Mother and Registery - Vent

EllenK11

I apologize if this has been brought up before.  My DH and I registered yesterday and I thought we did a nice job of getting things at different price points as well as not registering for a ton of stuff since we live in a small house. According to my mother I failed on both accounts.  I registered for things the baby will need right away and a couple of things for when the baby is a little bit older.  I registered for a car seat for after they outgrow the infant seat and a jumparoo for when they are a little older also.  I was told that was rude, I certainly don't want to offend anyone and if I don't get them, that is fine with me. I also registered for a bouncy seat and a swing, which is also apparently too many things to put the baby in. We are team green so it was harder to register for some things b/c some many things are pink and blue so I did somethings in sage green which I was also told that babies don'tlook good in that color.  I know it is our baby and what my mother thinks shouldn't matter, but I don't want to seem greedy or rude to people.  Did other people register for a few things for later or am I completely wrong.  Also, I am just having a "hormonal" day and I was really excited about our registery and now I just feel like crying and deleting the whole thing.

Thanks for letting me vent!

MandiNewMommy

I was told to put EVERYTHING on there...if people want to buy it they can if not no biggie..but I know a lot of places also give you money off what you don't get so that is my thinking...lol 

BonitaKaz

Register for everything you guys will need.

If someone doesn't want to buy you a carseat or whatever, they won't.

Your mom doesn't have to buy it for you either ;-) Cheer up, you aren't being rude or gift grabby, these are all things you guys will need for the baby.

jgray6651

I think the more that is on the registry, the better.  People need to know what you want.  If they want to get you something, then I'm sure that they want to get you something that you want, whether it's for the baby immediately or in a few months.  I put absolutely everything on my registry, from bottles to car seats to diapers to swings.  I would rather people have things to choose from than to have no idea what to get.

 Plus, I like the idea of being able to get 10% off the things that I have to buy later.

buckyfan30

A girl I used to work with registered at 2 places and when buying her a gift, the registries were pages and pages long (10+)! She registered for a lot of "later" items, including sip cups, bigger outfits..everything..I felt like she was being a tad greedy.  I'd say look through and ask yourself if it's really something you've got to have and just be sure you're comfortable with what you've registered for. 

Dh and I did not go "all out" on our registry..we did register a travel system, bouncer, swing, pack n play.. and those are our only bigger items plus a few bottles, tub, bumbo..   I felt like at every baby shower I've gone to practically everyone buys you outfits, blankets etc. so there wasn't a need for me to do so.

michellecoge

We registered for alot of baby items as well as some "down the road" items. If we get them, great! And if not, it's not a big deal. You register how you want to register, it's one of those times when you may need to ignore your mom. Hope this helps

beachgirl10

This may sound vague, but your registry should include a variety of items that are priced low, middle and high. This is so people don't have to buy the high priced items if they can't. However, like a PP said, if your registry includes a lot for later down the road and it is 10 pages long, then it(in my opinion) looks very gift-grabby. 

Baby showers are more for what you need to start out with a baby. They are not to supply you for the baby's first couple of years. I think if you register for stuff to be used in the first 6 months, it is fine.

EllenK11

Everything I put on there would be used in the first 6 months.  I put things from $2.99 to the bigger things like the pack n play and car seat so there is a wide price range for people to choose from. When I printed out the registry it was about 6 pages long.  I know that people like to buy clothes, but it is also hard to find things that are gender neutral so I was trying to make things a little easier, but maybe I ended looking gift grabby.  I swear I thought this would be easier than registering when we got married.

cozylittlecave

I'm definitely not in the "put EVERYTHING on there" camp. In my experience, people can and do find it rude & gift-grabby. That said- everything in moderation.

My personal opinion- a swing/bouncer/jumparoo are all acceptable. I might give you a side eye if they're all top-of-the-line $150+ models or something though. Definitely not 'too many things to put the baby in.' I wouldn't register for the convertible carseat unless you're only getting that one (no infant seat)- that's the only one I kinda agree with your mom on. Again, I'm sure others feel differently, but imho, the only "later use" things I registered for were ones I knew people would find 'fun' to buy (and that were in the $30 range). I only had 2 or 3 such later use things- and they were adorable, affordable toys that would serve as decoration until they could be used (and I only added them to fill out that price range). As per color, sage green is lovely and she should have kept her mouth shut on that one!  

Do you have someone else who could 'proofread' your registry and give you their thoughts? I had my mom and little sis both look through and give me their opinions/thoughts. If you had a MIL, sister, friend, etc look through, their thoughts might make you feel a lot better (or support your mom's thoughts- but I kinda doubt that). Also keep in mind, general consensus on what's rude changes based on location/circles/demographic/etc...

MrsCase1

we registered for neutral items, too. even though we know the sex we are hoping to reuse as much as possible. if someone told me my baby would not look cute in sage green, i would've responded, 'well, i dont know about most babies or even your babies, but mine will be adorable in EVERY color.' 

mgarza1231

You didn't do anything wrong! Everything you registered for sounds normal, people may say that some are offended by whatever, but if they are your family and friends I doubt they will be offended.

fabfive

when i registered for my twins, it was for everything...jumperoo, bouncy seats, swing (stationary & travel), pnps, convertible car seats, travel system (plus extra carseat & base), etc.   my family tends to pool their money to go in on the bigger gifts and/or a lot of smaller items.  i did not register for clothes or things like sippy cups, etc.  if we got those things, great, if not, no biggie.

everybody's gonna have an opinion.  do what is comfortable for YOU! 

bhw5660

It is called a Baby registry and not a Newborn registry.  I don'tt seem anything wrong with the items that you picked.

JennyAnne022776

EllenK11:

Everything I put on there would be used in the first 6 months.  I put things from $2.99 to the bigger things like the pack n play and car seat so there is a wide price range for people to choose from. When I printed out the registry it was about 6 pages long.  I know that people like to buy clothes, but it is also hard to find things that are gender neutral so I was trying to make things a little easier, but maybe I ended looking gift grabby.  I swear I thought this would be easier than registering when we got married.

I have shopped for many, many, many baby showers (since I am an old fart and the last of my friends to have children ).  What you described sounds totally appropriate to me.  I hate pulling up a registry that's two pages long, because then I feel like I'm "on my own" as far as choosing something that the couple would like.  The fact that you have a range is good too.  My friend had a wedding registry where the cheapest item was a cookie sheet that was almost $30.   I would leave your registry as is and be happy that you're done.  I will never understand these mothers and MILs that feel the need to give their opinions all. the. time.  No worries, and don't delete.

Oh, and FYI...we have lots of sage things on our registry.  We love that color!