Pregnant in highschool

MNmomofQ

I was at the mall on Sunday and I saw a very pregnant young lady in a "insert city here" High School sweatshirt. Is it just me or am I just being a judgy b****? If I was pregnant high schooler I don't think I would be walking around the mall advertising that I am in high school. If she was in street clothes I would not have thought very much about it because I would have given her the benifit of the doubt that she is just a young look pregnant adult. Kids these day

QueenBee320

Meh I wouldn't have judged her. Accidents happen, at every age. I probably would have felt a little bad for her that she got pregnant in high school.

KelzinBoston

I don't see what the big deal is...

jamiemsmith

I taught High School last year, it is a huge reality check. I was pregnant at the end of the year and a few of my students were giving me advice. I found out this year that one of the girls is pregnant again. I just feel bad for them. I wish they could have experienced more before life became so serious. Then again, they knew the consequences of sex at such a young age, whether it was protected or not.

aabreu32

Well - maybe she was a young looking adult.  I have been out of high school for awhile (like 15 years) but I still have two b-ball sweatshirts with my high school name on them that I wear - cause I love them.  I doubt anyone would think I looked young enough to be in high school but if I was younger - but still over 20 - they might have.

wearenutts

I just think it's sad that things like this happen at such a young age. Maybe it's just me but I waited until I was 18 to have sex. Not judging those of you who started younger it's just a personal choice.

I was scared to death to get pregnant in high school. Before I had sex after I graduated I made sure I was on birth control. 

SweetPeanis

I know plenty of people who still wear their high school t-shirts or sweatshirts and they have been out of highschool for years and years.  Doesn't mean she was still in high school.  Or maybe she just graduated and is 18.

DreadLoc

It's very judgy.  Mistakes happen and she shouldn't have to hole herself in her house or wear muumuus when she goes out.

MNmomofQ

I guess I was just surprised that she was advertising that she was in high school, I had friends who were pregnant when I was in high school and they did everything they could to not look pregnant especially in public. There must not be as much of stigma to teen pregancy as there use to be, which to me is kinda unfortunate.

QueenBee320

jamiemsmith:

I taught High School last year, it is a huge reality check. I was pregnant at the end of the year and a few of my students were giving me advice. I found out this year that one of the girls is pregnant again. I just feel bad for them. I wish they could have experienced more before life became so serious. Then again, they knew the consequences of sex at such a young age, whether it was protected or not.

We just learned in my adolescent development psych class that the frontal cortex of the brain is still developing in teenagers and because of this they lack the ability to really plan ahead and think of the consequences of their actions, even though they know they can get pregnant they might not think of it when they make the decision to have sex. 

FirstBabyMomma

I wear my high school hoodie all the time; I paid a fortune for it and it's still in great shape! I wore it all through my pregnancy. Even though I know I look young (I played a 14-year old in a live theatre show until 2 years ago), it never crossed my mind that people would be judging me and thinking I was a knocked-up teen. Now I'm sad.

But I guarantee I'll  still wear that hoodie when I am expecting #2.

KandyKayne

I probably would not have thought all that much of it.  I feel bad for teenage moms since I dont think that they really grasp the consequences of having a baby so young.  I can not imagine having a baby that young its hard enough sometimes at 30+.

blondek8

It's probably glamourous to have babies in highschool b/c of "16 and Pregnant" now.

At any rate, I'm not that perceptive. I probably wouldn't have even noticed. Even if I did ... I'm too tired to care.

emily0829

I still have high school sweat shirts that I wear occasionally. I'm sure I get the side eye when I'm rocking the sweatshirt with a baby on my hip.

So, the pregnant teenager is supposed to hide in their room for 9 months? Gosh, why didn't the parents just ship her off to the mother homes and then she comes back and it's like it never happened?! The nerve.

write2nicole

So you think her parents should have sent her to a convent until her condition resolves itself?

Besides, as a high school administrator, my sister all but got sent to the principal's office by another teacher scolding her for being "tardy" when she was running late for work after dropping off her children at day care. Some people look younger than you think and have high school associations you might not be considering.

Unless you had a conversation with this girl in which she told you that she intentionally had a baby at the age of 15 and is counseling all her friends to do the same, I'd find something better to focus your energy on.

Libby1978

QueenBee320:

jamiemsmith:

I taught High School last year, it is a huge reality check. I was pregnant at the end of the year and a few of my students were giving me advice. I found out this year that one of the girls is pregnant again. I just feel bad for them. I wish they could have experienced more before life became so serious. Then again, they knew the consequences of sex at such a young age, whether it was protected or not.

We just learned in my adolescent development psych class that the frontal cortex of the brain is still developing in teenagers and because of this they lack the ability to really plan ahead and think of the consequences of their actions, even though they know they can get pregnant they might not think of it when they make the decision to have sex. 

This is so true!!  Teens can't see past the front of their own nose.  He!!, some grown a$$ adults can't think ahead.

I'm very sad anytime I see a young, pregnant girl.  They just don't know how hard it's going to really be.  Also, a lot of boys don't stick around, so guess who's left with ALL the responsibility??  When that boy says he "loves" you he's really saying he loves what's happening between your legs.   

Aubrianarose

I'm with the others that thought she was just looking young and wearing the sweater (those things are expensive! I still have mine!). I get confused for Isy's babysitter or sister all the time... drives me batty.

Even if she was pregnant in high school, who cares? Accidents happen. Its sad but I guess I'm desensitized because in my HS there were at least 5 every year between freshman and senior years.

blondek8

Libby1978:

QueenBee320:

jamiemsmith:

I taught High School last year, it is a huge reality check. I was pregnant at the end of the year and a few of my students were giving me advice. I found out this year that one of the girls is pregnant again. I just feel bad for them. I wish they could have experienced more before life became so serious. Then again, they knew the consequences of sex at such a young age, whether it was protected or not.

We just learned in my adolescent development psych class that the frontal cortex of the brain is still developing in teenagers and because of this they lack the ability to really plan ahead and think of the consequences of their actions, even though they know they can get pregnant they might not think of it when they make the decision to have sex. 

This is so true!!  Teens can't see past the front of their own nose.  He!!, some grown a$$ adults can't think ahead.

I'm very sad anytime I see a young, pregnant girl.  They just don't know how hard it's going to really be.  Also, a lot of boys don't stick around, so guess who's left with ALL the responsibility??  When that boy says he "loves" you he's really saying he loves what's happening between your legs.   

Sh!t at 33 I was unprepared for how hard it was going to be!

mrs.kapow

I rocked my Forks HS tee all the time while pregnant.  I wonder how many people didn't get the joke...

Libby1978

mrs.kapow:

I rocked my Forks HS tee all the time while pregnant.  I wonder how many people didn't get the joke...

Hahaha!  Probably a lot of people!

Libby1978

blondek8:

Libby1978:

QueenBee320:

jamiemsmith:

I taught High School last year, it is a huge reality check. I was pregnant at the end of the year and a few of my students were giving me advice. I found out this year that one of the girls is pregnant again. I just feel bad for them. I wish they could have experienced more before life became so serious. Then again, they knew the consequences of sex at such a young age, whether it was protected or not.

We just learned in my adolescent development psych class that the frontal cortex of the brain is still developing in teenagers and because of this they lack the ability to really plan ahead and think of the consequences of their actions, even though they know they can get pregnant they might not think of it when they make the decision to have sex. 

This is so true!!  Teens can't see past the front of their own nose.  He!!, some grown a$$ adults can't think ahead.

I'm very sad anytime I see a young, pregnant girl.  They just don't know how hard it's going to really be.  Also, a lot of boys don't stick around, so guess who's left with ALL the responsibility??  When that boy says he "loves" you he's really saying he loves what's happening between your legs.   

Sh!t at 33 I was unprepared for how hard it was going to be!

Hah!  Well, I had my twins at 20 (12 years ago), so I knew exactly what I was getting myself into this time! 

CDM419

aabreu32:

Well - maybe she was a young looking adult.  I have been out of high school for awhile (like 15 years) but I still have two b-ball sweatshirts with my high school name on them that I wear - cause I love them.  I doubt anyone would think I looked young enough to be in high school but if I was younger - but still over 20 - they might have.

 

THIS! I am only 24, so I still have lots of HS sweatshirts and things that I wore while pregnant as well!

Heather R

1. I'm an extremely young-looking high school teacher and regularly wear my school's "spirit clothing."  I am often mistaken by hall monitors for a  student.

2. She may be a recent grad or just another young-looking adult wearing her old clothes. 

 

 

bsktbllqt11

aabreu32:

Well - maybe she was a young looking adult.  I have been out of high school for awhile (like 15 years) but I still have two b-ball sweatshirts with my high school name on them that I wear - cause I love them.  I doubt anyone would think I looked young enough to be in high school but if I was younger - but still over 20 - they might have.

This! I always wear my high school and college sweatshirts and I know I look like I'm 15, but who cares!

MNmomofQ

I am sure that I am digging myself a hole right now, but it doesn't hurt my feelings to get flamed:)

Okay, so I was being a b*** in my head then. (it is not like I went up to her and said "you hussy how dare you be at the mall," I didn't give her the side eye either)

Also I don't think you should have to hide in your house if you or pregnant and a teenager.

I was just asking opinions so I could see where you ladies were at and re-adjust my attitude. I just don't like the idea that being a pregnant teen is something cool.

 

LuJackCity

First, who cares?

Second, I look so young and occasionally will wear a tee shirt from high school. I have a ton from the various clubs and sports I participated in. If you saw me you would most likely think I was a 17 year old with 2 kids. 

She may have been 17 she may have been 25, either way it's her life and not yours.

Save your judgment for something that really matters. 

LuJackCity

aartzer:

I am sure that I am digging myself a hole right now, but it doesn't hurt my feelings to get flamed:)

Okay, so I was being a b*** in my head then. (it is not like I went up to her and said "you hussy how dare you be at the mall," I didn't give her the side either)

Also I don't think you should have to hide in your house if you or pregnant and a teenager.

I was just asking opinions so I could see where you ladies were at and re-adjust my attitude. I just don't like the idea that being a pregnant teen is something cool.

 

Where in this thread did anyone say it was cool to be a pregnant teenager. I for one would guess it would be awful. I mean with all those people judging you...

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drewiekc

I judge. I know I shouldnt, but I do.  But really, it's not just kids "these days".  I graduated from high school 15 years ago and there were pregnant girls back then too.  It's really nothing new.

emily0829

aartzer:

I am sure that I am digging myself a hole right now, but it doesn't hurt my feelings to get flamed:)

Okay, so I was being a b*** in my head then. (it is not like I went up to her and said "you hussy how dare you be at the mall," I didn't give her the side eye either)

Also I don't think you should have to hide in your house if you or pregnant and a teenager.

I was just asking opinions so I could see where you ladies were at and re-adjust my attitude. I just don't like the idea that being a pregnant teen is something cool.

 

Who said it was cool? All anyone said was that you were assuming something that you knew nothing about, and then you had to come on TB and basically say "THERE WAS A PREGNANT TEENAGER!" when, in fact, you didn't know if she was a teenager. The only "evidence" you had was her sweat shirt, which many PP confirmed that they, too, in their 20s + still have high school clothing.

Also, say she was a pregnant teenager, so, just because she's walking around the mall means that she thinks it's "cool"?

SimoneSays22

Wait, am I reading this right? This chick had on a high school shirt and was pregnant and you are just assuming she's in high school and therefore judging?

Yeah.... I'm thinking that's not so cool on your part OP. I look young and I still wear plenty of things from high school. I also couldn't wear my wedding ring at the end of pregnancy.

Even if she is pregnant and in high school, it's really none of your business, IMO. 

CherryStarburst

QueenBee320:

jamiemsmith:

I taught High School last year, it is a huge reality check. I was pregnant at the end of the year and a few of my students were giving me advice. I found out this year that one of the girls is pregnant again. I just feel bad for them. I wish they could have experienced more before life became so serious. Then again, they knew the consequences of sex at such a young age, whether it was protected or not.

We just learned in my adolescent development psych class that the frontal cortex of the brain is still developing in teenagers and because of this they lack the ability to really plan ahead and think of the consequences of their actions, even though they know they can get pregnant they might not think of it when they make the decision to have sex. 

isn't that interesting ... so when DOES it develop?

ckerr1

***SweetPea***:

I know plenty of people who still wear their high school t-shirts or sweatshirts and they have been out of highschool for years and years.  Doesn't mean she was still in high school.  Or maybe she just graduated and is 18.

ckerr1

***SweetPea***:

I know plenty of people who still wear their high school t-shirts or sweatshirts and they have been out of highschool for years and years.  Doesn't mean she was still in high school.  Or maybe she just graduated and is 18.

This exactly.  I still have several high school t-shirts and i'm 27.  I probably wouldn't wear them out as they are old and ratty but I still have them nonetheless. 

hippotree

I'm wearing a college hoodie as I type.  I have been out of college for over a decade.  I think you need to get over yourself.

Libby1978

Brandi Bee:

If she was visibly pregnant, she's obviously had time to get over the idea.  Yes, getting pregnant in HS is not a very wise thing.  But that doesn't mean she needs to hide.  That's kinda sh1tty.  Plus, what if she isn't keeping the baby?  You don't know what her plans are.

So, yes.  You are a judgy biitch.

Totally off subject, but I love your LO's name.  Isla was on our girl name list! 

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MNmomofQ

Okay I judge, bad me for judging.

So, now we all know that if you are pregnant and wearing a high school shirt regardless of your age I will be shaking my finger at you in my head because I cannot distinguish how old you are.

 

I will work on being less of a judgy b**** in the future.

Rene585

I look young for my age, Im often asked how old I really am, Im 25..... Last year when I was (very) preg some of the only sweatshirts that fit me were my or my husbands old highschool ones..... So I guess, maybe she just looked really young? Even if she was, and is very pregnant - things happen.

MrsQueale

SimoneSays22:

Wait, am I reading this right? This chick had on a high school shirt and was pregnant and you are just assuming she's in high school and therefore judging?

Yeah.... I'm thinking that's not so cool on your part OP. I look young and I still wear plenty of things from high school. I also couldn't wear my wedding ring at the end of pregnancy.

Even if she is pregnant and in high school, it's really none of your business, IMO. 

This. You don't know her plans, or her situation.

aabreu32

SimoneSays22:

Wait, am I reading this right? This chick had on a high school shirt and was pregnant and you are just assuming she's in high school and therefore judging?

Yeah.... I'm thinking that's not so cool on your part OP. I look young and I still wear plenty of things from high school. I also couldn't wear my wedding ring at the end of pregnancy.

Even if she is pregnant and in high school, it's really none of your business, IMO. 

Another good point - I also couldn't wear my wedding ring after about 7 months - so anytime I rocked a high school sweatshirt (I bought them all XXL so they always fit) and didn't have my ring on - I guess I was an unmarried pregnant high school student.