Updated re "am I being paranoid"

monkski

I posted last night about not wanting my mom to come watch the kids today because she has the cold we gave her last week. So she was going to call me in the morning to discuss, but she calls me while she is in the car on the way here! So now there is no way I can turn her around. She lives a little over an hour away. My DH already decided to work from home today too because he is slow at work with spring break and all. So we definitely don't need her to come. I'm sure we will be just fine, but it's just so annoying that she is blatantly ignoring my requests and fears about getting reinfected.

I think I'm mostly annoyed because it's not the first time that she has just come over when she was sick. A few times she didn't even tell me she wasn't feeling well until she decided she had to go home and lay down because she had a fever. Then my dad says "oh, she wasn't really sick, she just threw up once in the morning and was fine."  SERIOUSLY!?

musicmamma09

Oh I am sorry.  Can she maybe help you around the house instead of with the babies since your hubby is home too?  I would feel uncomfortable having anyone over that "threw up once in the morning".  DD had an ear infection about a month ago and that was tough enough to handle since I was sick too.  I can't imagine having two sick babies. 

Can you tell her that you really don't want everyone to get sick again and ask her why she decided to come over anyway?

 

Good luck today.

MrsFv20

I would tell her to turn right around because you aren't letting her in. My mom pulls this stuff ALL the time where she won't tell me that she's sick, or she'll try to downplay it so she can keep her weekly visit with the baby. I finally lost patience when she showed up one Sunday obviously ill, and I said nicely but firmly that I was so sorry she drove all the way over but it didn't look like she was feeling well, and we'd have to have the visit another time. She didn't even get a foot in the door and she lives over an hour away. It only took doing that once for her to learn that I was serious about her not coming over if she is sick.

monkski

MrsFv20:

I would tell her to turn right around because you aren't letting her in. My mom pulls this stuff ALL the time where she won't tell me that she's sick, or she'll try to downplay it so she can keep her weekly visit with the baby. I finally lost patience when she showed up one Sunday obviously ill, and I said nicely but firmly that I was so sorry she drove all the way over but it didn't look like she was feeling well, and we'd have to have the visit another time. She didn't even get a foot in the door and she lives over an hour away. It only took doing that once for her to learn that I was serious about her not coming over if she is sick.

What is up with them? I get that they want to see their grandkids, but why don't they understand that having a sick kids (or kids in our case) really sucks! I was definitely too much of a pushover. I will let it slide this time because it's the cold we gave her, but she is still using hand sanitizer every chance I get and I told her it can just be a quick visit since DH is home anyways. So at least she won't be here all day.

MapleStar

monkski:

I think I'm mostly annoyed because it's not the first time that she has just come over when she was sick. A few times she didn't even tell me she wasn't feeling well until she decided she had to go home and lay down because she had a fever.

monkski:

I was definitely too much of a pushover. I will let it slide this time because it's the cold we gave her

Given these two tidbits, it is no surprise she keeps coming over and I doubt it will change anytime soon.  You knew she has done this before and you aren't willing to put your foot down, so you can't really complain about it.  Just sayin.