Almost Outed on Facebook

Dct119

Some days I just really hate facebook. I had an ultrasound this morning. The baby is measuring 3 days ahead and had a heartbeat of 166. I was feeling very happy and blessed. I put my facebook status as "I'm feeling very blessed today" and some random girl that I haven't talked to in years goes "Are you pregnant?" I quickly replied "Nope, just feeling very blessed with life in general." Where do people get the idea that randomly asking people if they are pregnant is a good one? I didn't say I was feeling sick or gaining weight. Just really irritated me. We aren't telling family until Sunday so I'm hoping no one gets suspicious by that post. Thankfully it's only 2 days a way. People just amaze me though! 

mags08.06.05

Yeah, what did she think you were going to respond, "yes!!"?? I just think people don't take the time to think how their comments are going to be received. Obviously she was just being (unintentionally) thoughtless, but I can see why you'd be annoyed!

AmeliaClaire

Very annoying and rude!!!

I am just crossing my fingers that I don't get outed before Easter when I plan to announce it. My birthday is on Monday and I'm just picturing my friends trying to be subtle and saying something like, "Happy birthday, I'm sure this will be an extra special year for you! *wink wink*" or something like that. I can totally see that happening! I almost want to disable my wall but I love getting bday messages! 

hinmighty

Facebook can be frustrating!!!  I had many instances where people mentioned things on Facebook before I did.  I mean wouldn't be common sense to NOT post something on Facebook until the one ACTUALLY pregnant did?!!?  I even specifically told my mom not to post anything until I did... and lo and behold she did and I had to tell her to delete her post.  I don't get it... oh well.  I decided - What the hell and posted it on Facebook myself (at around 9 weeks).

Sorry she posted that :-( I would have deleted the post after she said that!!! 

LurkieLoo

My cousin posted on my FB page "OMG my mom talked to your mom- I can't believe you are pregnant again already!"  Thank goodness I was online at the time and instantly deleted it!

catch2010

This is why I have my wall turned off for the time being.  It will come back on as soon as we're done sharing with those people we want to tell in-person.

Dct119

This is a great idea! I think I will do this until we at least tell our family and close friends! Seems like the only way to ensure no one says anything! Thanks for the idea!

ClaraEarlene

Even though we've given our immediate families permission to tell other family members (like my aunts and cousins), they refuse, saying, "Telling other people is the fun part!  We'll leave that to you."  Still, I'm careful about posting any status updates, no matter how vague, relating to my pregnancy.  Any vague statement, like "I feel so blessed" or "What a crappy day" is an invitation for questions (which is what the person who posted it is looking for, otherwise they would not have posted something so vague in the first place).  If you're going to to phishing, you better expect questions!

Ddamsel

Blessed is a key word that makes people think you are pregnant.

there are WONDERFUL settings on facebook where you can hide your status message from different people. Before you post your message look for that little lock next to the share button, click on that arrow, then onto custom. Where it says "hide from these people" start putting in the names of those you aren't really close with and make it your default setting!!

I was so fed up with the drama on facebook that I deleted my  profile and created another one with only 18 friends! much better than the 100+ I was dealing with. Plus I have blocked all of my friends friends list so nobody can find me.

tonychelle

yah, facebook is so stressful. i had to delete a post the other week after i told everything i told not to put anything on there (you think you wouldn't have to do that...), and the few friends/family i told a couple of weeks ago kept bugging me about putting something on facebook -- don't get it?? i ended up posting something the other day after my recent appointment because i wanted to stop worrying about somebody else saying something first (even though i wanted to wait another month or so -- but i've had some posts from people who knew that were kind of vague about it sooo). very crazy!

Vieve831

catch2010:

This is why I have my wall turned off for the time being.  It will come back on as soon as we're done sharing with those people we want to tell in-person.

This is what I did too. I also have not put a single status update since finding out I'm pregnant (even though my wall is turned off if I post something others can still comment underneath). I've had a bunch of people PM me asking why they can't write on my wall and I just play dumb and say that I've been trying to change my settings but can't figure it out.

That being said my step-mom still posted "I'm gonna be a grandma!!" on her own wall after I told my dad last week. I just ignored it because fortunately we don't have a lot of friends in common and the few family members that are friends with both of us almost never go on facebook.