"Well, twins come early..."

Mrs.Greg

Why do people insist on making this comment almost every single time I say when I'm due??  I'm totally not exaggerating, I hear this at least once a day.  I work in the county court house and know a lot of people who work in the building, not just within my office.  I'm asked almost every day, "When exactly are you due?"  I'm so tired of people reminding me that my babies will surely be born early.  Today I heard it from a guy at my office who has, no joke, said to me like ten times already since I announced to my co-workers. 

GiGi1221

I remember that- I would always say, "well sometimes they do, but I plan on baking these guys as long as possible!"

MoMandA

Mine did not. I was induced at 39 weeks and 6 days. I had fantasies about going around town and giving all sorts of people the finger for making those comments. But it was too much work.

praying*4one

It's annoying for sure. Ignore them.

tinkerbelle

It's pretty annoying.  I don't hear it as much at work as I do in other places (friends, church).  One of the ladies in my office is a mother of twins and she actually went past her due date, so she likes to remind me  that "they don't always come early", which gives me some hope.  I want them to stay in there as long as possible.

babydontforget

I hear what you're saying, but honestly, at work I was often the one saying that. It was because I wanted everybody to be prepared for the fact that I could be out of work at any time. I'd say when my due date was, and then, "But twins often come early..."

fuzrabbit

Oh please!  Tell that guy to talk to my ginormous belly!  I'm going on 39 weeks and these little devils are tucked in there tightly.  I just had an appointment yesterday and the Dr. said there was plenty of fluid inside there to keep them happy for another week!  Ugh!!  

People will always have something to say...blow it off & good luck to you!! 

blondek8

MoMandA:

Mine did not. I was induced at 39 weeks and 6 days. I had fantasies about going around town and giving all sorts of people the finger for making those comments. But it was too much work.

LOL. You did go the distance!

Whenever people asked me when I was due I would say, much like a broken record, "I'm due October 22 but my OB's policy for twins is to induce at 38 weeks if I make it. 38 weeks is October 8."  I had to be induced and the boys were born October 7. Ignore a lot of the comments if you can. They only get more frequent after they're born.

 

MrsB*7*21

3 weeks ago, all of my coworkers were telling me that there was no way I would make it 5 more weeks and that I wouldn't be back to work after Spring Break - and I'm not even that big for having twins.  Anyway, today is my last day of work...the same day I said would be my last day when we found out it was twins.  So glad I made it just to prove them all wrong!  Now to make it to the 14th!

babya2010

babydontforget:

I hear what you're saying, but honestly, at work I was often the one saying that. It was because I wanted everybody to be prepared for the fact that I could be out of work at any time. I'd say when my due date was, and then, "But twins often come early..."

This was me exactly. I guess I don't really see what the big deal is. It's not like they're telling you horror stories about twin pregnancies... One of my coworkers told me about 2 days after I found out mine were b/g, "My husband had a twin sister but she died shortly after birth." UM...thanks for that.

98% of the time (see FAQs) twins DO come at least 2 weeks early, and there is nothing wrong with that.

amanda31H

babya2010:

babydontforget:

I hear what you're saying, but honestly, at work I was often the one saying that. It was because I wanted everybody to be prepared for the fact that I could be out of work at any time. I'd say when my due date was, and then, "But twins often come early..."

This was me exactly. I guess I don't really see what the big deal is. It's not like they're telling you horror stories about twin pregnancies... One of my coworkers told me about 2 days after I found out mine were b/g, "My husband had a twin sister but she died shortly after birth." UM...thanks for that.

98% of the time (see FAQs) twins DO come at least 2 weeks early, and there is nothing wrong with that.

I'm with you guys.  I was always saying that to prepare everyone at work- AND my family that my girls wouldn't be born when we originally thought (when we thought it was a singleton pregnancy).  I don't see what the big deal is with that...I can't remember many people saying that, but honestly I would have preferred that to many other comments! 

And your co-worker comment was AWFUL!  People are so so so dumb.

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honestly, ladies- while we have many very lucky women on this board who have carried to term --- the simple fact is that the avg twin birth is 35-36w.... many much sooner, and yes, some much later.

so- while it might be annoying- it's the truth.  why not just say 'my due date is XYZ but they certainly could come sooner, as twins often do" so you don't have to hear others say it?  I don't understand getting upset over it- it's true... you know that.... so just head them off and say it first - that is what I always did.  And i went to 38w no problems- but know i was damn scared of having preemies since that is a huge risk with twins.

Mrs.Greg

I think my issue with it is, these people don't know a thing about twins.  When you ladies say here, it's not offensive at all.  You all KNOW.  I feel like when people say this to me when they don't have twins or know anyone close to them who has twns, they are just talking out of their a$$.  Sorry, but it annoys me.  There are three people at my office who have twins (Sounds like a lot for one office but there are over 200 employees!) and they are all women.  The earliest twins from these women were born at 34 weeks.  They all tell me that I can make it into the last 5 weeks, it's definitely possible, two out of three of them did, you just never know.

nikinikinine

One of my (very good) friends said to me when I was pregnant. "You're so lucky because you won't have to carry to 40 weeks" 

Seriously?

I almost bit her head off.  

MeggM1

Goldie_Locks_5:

honestly, ladies- while we have many very lucky women on this board who have carried to term --- the simple fact is that the avg twin birth is 35-36w.... many much sooner, and yes, some much later.

so- while it might be annoying- it's the truth.  why not just say 'my due date is XYZ but they certainly could come sooner, as twins often do" so you don't have to hear others say it?  I don't understand getting upset over it- it's true... you know that.... so just head them off and say it first - that is what I always did.  And i went to 38w no problems- but know i was damn scared of having preemies since that is a huge risk with twins.

This is what I say in bold above - "I'm due July 1 but my doctor won't let me go past June 10."  And I agree with what the above poster said - talking amongst you ladies and other twin moms is one thing, talking to strangers who has a friend with a friend with a cousin with twins is totally different and annoying.

The early thing isn't as bad as the immediate assumption that they'll be in the NICU.  We know good and well that they could be, but if you say that in front of my husband, he will lose it.  Some strangers, and even my family, seem to get excited to tell us horror stories or to talk to us about babies being in intensive care, and that's just not right.

tSquared1987

nikinikinine:

One of my (very good) friends said to me when I was pregnant. "You're so lucky because you won't have to carry to 40 weeks" 

Seriously?

I almost bit her head off.  

one of my brother's good friends said this to me after I delivered my boys at 30 weeks. The remote hit him right in the head. Dumba$$.

I would've given my right arm to be able to carry my boys past 30 weeks.

Kimmy08

I have gotten a comment from a man that said having my twins 2 months early was "normal" for twins. Um, really? I almost punched him.

McKenna04

My grandma had her twins a few days after her EDD.  BUT, that was 45 years ago & she didn't know she was having twins.

I was induced at 38w5d.