At a loss...a little bit of a vent

ericav1011

Hi Ladies!

Promise to keep it as short as possible. My divorced MIL has not spoken to DH in a year due to major conflict with the horrifying man she was with (long story). She has recently left that person and has been focused on the fact that she will be a grandmother soon which we actually think is wonderful. She has caused a lot of grief for my DH and all it's caused on my end is anger towards her. I've really put it aside (we had dinner with her, SIL, and BIL last night) and we're trying to move on. The only problem, It's hard for me to get past her demanding and rough demeanor that she can have at times. Divorce has made her bitter and it doesn't help that DH's stepmother is a complete nightmare. One minute she is hot, one minute cold and I can't keep up. I really hit the lotto in the MIL department lol. I hate conflict and I walk on eggshells which really stresses me out. Even the littlest thing, for instance, last night MIL was saying how she plans on calling my mother to offer help re: the shower (my mom is hosting) and she's throwing ideas out to me, but hasn't yet called my mom. Then my mom told me it would've been great if the help was offered sooner, she has everything lol. So, now I have to deal with MIL getting offended, blah blah blah. Anyway, I'm trying to find a way to not let any of this get to me for the sake of not stressing for the baby, it's just extra difficult when hormones are flying lol. I'm thinking DH's family is going to send me to a therapist's couch! I'm sure emotions are flying high for everyone, just needed to get this out and thanks for letting me. :-)

Gwyneddlesliegrace

Why not have her help the day of the shower??? She can help set up and such.

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You need to get thicker skin and tell her or both MIL's to fvck offf!!! Yup I said it... Tell them to fvckoff you don't need their stress. Tell YH mother if she has so many ideas she needs to call your mom. Cut her off and keep it short. She'll get the picture. I have been divorced and my ex's mom was a total psycho biotch. I learned to shut her up. When she called after the divorce demanding things, I ripped that biotch a new arse. I know you hate conflict, but with some people you have to learn how to handle them or they will handle you... Best of luck with this!

Telly21182

Gwyneddlesliegrace:

Why not have her help the day of the shower??? She can help set up and such.

I agree with this!  IMO, the day-of is the worst part of planning a shower/event.  This way MIL is helping and your mom is less stressed. 

ericav1011

mari2003:

You need to get thicker skin and tell her or both MIL's to fvck offf!!! Yup I said it... Tell them to fvckoff you don't need their stress. Tell YH mother if she has so many ideas she needs to call your mom. Cut her off and keep it short. She'll get the picture. I have been divorced and my ex's mom was a total psycho biotch. I learned to shut her up. When she called after the divorce demanding things, I ripped that biotch a new arse. I know you hate conflict, but with some people you have to learn how to handle them or they will handle you... Best of luck with this!

Lol! You're absolutely right. Thanks so much for making me smile :-) 

ericav1011

Telly21182:

Gwyneddlesliegrace:

Why not have her help the day of the shower??? She can help set up and such.

I agree with this!  IMO, the day-of is the worst part of planning a shower/event.  This way MIL is helping and your mom is less stressed. 

I know... that would be a great help to my mother and also includes MIL. Day of help it is. Hopefully that settles it. Thank you :-)