@#@**! was what I wanted to say.... this was the first time I heard those exact works. A nurse whom I worked with saw her picture and asked the question.
I just needed to vent... ARGH!
Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
Part of me would want to be a smart a** and say, "Target" or "a stork"
But the other part of me would want to trip her...
Experienced infertility during first marriage, diagnosed with PCOS in 2008.
Married my amazing husband May 22, 2010
Became Step-Mom to 2 boys.
Husband had vasectomy in 2004 during first marriage.
Adoption Is Our Path!
Application sent March 29, 2011
First Meeting with CW: April 25, 2011
Final Visit and home visit: August 16, 2011
September, 2011 - told we are ready to be considered by birth parents. Officially WAITING!
Spring of 2012, we start to work with a Consultant and apply with a few agencies around the US
June 2012 - we are MATCHED July 25, 2012 - Our SON was born in Arizona August 8th, 2012 - we flew home with our baby Awaiting Finalization
We have already had some #($* comments about FS. He is black, and my oh my he is the CUTEEEEEST thing! So here it goes...
1. My friend met him for the first time, and couldn't get over how cute he is. then she said, "Oh, and he isn't THAT dark so that's good!" WHAAAAA? Mind you, she is Puerto Rican! I really don't get it... But, she is also the friend who says things all.the.time about how she wishes I could have a bio child so I could experience what a "bond" it is. Go blow yourself honey...I have a GREAT bond with DS and will with FS too!
2. Our other friend met FS when my husband brought DS over to play. She fawned over him as well, but then asked DH how we felt about raising a black child and the questions that will go along with it. Then she said, let me clarify...DS1 could pass as yours, so questions probably dont come up (which they really dont). So, now that this one CANT pass as yours, do you think it will be hard? WELL DUH I know it will be, but what is so wrong with that?
3. My brother. Yes, my brother. He was trying to be funny, but he asked what nationality our next one was going to be. He said, "maybe white?"
UUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
The thing that really hurts I think is that I did NOT choose my children, they chose me and God brought them to me. They are a BLESSING. I don't care if they are white, black, pink or purple. All that matters is that they are MINE. Who cares if they are not biological????? This is all coming from very naive people who have NEVER had to even bat an eye to have children, so really what can I do??
Part of me would want to be a smart a** and say, "Target" or "a stork"
But the other part of me would want to trip her...
LOL! i get this question alllll the time! i would find a smart a** answer cuz it gets really old!
TTC since 2005 missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles- 3 failed femara iui cycles- moving on to IVF oct 2011 ER nov. 7th tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10 lots of +hpt!! beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4 beta #2 on11/23= 90.8 another miscarriage 12/23 moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs ET 4/28 3 transfered Beta #1- 356 Beta #2- 870
My mom was notorious for giving smarty answers to this question. I'm mixed, and my adoptive family is very white, and I remember being about 6 years old at the zoo with her, my cousin, and my brother (also adopted, but white), and an older woman approached us and said to my mom "Your children are beautiful! And where did you get her, the little ethnic one?" pointing to me, to which my mom responded (very sweetly and very seriously) with a little smile, "Oh, you know, I picked her up at a Macy's last weekend. On sale, too, can you believe it!"
Cloth-diapering, co-sleeping, breast-feeding, C-section Mama
People are so rude. Seriously? Do women who have bio children say, "Out of my vagina?" Luckily you have the class and heart to overcome the idiots.
Todd & Kristin, 3.10.07
After 5.5 years of loss, heartbreak, and empty arms, our dreams were fulfilled through the beautiful, selfless gift of adoption. We are amazingly blessed!
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Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
Re: "Where'd you get her?"
How insensitive.
Part of me would want to be a smart a** and say, "Target" or "a stork"
But the other part of me would want to trip her...
Married my amazing husband May 22, 2010
Became Step-Mom to 2 boys.
Husband had vasectomy in 2004 during first marriage.
Adoption Is Our Path!
Application sent March 29, 2011 First Meeting with CW: April 25, 2011 Final Visit and home visit: August 16, 2011
September, 2011 - told we are ready to be considered by birth parents. Officially WAITING!
Spring of 2012, we start to work with a Consultant and apply with a few agencies around the US
June 2012 - we are MATCHED
July 25, 2012 - Our SON was born in Arizona
August 8th, 2012 - we flew home with our baby
Awaiting Finalization
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My answer is generally "God."
People can be really rude.
We have already had some #($* comments about FS. He is black, and my oh my he is the CUTEEEEEST thing! So here it goes...
1. My friend met him for the first time, and couldn't get over how cute he is. then she said, "Oh, and he isn't THAT dark so that's good!" WHAAAAA? Mind you, she is Puerto Rican! I really don't get it... But, she is also the friend who says things all.the.time about how she wishes I could have a bio child so I could experience what a "bond" it is. Go blow yourself honey...I have a GREAT bond with DS and will with FS too!
2. Our other friend met FS when my husband brought DS over to play. She fawned over him as well, but then asked DH how we felt about raising a black child and the questions that will go along with it. Then she said, let me clarify...DS1 could pass as yours, so questions probably dont come up (which they really dont). So, now that this one CANT pass as yours, do you think it will be hard? WELL DUH I know it will be, but what is so wrong with that?
3. My brother. Yes, my brother. He was trying to be funny, but he asked what nationality our next one was going to be. He said, "maybe white?"
UUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
The thing that really hurts I think is that I did NOT choose my children, they chose me and God brought them to me. They are a BLESSING. I don't care if they are white, black, pink or purple. All that matters is that they are MINE. Who cares if they are not biological????? This is all coming from very naive people who have NEVER had to even bat an eye to have children, so really what can I do??
I dislike that question A LOT!!!!
"God same place all children come from" is my polite answer but for very rude people I have a different answer :0
LOL! i get this question alllll the time! i would find a smart a** answer cuz it gets really old!
TTC since 2005
missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles-
3 failed femara iui cycles-
moving on to IVF oct 2011
ER nov. 7th
tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10
lots of +hpt!!
beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4
beta #2 on11/23= 90.8
another miscarriage 12/23
moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx
ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs
ET 4/28 3 transfered
Beta #1- 356
Beta #2- 870
UGH. Vent away!!!! So frustrating!
ps silliest, we are moving forward with the situation and are so excited, not an official match yet but we're hopeful!
Yea!!!!!
My mom was notorious for giving smarty answers to this question. I'm mixed, and my adoptive family is very white, and I remember being about 6 years old at the zoo with her, my cousin, and my brother (also adopted, but white), and an older woman approached us and said to my mom "Your children are beautiful! And where did you get her, the little ethnic one?" pointing to me, to which my mom responded (very sweetly and very seriously) with a little smile, "Oh, you know, I picked her up at a Macy's last weekend. On sale, too, can you believe it!"
After 5.5 years of loss, heartbreak, and empty arms, our dreams were fulfilled through the beautiful, selfless gift of adoption. We are amazingly blessed!
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I am going to have to remember these in case I need to think quick in the future.
We aren't sure who our sons birthfather is, but the birthmother is pretty sure he is AA (there were two or three other possibilities besides him)