s/o bonding - my probably irrational fear

gymnst1013

I'm so afraid that my son and I won't bond for some reason

kmv68

I think  it is a normal first time mom fear.  I was afraid of this too.  With all the health issues my DD had I didn't get to even hold her (except for 10 min right after birth) for the rest of the entire day or night of her first day of life. It made me even more worried about bonding with her......but it happened, quite quickly and happily

As a second time mom, I am not worried about it though.

jellybeanjean

i don't think it's irrational or uncommon, for that matter.  i had the same fear last time, and though it took longer for me to bond with him than i would have liked (i loved him immediately, but it wasn't the head-over-heels love that i expected until he started interacting more with me and i got to "know" him), it did happen.  i've never met a mother who tried to and hadn't yet bonded with her toddler or preschooler or school-aged child.  it will happen, absolutely.

luckyluvr

I was scared to death to hold and feed my son until we got home from the hospital and I had no choice. It will happen; don't be too worried or hard on yourself

gymnst1013

Thanks for the reassurance guys

Sazhrah

I feel the same way. I don't get all googley when he kicks and moves around and just don't see the "magic" moment happen. I felt this way with my first son and it took about 2 months to really bond with him. I am afraid that will happen again.

ChristinaMT4

I think it's a common fear. I remember worrying about it with my first baby. But when he was born I felt a rush of the purest love and joy I'd ever felt in my life, it was pretty amazing. I thought all women felt that way but when I talked to others about it I found out that some took days or weeks or longer to bond. And that's okay. I definitely didn't feel the same rush of emotions with my other two as I did with my first. I bonded, but it was more of a calm feeling, I guess because there was no surprise, I already knew I would love them. I wouldn't worry too much, have a feeling you're going to do just fine.