A few years ago I moved 1,000 miles away from home to be with my H (we did long distance prior to the move) b/c he had kids in the same town. I went from a major metro area to a small town. I TOTALLY took a step down in my career to move here.
I've been job hunting in a close-by major metro area, which happens to be where s-kids moved with BM. B/c of the economy, I haven't been able to find a job there so we haven't moved.
Well, now H sort of wants to move to yet another location for 2 reasons:
1. Closer to his 2nd job on the family farm (which currently takes him away from home more often to be there)
2. It would be less travel with his first job which means he'd be home with me more often.
While I would love to move there b/c my H would be home more, I don't want to move there b/c:
1. it's further north than we are currently and therefore even COLDER (hint: it is in North Dakota). I am from the south and hate the weather here already.
2. It's another small town so I'll never get my dream of living in a major metro area. And there aren't many jobs there for what I do.
So do I give up my dreams so my H can live his, or do I sacrifice so that I can spend more time with my H and less time alone? Also, if we move to ND we won't be closer to the s-kids, which H is okay with b/c this location is better for both his jobs.
Anyone else been in a similar situation?