no sex drive?

bluerevolution9

This might be TMI, but I don't really have anyone to ask/talk to about it.  Since getting pregnant I have had NO desire to have sex.  None.  I thought it was because I was so nauseous and sick the first trimester, but the sickness has passed, and the sex drive is still no where to be found.  I have forced myself into 'the mood' a few times for the sake of my husband, but it was hard to enjoy it. It just didn't feel the way it used to.  Its not that I am afraid of hurting the baby, I just don't feel like having sex.  Im starting to feel terrible about it, because DH, bless his heart, has been really good about it, but I know he is loosing his mind a bit. 

Anyone else feeling like this?   Its not like I can drink some wine and just let go, so any ideas to feel sexy would be great.  But truthfully, I just feel like my body is busy with something else right now.  Im just not into it. 

Stellar1

I too was really sick and tired the first few months but still didn't really have a sex drive even once I started feeling better. I just started wanting to have sex again recently. I think it really all has to do with hormones. Good luck!

Selena2008

OMG, yes there has been a few times TOPS that I have felt halfway in the mood. Usually the idea of it since Ive been preg just makes me tired and not even wanna go there. I feel bad for my fiance, but the hormones are so bad..it doesnt seem natural. =/

shortie2008

I didn't have anything remotely resembling a sex drive in my first tri--bloated, barf-y, and just generally not feeling it. I felt so bad for my DH, because we used to have sex at least 3 times a week, and then it was once every other week if he was lucky. He started taking really long showers there for a while... lol.

When we did have sex, it was great. Then it became not so great. My brain was like, "Yeah buddy!!" but refused to send the message to my lady bits. And it HURT. KY Yours and Mine is awesome, though, in addition to a LOT of foreplay. Any lube, really, although that one was fun because we started to focus more on other acts instead of just intercourse. I think it helped me knowing not only was the lube going to make it less/not painful for me, but it was something new.

It's proven that the more you have sex, the more you want it--even if it's solo. Have you tried warming yourself up a bit before hand? Fantasies, books (overshare, but I really like the 'fairy tales for women'), movies (from 9 1/2 weeks to Debby Does Dallas, whatever gets your engine going!)... toys... If you think stress has something to do with it, hop in the tub or take a long shower and just unwind. Not as effective as wine, I know, but it may help. 

Just recently (I'm 19 weeks, so probably two weeks ago) I started getting it back. And of course my hubby is in Basic. Not sure if it's "Now I can't have it, so I want it!!" or the hormones finally took pity on me... I'm just looking forward to June, when he graduates. Pretty sure I won't let him leave the hotel!!