DH tries his best to help out, and he is great at keeping ds#1 occupied so that I can get things done. I just find that I can actually get things done faster and with less stress if he's not here. I just did bedtime routine by myself and had both boys tucked in and sleeping by 8pm, when he does bedtime with me it's 8:30 at the earliest and not without at least one meltdown from ds#1 because dh has him too wound up to go down. Even getting out the door with both kids in the morning is easier and on time if I am alone. You would think that 2 sets of hands would be better than but it's not the case most of the time. Anyone else feel like this? Maybe it's because if I have nobody here to help I move faster and have a plan? Seems weird to me, maybe he gives off wild energy that makes the boys crazy, lol.
Re: Moms of 2+ - re: dh helping out
My DH is super helpful and does a lot to get DD ready in the morning and at night so I can get DS ready. On the one night a week that DH has class, it takes me about an hour longer to get them both ready for bed.
As for running errands, though, it is actually easier for me to take them both on my own than have DH go with us. DD loves to entertain her daddy and it makes things more hectic!