friend opinion just made me want to say "shhh"
I finally told my friend today that I am pregnant. we were out for lunch. I also mentioned that we had to have an amnio due to our poor NT scan results.
her reply, "that;s why I didnt tell anyone until all the results were back" (um, thanks. I was hoping to tell my friends to get some support. But I guess, you are suggesting I jinxed myself by telling people? there is no such thing as jinxing. The baby is in there, if he has down syndrome, I cant change it through prayer, etc)
Then I mentioned later on that I was going to go to the maternity store today for the first time for some new pants. She said "you dont need them yet. You wont show til 5 months" I replied that even though today I am not that huge, a lot of days, I feel like my clothes are too tight. And doesnt she realize that we all show at different times. Thanks for making me feel like a fatso!
Re: friend opinion just made me want to say "shhh"
Geez, that was not very nice of her to say.
Sorry you had to listen to that!
Wow, shocking for someone that's been pg before!
Since it appears that I am never getting my NT scan results, I guess I should just never announce? haha. Not like my growing belly will give it away or anything! Sorry you had to deal with that!
Luckily my other friend was there that was with me last week when I couldnt stop crying so she was quick to jump in and reassure me again. And luckily, I am now in a very optimistic place so I was able to explain that my odds are pretty good. But isnt that what she is supposed to do?
her sister (who she thinks is Godlike) is also pregnant. she is 2 months ahead of me. I remember 2 months ago, when I first found out, that she was so proud that her sister was sporting a little bump. Also, our other friend that was there started showing very early - way to make her feel bad too.
I think sometimes friends/family just don't think about what they say before they say it. A friend of mine judged me for the order in which I told people. She was upset with me for telling my best friend before I told my parents, but my best friend lives 400 miles away so I knew I didn't have to worry about her spilling the beans when I really needed to tell someone.
Some people just think they need to give an opinion on everything and cannot just be supportive. It's sad, but true.
On a completely side note - if you have a Thyme Maternity near you, check it out - yes, their stuff is normally pretty pricey, but they've marked down a number of their pants from $60 to $20. I got two great pairs of work pants for $20 each the other day.
"God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it" 1 Corinthians 10:13