My mother is driving me NUTS- long vent

bunnymama625 · April 2011

I love my mother-- she's smart, fun, and generally awesome... but we are both pretty strong willed, and that can lead to some interesting head clashes...

I should preface this by saying my mother is very southern- she has an amazing ability to insult you to your face in such a sweet, nice way that you thank her for it- so all of this was said in a very "I just love you so much" voice...

1) She threatened to call child protective services if I get LO a bouncer that vibrates- she says she was joking...

2) She's mentioned MULTIPLE times that maybe she'll just take the baby back with her after her visit (again-- just kidding!)

3) She suggested the baby sleep with her when they come

4) She keeps sending me articles on the benefits of breastfeeding and vaccines-- we've already said multiple times we are doing both

5) She keeps calling the baby Trixie- we aren't sharing the name yet, but that's not it. She finally said she plans on calling the baby that no matter what we name her (I'm just kidding you, sweetie!)

6) She keeps saying how she wants to help out with the stuff we need, but every time I think of something, she tells me how it has to wait until the next paycheck b/c she spent so much on the shower.... (she made all sorts of great food, which was awesome, but if I hear the cost of the ingredients one more time...)- 3 days later "just tell me if you need anything! I want to help!"

7) She's just so sad she lives so far away and can't go to my ultrasounds (I dont think I would have her there if she lived next door...)

8) DH has been trying to find a job in NC, where they live- no luck yet... she asks EVERY DAY

9) If she asks me how I am and I say anything but "perfect", I need to call the dr.- if I say I'm fine, then "well, if you want to risk Trixie's health..."

10) when I went down for the shower, she tried to force me to go to an obgyn down there, b/c she "just doesn't KNOW" the one we are using

11) She likes to tell me over and over that the policy in our birthing center of checking you out after 12 hours "is illegal!"

12) we are trying to get as much organic as possible, she makes me go over the reasons over and over, despite the fact that she buys almost entirely organic food and is a strong believer in home gardens for produce and shopping locally

13) She actually told me in the sweetest southern terms that i need to put out more-- no idea where this came from, but not really something I was discussing with her!

14) told her at christmas I couldn't afford to fly down for easter... she's still asking every week

15) she offered to buy us this Ikea dresser we want (we'll put a changing pad on top)- great, right? - I told her we would wait to get it until we move June 1- now it's the worlds most complicated project for her- she actually told me she's getting stressed- I'm tempted to tell her to skip it- btw- there's an Ikea less than a mile away...

16) She keeps saying that when we move south one day I won't be working anymore- I've told her a hundred times that I will always be working, at least part time- she finally told me she prefers her version, and that I don't know what will happen. (not sure how she knows if I dont..)

17) My ILs are a pain- no surprise there- they said they were passing my parents on a vacation trip this month, so I left a ton of the baby shower gifts there that they said they would bring back with them... now they aren't going- my mother suggests her shipping everything- I keep telling her I didn't leave anything I'll need the first week, she can just bring it all with her instead of spending all that money, she says ok... next phone conversation "so, I guess I could ship everything..."

sigh-- sorry to rant on for so long, but yet another phone conversation and I almost crossed the line into "disrespectful"-- had to vent!! I love her but she drives me nuts!

gymnst1013 · April 2011

Holy smokes! That is quite a list you have there!! Sorry she is driving you nuts!

salk72788 · April 2011

OMG i could say the same things about my mother (however we are not close at all) SO SORRY i would find this soo annoying!!

sunshine336 · April 2011

Those conversations sound like they having you pulling out your hair- sorry for you! Maybe she'll back off a little after the baby arrives (hopefully anyway).