XP: WDYT about DC provider kissing DS on lips?

bethann3181

DH and I are looking for others opinions on this.  Our DS goes to an in-home daycare, but it's set up very similar to a corporate daycare environment, it's just less kids.  There are about 12 kids, and three women/providers.  The one girl who is in charge of the daycare kisses all the kids goodbye on the lips everyday.  DS started going there when he was 4 months old, so she wouldn't kiss him goodbye since I would always have him in the infant carseat when we were leaving.  Now that he's in the convertible carseat, and we're actually carrying him in and out of the house, she started kissing him goodbye everyday - on the lips.  It just seems a little too wierd to me.  I mean, she watches DS all day - we are glad she shows affection to the kids, and trust her to care for our son.  But, for some reason, this just seems too close for comfort.  WDYT?  Would this wierd you out, or would you be ok with this? 

FWIW - I'm ok with kisses for DS, I think on the cheek is more appropriate.

Another factor to consider is that I'm one of the last moms there for pickup everyday.  She's already kissed 10 or so kids on the lips before she gets to DS.  Germs are spread everywhere in DC, but I feel that this can certainly escalate germ spreading.  WDYT?  Would you be ok with this, or ask her to start kissing DS on the cheek instead?

HailsLyrics

I would not be ok with it.

I would talk with her when nobody's around and explain how you are uncomfortable with it. 

STAR15

My mom tries to kiss LO on the lips, and I'm weirded out by it (and that's her grandma). LO doesn't know what to do with these lips coming at her, so she tries to bite them. :-) I wouldn't be OK with DCP doing that, and you could tell her to stop just because of the germ issue.

mojito14

Absolutely not!

As a PP stated, yes, the "babies" lick/chew on the same toys, but babies generally don't have herpes and other infections that adults may have.

The only people that kiss my kids on the lips are myself and my dh.

sleepingbeauty825

I really give the to anyone kissing my LO on the lips. I don't know how I would address it though.

BamBam510

I don't even kiss my ds on the lips, and my H would probably flip out if someone else was doing it.  Nothing against those who do kiss their kids on the lips, but for me its just a bit weird.

RedCardinal

I would not be okay with that ! The only people that kiss my kids on the lips are myself,DH and our parents. Even if she is a friend, friends normally don't kiss other friends' kids on the lips ! Hugs are fine ! Not kisses, that seems wrong to me.

humynone

In a word...cold sores/herpes. No way would I be comfortable with someone kissing LO on the lips. Cheeks and foreheads are far more appropriate and just as affectionate.

ceceandme222

When I was working in DC, I would sometimes get really excited for a kid or be cuddling with them and slip and kiss them on the cheek or forehead. I had a pretty good bond with most of my class and I truly cared about each of them and feel like my emotions got the best of me when they would do something great or that we were working on for a while. 

I would have never done this in front of a parent and am honestly embarrassed to admit I have ever done it, because I feel like in a way it is inappropriate. It is hard sometimes though to remain somewhat emotionless when you have a bunch of young children you see for 40+ hours a week, especially at their age when they want hugs and cuddles. 

I would NEVER EVER kiss another person's child on the lips. That is not OK with me and I don't think any of the parents would have been OK with it either. I would speak to her and let her know its not OK with you. I also think bringing up the germs is a valid point. 

g8trkim

I would be weirded out with that. One of Grant's teachers will kiss him on the cheek, which I was a little surprised by but not bothered. But I could never imagine her kissing him on the lips. Maybe you could drop a hint, like when you are leaving say something to your LO in front of her like "Let's tell Miss X bye bye with a kiss on the cheek." Or you could always just say something to her in private.

sweetieNJ

I would not be ok with that.

bethann3181

Thanks, everyone.  I am going to talk to her about it tomorrow!

Roxpup

I don't kiss DS on the lips, never have.  I used to work in a daycare and one of the little girls that I've been close with for years will run up to me and give me a hug and kiss me on the cheek, sometimes she'll ask me for one back and I'll give her one (cheek or forehead ONLY), but only because I know her parents VERY WELL.  I would be very uncomfortable if I was put in  your situation, also.  It will be hard to talk to her, but I hope she understands!!

AyeDavanita

BamBam510:

I don't even kiss my ds on the lips, and my H would probably flip out if someone else was doing it.  Nothing against those who do kiss their kids on the lips, but for me its just a bit weird.

All of this. We are just not lip-kissers. I'd say something- keep it light but firm.