Preschool and Potty Training...

Halo79RN

Okay, so by the time preschool started, my daughter was tinkling on the potty every time while at home. She was just starting to ask out in public.  Well, they wanted her in pull ups for the first couple of weeks to "help the teachers and children during the adjustment period."  WELL... dd has gone completely backwards now.  She wets her pants at home.  So I told them on Monday that I would be sending her in trainers and putting a diaper cover over it starting sometime  this week. I held her out on Wed b/c we brought my mil to the airport. But she even asked to go while we were out that day (she was in her Little Beetle trainers). 

 

Okay... so here's my concern. At the start of the year I sent some kushies trainers and was sending her in them (the first  day or two which parents stayed those days)... then they asked for pull ups for the first couple of weeks (they want them trained by age 3).  So I sent 1/2 of a pack of pull ups and sent her in them just for school.  She has come home at least 3 times in pampers?  They say that she sits on the potty but does nothing for them yet.  But then they are putting her in diapers instead of the pull ups (which are essentially diapers anyway)... so how is she supposed to learn?  But I haven't seen my kushies back yet?  I'm putting her in a little beetle trainer with a diaper cover (they won't keep wet ones, right?) and am not sending anything b/c frankly they should have a ton of pullups and at least two cloth trainers (one being a kushie, one a happy heiny).  I'm going to be ticked, a. if she comes home in a diaper and b. if I don't see those trainers again.  rrrrr.  

 

Would you do the same?  I gave them warning time.  I just don't see how she'll move forward with potty training if we keep flip flopping between trainers and pull ups/diapers.  

 

advise!  quick!  I send her in an hour! 

 

thanks.

smurfetteinred

Well I don't have any experience in pt but my thoughts are that you're exactly right and all your doing is confusing her. She's being sent mixed messages about what she's supposed to do about going to the bathroom and it's not going to right itself if she keeps being put in diapers all the time. I'd ask to speak to someone at the preschool and first off find out what happened to your trainers - as they should be using what you sent for her - and also to explain how you'd like things to be done in terms of potty training her. I'd be nice but explain how you feel about how when she's home she does just fine but the second they start putting her in diapers she stops using the toilet and reverts to her diaper - and understandably so. If they can't figure out a workable solution, is there anyway that you can pull her for a couple weeks and really concentrate on getting her potty trained so that you can send her with nothing?

Halo79RN

She only goes 3 afternoons a week (for 3 hrs each day). The only day she needs to go is Friday so I can sleep for work.  I told them on Monday that I know part of this may be starting school (she started about 5 wks ago) but that I think going back and forth is confusing her.  They blamed it on the transition to school. I don't think they want to deal with it. ???  But they want her trained by age three. ???   I'll have a parent-teacher meeting soon.  But why else would they be putting her in a diaper as opposed to the pull ups I sent if they are not being lazy (it's not the reattachable kind of pull ups, it's easy ups... so they have to pull her pants off and back on). Lazy is the wrong word... but I cannot think right now.   But that's undies, no snaps or loops or velcro... so both the teachers and dd need to get used to it.   Of course, I'm being kind and sending her in trainers that snap on the sides. 

(sigh)  Potty training sucks 

luvlieK

Yea I don't like the mixed messages. ?It just seems that they want it to be easier on them, which I can understand. ?But I think you should definitely talk to them about. ?You have very valid concerns.

MeantToBeWed

I also don't understand why in the world if they asked for and you sent pull-ups, that they're not using them on her! Makes no sense at all. And I'd definitely be asking for your cloth trainers back!!!

daisyterp

Ugh- I am not there yet, but I would be totally frustrated. 

I sounds like they just don't want to bother with helping her become potty-trained there- hence the diapers.

I would definitely ask for your trainers back.  If you pick her up, I would ask for them when you go to pick her up and don't leave until they give them to you.  Also take some clean trainers in, show them to them and say that this is how you are PT'ing her and this is what she will be using.  Tell them that she associates diapers w/ not having to use the potty. 

 Maybe there is some way you could label the trainers and covers w/ her name, put them in a special bag or something so they know not to use diapers on her?  

good luck-