Joy hates her Grandpa

DreadLoc

Whenever we go to visit my family and it's my dad's turn to hold her, she screams her head off.  It's actually pretty funny watch her go from laughing with my mom to screaming with my dad.  I have no idea why she hates him, but I feel so bad for him because he's starting to not want to hold her because he doesn't want to hear her scream.  He's the only person she acts like this with and she's only been doing this for about two months so it's a relatively new behavior.

Any other LO's out there that hate a specific person?   

MStason

DD and DS both want nothing to do with my stepmother. She is a little strange but overall a nice lady. She is great with both of them and very loving. For some reason DD is always giving her the side eye and DS just freaks when she gets near him. I feel bad, but I still laugh.

Brit710

Yeah. DS has always hated my brother.  He's really awkward around DS though.  He's not used to babies and I think DS senses he's uncomfortable holding him.

He also hates his pedi.  The pedi just had to look at him and he cried hysterically. 

Ananke

DS cries almost every time I hand him to MIL.

jjmcnw04

Coy hates my mother in law! He screams everytime she takes him.

write2nicole

Mrs. Lacy, does your father use cologne, aftershave, or a hair product? Even an ointment or cream might give off a scent that might bother some babies.

I have a grandmother who is just not great with babies or super-shy children. Lots of times she just comes on too strong at first and scares them. Luckily, she doesn't take it personally, and she's really good with kids about 4 & up.

I also suspect that some of the babies who don't like MILs might be picking up on tension between mom & grandmother.

You might try having him hand her toys while your mom is holding her, and slowly warm up to her that way. I feel so bad for your dad. I know it hurts, even if he knows it's not really personal.

DreadLoc

write2nicole:

Mrs. Lacy, does your father use cologne, aftershave, or a hair product? Even an ointment or cream might give off a scent that might bother some babies.

I have a grandmother who is just not great with babies or super-shy children. Lots of times she just comes on too strong at first and scares them. Luckily, she doesn't take it personally, and she's really good with kids about 4 & up.

I also suspect that some of the babies who don't like MILs might be picking up on tension between mom & grandmother.

You might try having him hand her toys while your mom is holding her, and slowly warm up to her that way. I feel so bad for your dad. I know it hurts, even if he knows it's not really personal.

No, he doesn't wear any fragrance or hair product or anything that would alter his smell.  We thought it was his cap and glasses at first so he takes it off before she sees him.  She still freaks out.  We then thought it was his goatee and he shaved it off....nope, still didn't work.   There is no tension between us.  

I feel terrible too but at this point we just laugh it off and hope it passes.

write2nicole

Well, I know when our nephew went through his stranger anxiety phase(s), he would scream if DH would try to hold him. The rest of us didn't try; we just left him to his mom & grandma after that. But today, our nephew LOVES to play with DH. Partially because DH plays games like "Crash" that no one else will play, but really because DH loves him and loves playing with him.

It sounds like you've tried everything you can for now, but I'm sure she'll grow out of it.

mcmann05

It will pass...might take a while but it will. My niece was scared to death of DH for about 2 years off and on, he was in Iraq so he wasn't there consistently enough for her to get use to him. It was also about the same age as your DD.

ETA: I'm sure your DD sees your dad more than my niece saw DH while he was in Iraq so hopefully it won't take long for it to pass!

kimmyt09

Yes, he cries everytime he's around my MIL and the grandmother. But, hand him to my FIL or his great grandpa, and he's happy as a clam. There's just something about them he's not ok with. 

SimoneSays22

Ananke:

DS cries almost every time I hand him to MIL.

This. My MIL is starting to get a complex. I don't know what to do.  

Tassie06

That's funny, well, not for your dad. Ethan does the same with my sister. He sees her often enough, but everytime she comes into the room he starts crying.  But he'll smile at strangers.