Not really a vent - just bummed.

rosegut

So DH and I found out today we are having a boy! We are excited! We go to call family and quite a people were practically silent. Crickets! A couple even asked "is that what you wanted?"

Our friends were more enthusiastic than our family! It just took the wind out of our sails a bit. We dont need everyone to squeal in delight, but a little inflection would have been enough. I was thinking it was just me and my hormones, but DH confirmed that it seemed a little odd to him too.

Our families were way into this pregnancy since it is the 1st on both sides of our families so we were def a little let down to see that they seemed let down.

Has anyone else had this kind of reaction?

SarahRuthG

We don't find out until tonight. But I can totally see this reaction from H's family. He is Italian and apparently all first born children MUST be male. And MUST be named after a family member. Well maybe its a boy... but it's not getting a family name!

My dad is just weird... I can only image what he is going to say. My mom wants it to be a girl so she will probably be dissapointed if its not. And she isn't good at hiding her feelings.

I already told H I dont want to be calling people all night after the u/s. I want to enjoy the news to ourselves because everyone else gets involved.

jenmarshall88

I haven't run into that but I'm sorry you're going through that. It's an exciting and huge day and it definitely takes away not having family share the excitement. The closest thing I went through is that I wanted that day to be a big day, it was a big deal to have my mother go because she has been the most supportive but she had to fly out of town for her job the day of the u/s and I had found out days before. So instead my dad went(who hasn't been real supportive at all throughout the pregnancy) and he was silent throughout and left before I ever got to talk to him about it. It was definitely disappointing. 

::Hugs:: sorry you're going through that. 

rosegut

Thanks ladies, I just needed to get it off my chest. I am not sure if saying anything will make it better since what's done is done and I don't think anyone did it purposely. But I appreciate the supportiveness for sure!

Jen  - sorry your dad was so stoic. I can imagine how it was a bit of a let down!

elvirarivera08

I completely understand what you are going through. We are expecting our first child, a girl (Emma Rose) in August. We started calling people right as we got back into the car and we wanted them on speaker phone to hear their reactions together and our parents were thrilled but my brother was disappointed, my nephew flat out said "A girl? DARN!" My sister-in-law said "Oh" and then changed the subject and My brother-in-law and girl friend didn't say anything at all. They just ignored us. Oh I was so heart broken. I am trying very hard not to take it personally but it hurt.

 In the end, when Emma is born, I am SURE that she will win all of their hearts over and Emma will win! If not, I will be sure that she throws up all over them

 

Hang in there hun...

 

Hugs to you and your little boy on the way!

catahoulatte

Congrats on the boy!! I haven't gotten that from family, but our secretary did say "Oh, are your in-laws and parents ok with that or are they disappointed?"

But then again, she's an idiot. Trust me, your family will be THRILLED to hold that little boy.

cate42807

... maybe they just weren't sure how to react?  I can definitely see some of my family members being hesitant to celebrate in fear that we "wanted" the other gender (even though we don't care!!).  So excited for you guys though- I may not care which gender we are having, but I sure do get excited by little boys clothes and tiny suits

etoyama

I'm awfully sorry they had that reaction! I don't know what is wrong with people! Honestly! It's a baby, it's a miracle - who CARES if it's a boy or a girl? Just be happy!

MrsCase1

my in-laws were adamant that they wanted a boy grandbaby. i mean, reallllly adamant. so to be funny we told them it was a girl. they sounded thrilled and then when we told them it was a joke, they acted like getting a boy was the worst news we couldve delivered. it was quite confusing. we thought they'd be thrilled. 

michellecoge

My mom cried she was so excited, then I called my step mom and the first words out of her mouth were "Oh, I know your disappointed...". Um, no. In fact, we were thrilled and I was like WTF is wrong with you! Some people are just too much...