Please tell me I still have a chance :(

Perisky

My due date is May 1st...I am 50% effaced and 1 cm dilated...Dr. Says if I dont go on my own within a week past my due date, they will most likely do a c-section...I am so disappointed and scared that I will have to go through another c-section, but this time with my toddler.  I have another appt. on Monday and I assume if I havent gone into labor, they will schedule the c-section. I will be a wreck. I know it doesnt  matter as long as baby is healthy, but I am still so sad. 

holly321

Is your ob willing to try stripping your membranes?

Lisa and Mickey

Perisky:

I know it doesnt  matter as long as baby is healthy, but I am still so sad. 

It does matter. You have every right to feel the way you do. Of course you want the baby to be healthy, that's a given. You would also like to not have major surgery and then have to care for a toddler and a new born. That is totally understandable even if there are people who don't understand it.

You still have plenty of time- labor can happen in a instant. Hang in there!

Brownie_222

(hugs)

I also agree it matters.  Is your OB willing to work with you and give you a few more days or even to 42 weeks before doing a c-section?  Some babies just aren't born before/at 40 weeks.  Totally normal!  I would ask the OB about having a few more days past 41 weeks and if the OB is reluctant, perhaps you could suggest you'd come in every couple days for an NST? 

I would resist scheduling at all costs, simply because of the emotional component to having a date on the books.  They can work you in if you really need one.  Try to stay positive!  You can do this!

What sorts of natural induction methods have you been trying so far?  Keep us posted. 

papagena

You still have time!  I went into labor on my own 5 hours before I was supposed to arrive at the hospital for my induction. 

Ditto pp - can you try stripping membranes, reflexology or accupuncture?  I'd also recommend taking some time for meditation or something to calm you down and help you relax and get some confidence.  I downloaded a hypnobabies track, and it did wonders for my emotional state.  

steve&heather

You've still got time! I'm due May 2, dilated to 3cm and 50% effaced and am still trying for a vbac. My doctor stripped my membranes on Tuesday and it brought on contractions but they never got closer than 25 minutes apart. But, I did lose my plug and he's lower. DH and I had sex last night and I'm doing as much on my feet as I can to see if gravity will do some good too.

My doctor is concerned that the baby will get too big and we won't be able to have a VBAC. I may schedule a c-section for a week after my due date but hope he gets here on his own before then.

cchill01

You definitely still have time!  I'm sure you are, but try all the home induction methods and old wives you can think of.

Good luck!!!

Perisky

Thanks for the support!  The only thing I have tried is walking and being a little more active around the house.  Still very discouraged but trying not to think about it too much. On my appt. on Monday I will ask them if they are willing to do anything to help get labor started.  

vtmezzo

I usually lurk on this board but am in a very similar situation. Currently 50% effaced, but not dilated. Due May 6th, and they "put me on the books" for a c-section on the 12th (without consulting me, of course - apparently they just like to make sure they have OR space??). My next appointment is Thursday the 5th, and if he isn't here, I'm going to request that they reschedule the c-section for 42 weeks or sometime around the 19th/20th.

 I can definitely feel the baby lower in my pelvis, so I'm trying to walk as much as I possibly can, doing some labor squats, and sitting on an exercise ball. I've been using EPO for 2 weeks now orally and vaginally, and drinking my raspberry leaf tea, as well as doing the deed with DH. I find the more I'm on my feet, the more of that "lightening crotch" feeling I get, which I assume is a good thing. I can't seem to get any painful contractions going, just painless tight ones in the lower abdomen.

 Although I know I will have done everything I can to get my VBAC, I do fear that having another CS will really devastate me, especially since we don't plan to have any more.

iris427

Ditto everything PPs said.

I would try nipple stimulation--do you have a breast pump?  I would also ask about having my membranes stripped.  Both of these have been shown to be effective at helping women make progress and go into labor.

GL!