Intro and a question

smj8507

I wanted to introduce myself to begin with my DH and I have been TTC baby #2 since November 2009.  I have been on clomid for a total of about 8 months with a two month break in between.  I am now up to 200mg of clomid and think I did ovulate this cycle according to the OPK.   I have not been to an RE yet, but I do have my first appointment on Wednesday.  I think that it would be better just to get more information and testing than what my gyno has done, which is basically nothing.  She said it worked once with no problem if we can just get you to ovulate it should happen again. Anyway now to my question.  I am very tense and stressed, and will be crushed if I can't have another child.  My DH on the other hand could care less one way or the other.  He is very against doing anything to promote pregnancy meaning infertility treatments.  He has recently complained to me that I am sucking all the passion out of our sex life and that he doesn't want to have to have sex on certain days he just wants to do it when we are in the mood and if a baby comes then a baby comes.  I know this is kinda personal stuff but I was wondering how you guys keep the passion in your sex lives?  What do you do to keep it from being a chore? 

P.S.I don't know all the abbreviations so bare with me on that. 

just1day

My DH says the same thing--I try to get him psyched up for 4-5 nights of sex by laying out the lingerie I'll be wearing each night.  Really works to get my DH in the mood as he's a visual person, and enjoys lingerie (what guy doesn't, I guess). 

pharmacygirl

My DH doesn't like the idea of on demand sex but if I'm initiating he has no problem with it. I make baby making more about him. That way he won't resent having to do it when I say. I also tell him That next week we're working on a baby just so he's prepared but when the week comes we don't talk about it. He has been super cooperative for the past 18 months.

jennykg1477

Welcome!  Sorry you have to be here.  I hope that you did ovulate this month and you will get your BFP and won't have to worry about getting DH to participate in boring TTC sex!  My DH is pretty cooperative, but he does say that he would like it to be more fun.  I unfortunately don't do too much to make it more fun for him because we always have such a time crunch.  Maybe some fun lingerie would do the trick?

choirgirl

You know, I'm in the same boat with DH, particularly the part about how I would feel crushed if we didn't make it, and how he just doesn't seem to mind.

I warn him in advance what week is coming up, and ask if his boys are ready, etc., and it's marginally helpful 

Also, welcome, and I hope you get your BFP so soon you don't even have to settle in here (but you are welcome as long as you need)!

JnJ62406

Welcome!  I hope your stay here is short and sweet.  Since DH & I have been trying for over 3 years now we kind of just come to realize when it's that time we need to do it no matter what.  We are trying to make things more interesting if time allows as we too are very strapped for time these days.