my 8 week appointment. It was pretty amazing!
I went through years of treatment...5 IVFs and 5 losses.
We adopted our DD and then became the sterotype with DS...and now again....I seriously think my body was just waiting untill we had her since she was meant to be ours.
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I've always had irregular periods, and I dont' know why, but I never tied it to future fertility issues. When we tried to conceive DD it took us awhile, but we got pregnant, were ecstatic, and had her. Then we began trying for number 2. Roughly a year in, I went in to get checked out. Based on my cycles, and my lack of ovulation, my OB said it would be difficult for me to get pregnant again on my own and prescribed clomid. DH and I were discussing pros and cons and trying to figure out if one LO was ok with us. Anyway, while waiting to start clomid (had to wait for my AF to start) it never did...I was pregnant. My OB was schocked. We are once again ecstatic. So to your question...yes, I thought I wouldn't be able to have another LO, but it's been the same me and DH both times.
I thought I was going to be super fertile!
It took 3 years miscarriages and thousands of dollars to get pregnant with DS.
It took 2.5 years and more money to get pregnant with this baby.
I have the opposite situation you have!
Congratulations to you!!! So glad this worked out for you
My dad was is this similar situation. I guess he & his first wife thought that they couldn't have biological children, so they adopted my oldest sister. Then, surprise, they were pregnant with their first born. I guess it was just meant to be. The Lord works in mysterious ways.
Yes! I was with my ex for 9 years 2 of which we tried to get pregnant. Went to RE and did everything frome clomid to IVF with no luck. We split up in 2005.
I have been with my fiance for 5 years now and last feb we found out i was 15 weeks pregnant. I was VERY surprised! Unfortunatly that pregnancy ended in miscarriage the same week I found out. A year to the day of my miscarriage I found out I am pregnant again! Prepared this time tho! All is well so far!
I definitely had the impression that it would be difficult for us. Neither of us are very healthy (I'm chubby, and FI is a smoker), I've had a ovarian cysts in the past, as well as a history of unexplained hemorrhaging during periods (which has put me in the ER before). I had this mindset of being in it for the long haul, and was shocked when we got our BFP after 4 months of trying. We're very grateful.