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Some coworkers... (vent)

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Well, I am on week 2 of being back at work after my 2 months off post surgery for the ovary removal... still very sensitive to the whole baby topic knowing we have to do the IVF after my Lupron therapy is done.  So, this woman I work with comes up to me this morning and says how she was thinking about me this weekend and everything I have been through.  She starts to tell me about her cousin's daughter (obviously not someone I have ever met) and her pregnancy.  She was saying that she had just found out she was having a baby girl a few weeks ago, but shortly after, started feeling sick and that something wasn't right.  At this point, I was thinking how awful of a situation to be in... thinking that since she was relaying this story to me that something must not be going well... not the case!  She says that she ended up going in for another U/S and that they found out she was pregnant with TWO baby girls, not just the one.  So, I just kind of smiled and said that is great for her.      *** I know with the IF being so new to us that I may am very sensitive to hearing about babies.... but, being I don't know this person, why tell me the story?  why bring it up like it was something I would relate to since the conversation began with "I was thinking about everything you have gone through lately...."  Grrrrrr... hard enough working with a handful of PG ladies, let alone to hear the story about how a stranger is getting not one, but 2!   Don't get me wrong,  I am very happy for those who are having success with baby making, but I am still emotionally trying to accept what I am going through so I am in no mood to celebrate a complete stranger's happy news!

Me- 30
DH- 28
Actively charting and TTC since September 2010 although not using BC since May 2007
Laporatomy March 8th,2011
Stage IV Endometreosis officially diagnosed
Removal of right ovary and partial left ovary
Lupron Therapy began April 2011 and will continue for 6 months
IVF to follow the Lupron therapy
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  • maybebridemaybebride member

    Wow. That she knows what you are going through and still told the story. More proof that even when people know, they just do not understand what IF means.

    I'm so sorry you had to sit through that. I don't think I would have been able to do anything but put on a fake half smile and nod. If I tried any harder, I would have burst into tears or said things I shouldn't.

    (((hugs)))

    Proud Doxie Mommy
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    TTC #1 since Sept. 2009 - DX unexplained IF March 2011 - "Surprise" BFP March 2012
    DS born via c-section 11/17/12
    TTC #2 (or, not TTA) Nov. 2013
    BFP #2 8/22/14, Missed M/C 6w2d, Discovered 7w4d/Official 8w6d, D&C 9/27/14
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  • CluckyEVCluckyEV member
    imagemaybebride:

    Wow. That she knows what you are going through and still told the story. More proof that even when people know, they just do not understand what IF means.

    I'm so sorry you had to sit through that. I don't think I would have been able to do anything but put on a fake half smile and nod. If I tried any harder, I would have burst into tears or said things I shouldn't.

    (((hugs)))

    All of this! 

    "When the world says, 'Give up,' Hope whispers, 'Try one more time.'" -Anonymous

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  • jstrat53jstrat53 member
    Some people can be so insensitive! Sorry you had to listen to that but like PP poster said, not much you can do but put on your fake smile and get through it.  Hope you feel better soon and IVF is your ticket!

    Married DH September 2008
    DD1 Born March 2012
    DD2 Due November 2014

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  • mrshurley10mrshurley10 member
    ick, how horrible. that was a completely insensitive and stupid thing for her to do. im sorry (((HUGS))) 
    TTC since 4/2010 Clomid 3/2011 & 4/2011 BFP 5/2011 Natural MC 5/20/11 BFP 7/3/11 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers BFP 11/9/2012 dx Partial Molar Pregnancy - D&C 12/11/12 HCG 12/10/2012 -96000 HCG 12/19/2012 -888 HCG 12/27/2012 -146 HCG 1/2/2013 -275 HCG 1/9/2013 -788 Dx with gestational trophoblastic disease 1/3/13 Meet with Oncologist for 1/11/2013 Second D&C 1/16 HCG 1/23/2013 - 88 HCG 1/30/2013 - 0 miracle!!!!!
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  • kasey9kahnekasey9kahne member
    ((Hugs))  Sorry you had to listen to that.  Some people are just clueless.
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