I have done a lot of lurking here and have gotten some advice. I am looking for some more. DH and I have been dealing with BM for a while now. Last Jan they were in court and had a CO finalized. She has been good about a lot, but has attempted to have DH pay her for 1/2 of medical bills for SD that have actually never been paid. DH has gone to the Dr, dentist, and eye dr and have spoken to the billing dept and told them he would be in to pay his half directly to them after every appt. 2 months ago BM was yelling saying DH owes her $110 for a dentist appt that she had already paid. He asked her for a copy of the bill and then he would pay her. After some investigation it turned out that DH had already paid his half and the 110 was what she owed them and turned out she had bounced that check. We got a collection notice because all SD medical stuff is in his name. So rather than the headache of dealing with BM we paid it and just kept all the records just in case.
Last week we got a notice sent home from school saying that SD could no longer recieve hot lunches at school because she had a -$20 balance at the caf and a number of noticed had been sent to her mother's address and nothing was done.
Today DH got a message from BM asking if he was picking SD up from school or were her parents. He thought for a second that something was up because since September SD has gone to this after school program 3 days a week. He was heading to the school to get her and hit traffic so he called school to send her to the afterschool program so she wasnt waiting for him alone. The school had said she was no longer enrolled in the afterschool program and he would have to call them. So he called them. He found out that SD was kicked out of the program because BM owed over 3 months. It is in the CO that DH does not pay for the afterschool program because it was calculated into the support. And in the CO it stated that in Sept 2010 BM was to get a full time/part time job where she could work mothers hours. However she has kept he waitressing job where she works some day and mostly nights ( not knocking the waitressing...i have been doing it for 8 yrs but I only work on Sunday when DH is home)
DH called me so pissed off. I feel embarassed for him, but luckly everyone at the program understands the situation. I guess I am wondering if we had enough proof to go back to court for full custody. TIA for all and any advice!