2nd timers: Guilt. Sweet, sweet guilt.

akanalynn@

Any other 2nd timers with LO's at home feeling as guilty as I do right now?

My 2 1/2 year old has been on a snack food and fruit diet because I can't stand to cook, I'm home all day working (editing photos) but I'm definitely not really "here" per se.  I'm only editing because I've been procrastinating due to nausea 24-7.

It's a Disney movie marathon up in here...I just keep telling myself it's not going to kill her....

 I need to get her in a nice Montesorri preschool to socialize, etc but being a family of 2 business owners paying for private insurance, until we meet the deductible for this pregnancy, I feel guilty spending more money.

 :boo hoo:

 

Anyone with me?

 

PS. if no one responds to this I'm going to go jump off a cliff. 

 

 

azcobride

Last Friday I tried to convince my 2 year old to bring his toys to the bathroom and play because I was too nauseaus to leave the bathroom. He didn't buy it. I have been so lazy and laying around a lot which means more TV for DS. I hate it but feel like I'm in survival mode right now!

myantonia

Oh, I'm sure we're all feeling guilty about something.  Mine is my patience level today. My DS almost sent me off a cliff this morning with his whining and I know it's a viscious cycle when I get annoyed at him.... because he just gets more whiny... but I just couldn't stop it.  Thank god for naptime.  It's like hitting the reset button on our day .  

akanalynn@

azcobride:

Last Friday I tried to convince my 2 year old to bring his toys to the bathroom and play because I was too nauseaus to leave the bathroom. He didn't buy it. I have been so lazy and laying around a lot which means more TV for DS. I hate it but feel like I'm in survival mode right now!

 

I already feel better.

I lay on a gigantic dog bed in the bathroom while my child takes a bath, and I try to convince her to stay in for a long time so I don't have to do anything energy-sapping, you know, like sit up or move.

 

 

akanalynn@

You know how after christmas and birthdays, when lots of new presents/toys arrive, the house seems quiet for a few days? I'm debating going and getting a bunch of new toys/games in hopes of assuaging the wild beast.  

jnealet

akanalynn@:

You know how after christmas and birthdays, when lots of new presents/toys arrive, the house seems quiet for a few days? I'm debating going and getting a bunch of new toys/games in hopes of assuaging the wild beast.  

 

Buy a couple of new ones and hide a couple of ones she currently likes.  Then rotate them.  We did that with DD's toys and its currently like winter wonderland in our house, she's been really busy and entertained.

And just remember, this is a short term thing, until the new baby is born and you have to deal with sleepless nights and the demands of multiple children.

mbgreenwalt

I only saw my DD for an hour yesterday.  I had a 14 hour work day and if DH didn't get off work early and bring us out to lunch I wouldn't have seen her at all.  I hate those days.

adri77

Yeeeessss!!!  I MAKE DS1 watch TV for an hour by himself in the afternoon so I can "nap" while Ds2 naps.  they watch sooo much tv.  We do soooo much takeout. And frozen food, grilled cheeses, breakfast for dinner etc.   I feel so crappy in the evenings that I let them watch a "bedtime show" instead of reading them books b/c I don't feel like it (DH home is NEVER home for dinner/bed/bath M-F, that REALLY makes things hard).  DS1 surrvived it once before, DS2 will too, as will all of your LO's!  But it is HARD

sea3668rn

Oh, add me to the list.  My daughter never watches TV, but Sesame Street has become our best friend so I can lay for an hour on the couch.  And her diet is all grilled cheese, "brinner", easy pasta, mac and cheese with some frozen veggies tossed in.  My DH has been great about taking over bath time for me, because I want to puke when I lean over the tub.  Thankfully, she is happy as a clam, so I don't think it bothers her at all. 

Sarahbear621

I'm guilty thought my little one is only 9 months old.  He is in daycare most of the day.  I used to pick him up around 3 or 4 so we could spend some time together before he goes down at 6:30pm to sleep.  Lately I've been picking him up at 5;30pm, letting DH feed him and put him to bed while I stay on the couch.  I cringe at the idea of carrying DS up the stairs because all the energy it takes out of me. 

Summer20

OMG, me! DD has been eating cereal, crackers and fruit because everything else makes me gag.  Last night DH insisted on making her these spinach pancake things (that she loves) and I had to spend an hour out on the porch waiting for the house to air out - blech! 

Oh and I've had her watching Elmo way more than normal just because I can't get up the energy to play with her half the time. 

I keep telling myself that it'll get better, when I start feeling better in a few weeks... 

madiegirl83

Oh good... I am not the only one!!  In the morning my DH gets DS his milk and bowl of cereal, he watched cartoons for 30 mins - an hour until I can get myself out of bed...  And in the afternoon when my energy is at its lowest I have him watch cartoons or he plays his nintendo ds...  I am just waiting for that 2nd trimester energy boost....

CandiceNT

akanalynn@:

Any other 2nd timers with LO's at home feeling as guilty as I do right now?

My 2 1/2 year old has been on a snack food and fruit diet because I can't stand to cook, I'm home all day working (editing photos) but I'm definitely not really "here" per se.  I'm only editing because I've been procrastinating due to nausea 24-7.

It's a Disney movie marathon up in here...I just keep telling myself it's not going to kill her....

 I need to get her in a nice Montesorri preschool to socialize, etc but being a family of 2 business owners paying for private insurance, until we meet the deductible for this pregnancy, I feel guilty spending more money.

 :boo hoo:

 

Anyone with me?

 

PS. if no one responds to this I'm going to go jump off a cliff. 

 

 

Your not alone!!!

RedCamaro

jnealet:

akanalynn@:

You know how after christmas and birthdays, when lots of new presents/toys arrive, the house seems quiet for a few days? I'm debating going and getting a bunch of new toys/games in hopes of assuaging the wild beast.  

 

Buy a couple of new ones and hide a couple of ones she currently likes.  Then rotate them.  We did that with DD's toys and its currently like winter wonderland in our house, she's been really busy and entertained.

And just remember, this is a short term thing, until the new baby is born and you have to deal with sleepless nights and the demands of multiple children.

Thanks...I was really trying to suppress that reality

To OP, that's us most mornings. I get hit with m/s and tiredness first thing so I'll put on DD's favorite shows and bring breakfast in the living room. Then I take a nap on the couch.... I can't wait until 2nd tri when I'll be over this!

angiegail78

I'm in the same boat with the cooking smells. DS's meals lately have been less than ideal.

I'm also going to wean him sooner than I had planned, and that's making me feel guilty too. 

sea3668rn

The weaning is hard.  I had to wean DD at 11 months because I never got my pp period, and at age 35 with hypertension,I didn't feel like I had a lot of time to wait to start trying for number 2.  It was such a hard decision, and I went back and forth with it.  She weaned beautifully though, which made it so much less stressful for me.  I am looking forward to nursing #2 longer since there won't be that pressure.

Tanderson0201

Yes! I feel sooo bad. My son's diet consists of too much junk food, pop tarts for breakfast, chicken nuggets most days...He watches WAY too much tv. Granted, he gets whiny if I turn it off, but I know it's not good for him to watch that much and I don't want him to, yet I am sooo tired all I want to do is "rest my eyes" on the couch.