I want to cry

PrettyAccountant

My sister in law just told me she is pg She tells me she was so worried cause she tried for soooooo long. Really? So F-ing long? - she has a son who is a little over a year old. She says she was trying for 3 months - OMG - it must have been a freakin eternity. To add to that, my best friend just asked me to go with her to the dr for an abortion - her 5th one that I can count. Both know we are struggling and for my SIL to call me and just announce it to me and then my best friend - I could kill them both. Take both of there freakin necks and strangle them.

 

So I sit in my office and cry because that is what I can accomplish right now.

 

Sorry for the bitching.

KaliChick

All I can do is offer you a virtual *hug*!  Both of those are terrible situations and I can't believe that either of them would do that to you!

pennylanehd

Your SIL sounds inconsiderate but your friend sounds like not much of a friend at all...IF and life sometimes really stink.  Big (((hugs)))!

Julie721

I am so sorry! Those situations always make IF much worse! ((HUGS))

BeeBee08

I'm sorry.  The exact same thing happened with my SIL when she told me she was pg last month and told me that they had been trying for sooooo long, too.  From what I can tell fertile SIL's are mean for the most part.  Hugs for you.

And your friend...well I'm not even sure what to say.  In addition to being irresponsible she's down right insensitive.  I hope you're not going with her. 

I hope tomorrow brings a brighter day for you.

SandyEggo5

Oh my. That's a lot to handle! ((hugs))

I cry it out all the time. It makes me feel better, I hope it does the same for you!

softbalangel

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with that. ((hugs))

naybird

OMG.. First off.. I'm sending you a big hug..  I think those are 2 ladies you need to take a break from.  The are obviously insensitive and uncaring, and you don't need them bringing you down. 

Take care of yourself and have a good cry and get it all out.  IF is so painful and unfair..

meg_koole

That SUCKS!  I am sorry sweetie.  Clearly neither understand what you are going through.....  Crying always makes me feel better!  Big Hugs.

sterpstra10

naybird:

OMG.. First off.. I'm sending you a big hug..  I think those are 2 ladies you need to take a break from.  The are obviously insensitive and uncaring, and you don't need them bringing you down. 

Take care of yourself and have a good cry and get it all out.  IF is so painful and unfair..

This....((HUGS))

aq32

The same thing happened with my SIL. Ohhh she tried for sooo long and she is so upset and cant handle how hard trying is and then I asked her if she was tracking her ovulation and she said no. Once i explained ovulation to her BAM..2 months later pregnant!

Does your friend know what you are going through? If she does, that is so unthoughtful that she would put you in that situation. I am sooo sorry!

 BIG BIG HUGS TO YOU! IF SUCKS nad fertile people dont make it any better !

Delta04

I am so very sorry you had to deal wtih that.  ((HUGS))  ...and crying is a good thing. 

 

babina868

Ugh!  That sucks that you're dealing with such incredibly insensitive people.  The best part of having an office is that you can have some privacy to cry at work occasionally. 

MommyBliss

UGH! That is so hard & frustrating! I can totally see where you are coming from....hugs go out to you!!!

illinigal

Huge hugs.  I'm sorry you have to deal with either one of those, let alone both at the same time.

mareba2011

Sorry, lady.  It's a major pet peeve of mine when someone feels like they "dealt with infertility" or can "relate to your situation" because it took them 6 months or less to get prego.  *** away...isn't that part of the reason we're all here? 

mareba2011

Huh...apparently "bitching" makes its way through the sensors, but the same word without the "ing" does not.  Good to know.

MommyBliss

LOL @mareba2011

JennPierog

OMG! (((BIG BIG HUGS))) I'm so sorry

j-bell

Hugs hugs hugs.  I'm so sorry, dear.  

MyHusbandMyHero

UGH! IF SUCKKKSSS!! Get a good cry -- i find that helps! SOOO Sorry about the insensitive ones around you! We all can totally relate! <3

belle4304

That sucks!  Seriously 5th abortion... and why would she ask you of all people?!?  I'd ask her to have it and give it to me...

maryfc1

ick, ick, ick.

I would tell friend that "Sorry, she can just hold someone else's hand" or if this is her 5th (holy crap!) AB that she can probably handle it all by herself.

I totally feel your pain about the pregnancy around you, I have 3 friends pregnant, only one knows my situation, but I do feel blessed in that she is very sensitive towards my feelings about IF and supportive.  But it's still heartbreaking.

BIG HUG, and lots of tears are ok. 

CluckyEV

So very sorry you had to deal with either of these situations, let alone on the same day. *big hugs*

ak146550

Life sucks! IF sucks! But I can just give you hugs.

jenriley

I am so, so sorry. A good cry is definitely in order...IF sucks!!

reb259

belle4304:

That sucks!  Seriously 5th abortion... and why would she ask you of all people?!?  I'd ask her to have it and give it to me...

I agree!!  Hugs....

WhiteGarden

That's maddening to hear that these two people are so insensitive.  I'm sorry to hear you went through that...  I know I would handle the situation with a good cry. 

Sending you hugs....

lilredj

I am going to say again.... People are so insensitive!! 

I am sorry you are having to deal with that!  I have been there with my cousin... and I am still dealing with it!  Crying is okay!!  We have all done our fair share of it!  

**huge hug** 

PrettyAccountant

Thank you all for the support and hugs. I did cry my eyes out and then called my best friend back (she is my best friend because we have been through a lot together and have been friends for over 25 years - since we were little kids). I started calmly to tell her I couldn't be there for her this time but I do with her the best (and to stop using abortions as birth control). She didn't get it and all she could say was that I was being selfish because she would be there for me (which she would to tell the truth). I love her but I realize I have to distance myself from her. On the other note, my SIL is a total ditz and would never understand what we are going through but will try her hardest. I tried to explain to her that I am happy for her but I need a little space and will come around when I can. She cried and said she wants me to get pg also and wishes the best for me and left it at that. What got me crying again was that my SIL ended the conversation with "I love you and I pray to G-d for you to have a baby".

I pray for everyone on this board to have their wish of a little bundle of miracle of their very own.

All the best - Rachel