Just had a mini break down:(

calgal1683

So DH is out of state for work and has been since the 3rd and won't be back till late Friday night. With the 3hr time difference it is really hard to find time to talk to him. By the time I get DS to bed it is almost midnight there. He has been going out every night with other co-workers(not much else to do where he is) and let me tell you...it has been so hard on me!

Finally after getting back to the hotel after going out I text him to see if he was up in his room yet so we could talk. He said not yet, they were all just hanging out in the lobby talking. I text him saying that it had been a really long day and that I wanted him to call me. He called 20 minutes later and I just broke down!!! I really don't remember my emotions being this crazy with DS#1!

thomas2013

Personally I understand why you would feel this way. It is hard enough to run a household and be pregnant. It sounds like you just want to time to talk to him and get the day off your cheast. I think you are being very understanding seeing he goes out with his co-workers and then spends more time chating afterwards. I hope you feel better!

soontobe05

Aww..I get that way a lot more this time around too. You sound like you have a lot on your plate right now and it's hard when our DHs are away. That's a long time to be gone too! Hope you get some down time for yourself tonight and lots of sleep. Put in a sappy movie, it'll make you feel better.

cookierlr1

Awe I don't think you are being unreasonable. Its hard being at home when they are going out and having fun. I've been designated driver almost every weekend (for everyone not just DH) for 8 months now and I'll tell yah its starting to get a little old. I broke down on my DH tonight too, poor thing had no idea I was even upset and promised me 9 months of DD and babysitting service in return for all the crap I have been putting up with LOL I'll never take him up on the offer but it was sweet : ) We're entitled to our breakdowns! Now go do something nice for yourself!

calgal1683

Thanks girls! I told him when he gets home on Friday he is doing all the house work for at least a week!:)

mesr

my dh has been out of town this week too...

and all i can say is that i have so much respect for all of the single moms and de-facto single moms (with husbands on the road all the time or deployed).  while i feel like i do most of the work around here anyway, it's still nice to have another body here to distract dd while i do it.  last night i resorted to putting on Finding Nemo (Findet Nemo in German, so i could pretend that it was educational) just to mop the kitchen floor without her trying to play with the mop water...

as for keeping in touch, dh and i have been communicating primarily via googletalk.  

Pockety

DH and I had the same issues when we both started traveling for work.  If this is unfamiliar to you, then I definitely understand the breakdown!!!  At this point, we're so used to it that it's no big deal.  

When I know that DH is out of town, I make sure to have "treats" for myself to look forward to in the evening - cooking a dinner that he doesn't like (easy b/c he hates tomatoes, tomato sauce, anything with tomatoes, so simple spaghetti is a "treat"), or a movie that I know he doesn't want to watch, like a chick flick from Netflix online or Redbox or something.  Then I have something to look forward to, other than seeing/talking to him.