Unpopular opinion Thursday

gymnst1013

Let's hear em ladies

MrsEmilyS

It makes me mad when people aren't doing the kick counts.  There were several posts about it last week where ladies said that their doctors wanted them to do the counts but that they were worried it would make them too stressed.  The doctor is asking you to do them for a reason......stuff happens and we need to be our babies advocates if something is wrong.

Flame away. 

mmaxwell818

My 3 year old son isn't potty trained. And I really don't care...I'd be fine if he was in diapers for a while longer. It's so much easier. (DH disagrees..but he's not the one home with him all day every day).

Basically I dont see the rush people have in wanting their LOs potty trained.

amanda1680

We didn't interview pediatricians before choosing a practice.  It seems like way too much work, and if they're really that bad, we will find another place to go. 

egpitt22

It seems to be unpopular with a lot of people, but I sent my son to the nursery at night in the hospital.  He was with us during the day, and I made it very clear to the nurses that I was breastfeeding & that I'd like him brought into my room whenever he needed to be fed through the night.  So, I was still with him every 2 hours or so during the night, but I was still on the mag drip from pre-e, could barely function, and was desperate for that sleep in between feedings.  I was afraid if he was in the room, I would be too worried about him & not relax enough to sleep.

I was happy with my decision, and I'll probably do it again this time around, even if I'm not on the mag drip.  

cvl105

MrsEmilyS:

It makes me mad when people aren't doing the kick counts.  There were several posts about it last week where ladies said that their doctors wanted them to do the counts but that they were worried it would make them too stressed.  The doctor is asking you to do them for a reason......stuff happens and we need to be our babies advocates if something is wrong.

Flame away. 

My Dr specifically said she didn't need me to count. Just to make sure I feel her moving on a regular basis.

doniellek22

I'm totally scamming my work. I am not coming back after my maternity leave and I refuse to give them notice because I want to get paid for the days I earned (we use major illness days, which we earn every month we work here).

jgengo0

MrsEmilyS:

It makes me mad when people aren't doing the kick counts.  There were several posts about it last week where ladies said that their doctors wanted them to do the counts but that they were worried it would make them too stressed.  The doctor is asking you to do them for a reason......stuff happens and we need to be our babies advocates if something is wrong.

Flame away. 

I couldn't agree more. This is so important. I hadn't been using my doppler for a couple of weeks, because I had been feeling constant movement. I noticed Lilah wasn't moving like baby A. Luckily I had my doppler, pulled it out, and it sort of confirmed my fear. However, if I didn't have it I am sure I would have probably just assumed she was lazy that day etc...then would have had an even more horrible surprise the next day. 

On that note I hate the posts ladies write saying I am really worried I can't feel movement what should I do? Or I am worried about ---Fill in the blank.  Either invest in a doppler, or call your doctor. I can't explain how important it is to LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. If you are worried for any reason or can't shake a thought most likely something is wrong. I swear I knew my body told me my worst fear. 

kathetakite

egpitt22:

It seems to be unpopular with a lot of people, but I sent my son to the nursery at night in the hospital.  He was with us during the day, and I made it very clear to the nurses that I was breastfeeding & that I'd like him brought into my room whenever he needed to be fed through the night.  So, I was still with him every 2 hours or so during the night, but I was still on the mag drip from pre-e, could barely function, and was desperate for that sleep in between feedings.  I was afraid if he was in the room, I would be too worried about him & not relax enough to sleep.

I was happy with my decision, and I'll probably do it again this time around, even if I'm not on the mag drip.  

I did the same thing with DD and I plan on doing it again. Personally I thought it was best for me to get plenty of rest while I had the help because I knew it would be rough when I got home. There was a post yesterday about taking the baby away for a couple hours after birth while I got to hold her for an hour I was happy when they took DD to get a bath and what not I was tired and wanted to shower and eat.

cvl105

kathetakite:

egpitt22:

It seems to be unpopular with a lot of people, but I sent my son to the nursery at night in the hospital.  He was with us during the day, and I made it very clear to the nurses that I was breastfeeding & that I'd like him brought into my room whenever he needed to be fed through the night.  So, I was still with him every 2 hours or so during the night, but I was still on the mag drip from pre-e, could barely function, and was desperate for that sleep in between feedings.  I was afraid if he was in the room, I would be too worried about him & not relax enough to sleep.

I was happy with my decision, and I'll probably do it again this time around, even if I'm not on the mag drip.  

I did the same thing with DD and I plan on doing it again. Personally I thought it was best for me to get plenty of rest while I had the help because I knew it would be rough when I got home. There was a post yesterday about taking the baby away for a couple hours after birth while I got to hold her for an hour I was happy when they took DD to get a bath and what not I was tired and wanted to shower and eat.

Every Mom I talk to tells me to take advantage of the nursery while you have it and get your rest while you can!!

egpitt22

cvl105:

kathetakite:

egpitt22:

It seems to be unpopular with a lot of people, but I sent my son to the nursery at night in the hospital.  He was with us during the day, and I made it very clear to the nurses that I was breastfeeding & that I'd like him brought into my room whenever he needed to be fed through the night.  So, I was still with him every 2 hours or so during the night, but I was still on the mag drip from pre-e, could barely function, and was desperate for that sleep in between feedings.  I was afraid if he was in the room, I would be too worried about him & not relax enough to sleep.

I was happy with my decision, and I'll probably do it again this time around, even if I'm not on the mag drip.  

I did the same thing with DD and I plan on doing it again. Personally I thought it was best for me to get plenty of rest while I had the help because I knew it would be rough when I got home. There was a post yesterday about taking the baby away for a couple hours after birth while I got to hold her for an hour I was happy when they took DD to get a bath and what not I was tired and wanted to shower and eat.

Every Mom I talk to tells me to take advantage of the nursery while you have it and get your rest while you can!!

Absolutely!  It's kind of along the same lines of when I hear moms-to-be saying that they don't want to have to share the baby in the first few weeks, or let anyone else hold him or her...trust me, you'll need a break. You will love that little baby more than you can ever imagine possible, but you'll need a break from holding/carrying/swaying that will go on alllllll day & allllll night!

luvbeingmom

doniellek22:

I'm totally scamming my work. I am not coming back after my maternity leave and I refuse to give them notice because I want to get paid for the days I earned (we use major illness days, which we earn every month we work here).

i did the same thing... i knew about a month before i left that i wasn't coming back. i still took off a month before my due date and collected my 100% maternity leave for that month. then another 100% maternity leave for 10 weeks after...

however, i did quit before i was technically expected back. dd was due may 28th, and i told them i'd be back in september... i officially quit in august...

growingmybun

I don't want to go to my Glucose screening tomorrow.  My doctor does a 2-hour test (apparently this is a new thing) and I really don't want to sit there and be annoyed and hungry for two hours.  I know that it's important and I am definitely going, but I just want to complain about it.

kimbo1216

cvl105:

kathetakite:

egpitt22:

It seems to be unpopular with a lot of people, but I sent my son to the nursery at night in the hospital.  He was with us during the day, and I made it very clear to the nurses that I was breastfeeding & that I'd like him brought into my room whenever he needed to be fed through the night.  So, I was still with him every 2 hours or so during the night, but I was still on the mag drip from pre-e, could barely function, and was desperate for that sleep in between feedings.  I was afraid if he was in the room, I would be too worried about him & not relax enough to sleep.

I was happy with my decision, and I'll probably do it again this time around, even if I'm not on the mag drip.  

I did the same thing with DD and I plan on doing it again. Personally I thought it was best for me to get plenty of rest while I had the help because I knew it would be rough when I got home. There was a post yesterday about taking the baby away for a couple hours after birth while I got to hold her for an hour I was happy when they took DD to get a bath and what not I was tired and wanted to shower and eat.

Every Mom I talk to tells me to take advantage of the nursery while you have it and get your rest while you can!!

Exactly what I've been told!  I plan on taking advantage of the nurses and the nursery while I can.  I've got weeks to lose sleep at home!

 

My UO: I don't understand why parents wake their sleeping babies to feed them.  If they're asleep, just let them sleep.  If they need food, they will let you know.

luvbeingmom

i think "push gifts" are stupid

really, you want a gift for giving birth to your own child. as if your husband or so doesn't have enough to worry about, now he has to get you a gift? i think it's selfish entitlement crap.

is childbirth hard? yep... do you deserve a present afterwards? um no, see that little person in your arms, that's your gift. you don't need a piece of jewelry or something to commemorate the occasion.

however, i might find one exception to that, if you're getting a gift with the baby's birthstone or something... even then, i find it ridiculous to ask or infer that you should be getting a push gift.

samfish2bcrab

parents wake their sleeping babies to feed them because they're told to by a doctor.   i an assure you, sleep would have been preferable, but since my DD was losing weight and was a lazy eater she HAD to be woken every 2.5 hours.

I hope the hospital I'm delivering int his time takes babies at night.

samfish2bcrab

luvbeingmom:

i think "push gifts" are stupid

really, you want a gift for giving birth to your own child. as if your husband or so doesn't have enough to worry about, now he has to get you a gift? i think it's selfish entitlement crap.

is childbirth hard? yep... do you deserve a present afterwards? um no, see that little person in your arms, that's your gift. you don't need a piece of jewelry or something to commemorate the occasion.

however, i might find one exception to that, if you're getting a gift with the baby's birthstone or something... even then, i find it ridiculous to ask or infer that you should be getting a push gift.

You're a week late, buttercup.

:::tosses hair to show off sparkly diamonds from first birth:::

kate05

I may have posted this one before.  I am tired and I can't remember.  I think chocolate and peanut butter together are gross.  I like PB & Js and (almost) anything with chocolate but any type of Peanut Butter dessert is not good.  I think putting them together ruins the chocolate.

sjacks

luvbeingmom:

i think "push gifts" are stupid

really, you want a gift for giving birth to your own child. as if your husband or so doesn't have enough to worry about, now he has to get you a gift? i think it's selfish entitlement crap.

is childbirth hard? yep... do you deserve a present afterwards? um no, see that little person in your arms, that's your gift. you don't need a piece of jewelry or something to commemorate the occasion.

however, i might find one exception to that, if you're getting a gift with the baby's birthstone or something... even then, i find it ridiculous to ask or infer that you should be getting a push gift.

I totally agree. Pushing gifts are stupid. I don't need a gift to reward myself for doing something very natural that billions of women have done.

afry2001

amanda1680:

We didn't interview pediatricians before choosing a practice.  It seems like way too much work, and if they're really that bad, we will find another place to go. 

 We aren't either.  We also have an insurance where we are limited only to Kaiser doctors in Kaiser offices. So our POV is will go see one, if we don't like them we will find another.  It's not like we have that many options.  Got to love "great' health insurance. 

runnergrl6675

I'm tired of being asked by the same people over and over either what am I having or when is he due.  Pretty soon I'm going to tell them it's a girl next time they ask.  Don't people listen??

 Oh, and I hate the new American Idol.  I was a die hard fan for years but without Simon, it's completely useless and boring. 

afry2001

We switched hospitals because the one we originally chose didn't staff their nursery.  It is just expected that you keep your baby the whole time.  Don't get me wrong I am sure I will want to be with her as much as possible.  But I know that I am going to need at least a few hours of good sleep before I go home. I am slightly on the peranoid side.  If she was sleeping next to me the whole time I'm in the hospital I am not going to sleep.  Every little noise she makes is going to wake me up. I want to sleep knowing someone is watching her just in case.  So we found a new hospital where they staff the nursery and encourage you to send them there. 

3Girls3xsTheFun

I could not care any less about cloth diapering and frankly, I'm getting annoyed with the eleventy-billion posts about it. It seems like the new Nest/Bump craze that I only ever hear/see online. 

It probably wouldn't be AS annoying if there wasn't an ENTIRE board already dedicated to CDing. Feel free to post about your fluffy mail (or whatever...) over there.

I find the CD posts more annoying than the "It's a ....." and the Glucose Test/I failed the 1Hr, etc. posts COMBINED!

I'm pretty sure that is unpopular around these parts.

 

 

 

mari_gold

egpitt22:

It seems to be unpopular with a lot of people, but I sent my son to the nursery at night in the hospital.  He was with us during the day, and I made it very clear to the nurses that I was breastfeeding & that I'd like him brought into my room whenever he needed to be fed through the night.  So, I was still with him every 2 hours or so during the night, but I was still on the mag drip from pre-e, could barely function, and was desperate for that sleep in between feedings.  I was afraid if he was in the room, I would be too worried about him & not relax enough to sleep.

I was happy with my decision, and I'll probably do it again this time around, even if I'm not on the mag drip.  

Me, too, except for the mag drip.

Here's my unpopular opinion: I don't get what all the fuss is over Pioneer Woman's recipes. I've made a couple because they always look amazing, but the results are mediocre.

walter7878

Being due at the end of the month has its advantages because everything happens to everyone else first and you can see how it goes and kind of get a heads-up on what to expect. 

But it also sucks when people complain about repetitive posts. I get that it's annoying to see 12 "It's a..." or GD posts every day, and that you're over it if it happened to you three weeks ago. But the fact that something happened to you first because your due date is ahead of mine doesn't mean it isn't important to me when it happens to me.

Telly21182

luvbeingmom:

i think "push gifts" are stupid

really, you want a gift for giving birth to your own child. as if your husband or so doesn't have enough to worry about, now he has to get you a gift? i think it's selfish entitlement crap.

is childbirth hard? yep... do you deserve a present afterwards? um no, see that little person in your arms, that's your gift. you don't need a piece of jewelry or something to commemorate the occasion.

however, i might find one exception to that, if you're getting a gift with the baby's birthstone or something... even then, i find it ridiculous to ask or infer that you should be getting a push gift.

I agree!! 

Telly21182

walter7878:

Being due at the end of the month has its advantages because everything happens to everyone else first and you can see how it goes and kind of get a heads-up on what to expect. 

But it also sucks when people complain about repetitive posts. I get that it's annoying to see 12 "It's a..." or GD posts every day, and that you're over it if it happened to you three weeks ago. But the fact that something happened to you first because your due date is ahead of mine doesn't mean it isn't important to me when it happens to me.

I totally agree with this as well.  We've got the same EDD so I'm in the same boat.  I do love the advantages though of getting to hear about what to expect in a few weeks.   

walter7878

mari_gold:

egpitt22:

It seems to be unpopular with a lot of people, but I sent my son to the nursery at night in the hospital.  He was with us during the day, and I made it very clear to the nurses that I was breastfeeding & that I'd like him brought into my room whenever he needed to be fed through the night.  So, I was still with him every 2 hours or so during the night, but I was still on the mag drip from pre-e, could barely function, and was desperate for that sleep in between feedings.  I was afraid if he was in the room, I would be too worried about him & not relax enough to sleep.

I was happy with my decision, and I'll probably do it again this time around, even if I'm not on the mag drip.  

Me, too, except for the mag drip.

Here's my unpopular opinion: I don't get what all the fuss is over Pioneer Woman's recipes. I've made a couple because they always look amazing, but the results are mediocre.

I don't get what the fuss is about her, period.

bunnyc1246

It annoys me when people still say "wow your pregnant, i had no idea!" Ummm are you kidding i didnt just gain 20 pounds because I enjoy food, theres a baby boy in there!!! uggg so im always wandering.... do people think im fat when im out and about or do they think im pregnant? come on now ive gained all belly and boob weight so just cause i dont wear a tshirt saying hi im pregnant everyday doesnt mean you cant tell!

JayElleJayCee

I get sick of people asking me "How are you feeling today?".  I am fine - I do not have a strange disease - I am pregnant!!! If you are aware of pregnancy hormone changes you will know enough to STOP BUGGING ME EVERY MORNING WITH THE SAME QUESTION AND LOOKING AT ME LIKE I'M DYING!!!!

Every season we get new "work clothes" and I was told by the woman this season that I am being skipped because they are not buying maternity clothes. I said that was fine and she was like "Oh no - now you are going to cry because you are pregnant and emotional!"  I said - "No i'm not going to cry but I can get pissy if you want me to". That shut her up. Stupid woman.

samfish2bcrab

the irony of push gift haters in this thread is: it looks like two of you don't have kids and one had a c-section.  

breezy79

Mine is this ....

I'm starting to get tired of the bump because it seems like there is more complaining than anything anymore.
Too much drama for this mama sometimes. 

TXwife9

JayElleJayCee:

I get sick of people asking me "How are you feeling today?".  I am fine - I do not have a strange disease - I am pregnant!!! If you are aware of pregnancy hormone changes you will know enough to STOP BUGGING ME EVERY MORNING WITH THE SAME QUESTION AND LOOKING AT ME LIKE I'M DYING!!!!

Every season we get new "work clothes" and I was told by the woman this season that I am being skipped because they are not buying maternity clothes. I said that was fine and she was like "Oh no - now you are going to cry because you are pregnant and emotional!"  I said - "No i'm not going to cry but I can get pissy if you want me to". That shut her up. Stupid woman.

This exactly!

IdigDirt

I know its lame but I want a push present. Not anything sparkley but an edible arrangement or flowers would be nice or maybe a coupon book with things like a back rub, washing the dishes and other stuff like that would be awesome. I know I shouldn't get a gift for giving birth but I think DH should do these nice things for me anyways and since that wont happen ill take it in the form of a "push present ".

kathetakite

samfish2bcrab:

the irony of push gift haters in this thread is: it looks like two of you don't have kids and one had a c-section.  

 

I am one of the push gift haters and I had a natural birth with DD. I think it is nice if your DH decides to do something for you however I would never demand, ask or expect a gift from DH. I have never said anything to DH about it so I don't think he even knows what a push gift is, however if he did bring me something just because he wanted to I can't say that I would tell him to return it...

samfish2bcrab

Oh i know there are LOTS of women out there who dislike the idea of push-gifts, i was just pointing out the irony of the ones in this thread who had posted thus far.

Honestly, i don't care what people think about it.  it was an incredibly sweet gesture from my husband and i'm sure he'll do something similar with this baby.   i like gifts, sue me.  Gifts in exchange for a torn vagina and golf ball hemroids are a-okay with me.

breezy79

I think push gifts are silly too.

I don't need anything special for delivering a baby.

kas80

I 100% agree on the cloth diapering thing.  I get that it's trendy and all, but it's just everywhere and I'm tired of the "fluff stash" pictures or whatever they are called.  All of them look exactly the same.

I hate when people I have seen for years either at church, work, whatever who never talked to me before now want to have a conversation every time they see me because they are moms and think that NOW we have something in common and so I'm worth speaking to.  It's just insulting.  I was a nice person worthy of attention before I started gestating too.

kimbo1216

I had never even heard of a "push gift" before.  I won't be bringing it up either.  I don't think there is anything wrong with them, but my hubby will be stressed enough worrying about me that day to also have to worry about getting me a gift.

3Girls3xsTheFun

samfish2bcrab:

the irony of push gift haters in this thread is: it looks like two of you don't have kids and one had a c-section.  

I think the c/s mom's deserve a present more than the ones who actually pushed!

I've done it twice, easy - peasy as far as I'm concerned -- having major abdominal surgery, and trying to heal from that while caring for a newborn? THAT deserves more than diamond earings, in my book!

sjacks

samfish2bcrab:

Oh i know there are LOTS of women out there who dislike the idea of push-gifts, i was just pointing out the irony of the ones in this thread who had posted thus far.

Honestly, i don't care what people think about it.  it was an incredibly sweet gesture from my husband and i'm sure he'll do something similar with this baby.   i like gifts, sue me.  Gifts in exchange for a torn vagina and golf ball hemroids are a-okay with me.

Who doesn't like gifts? I just don't expect a gift from DH because I gave birth. Don't get me wrong, if DH gets me a gift, I'm gonna be grateful but I just don't think he has to get me one because I pushed.