"I hate her name. I'm not calling her that."

AshleyEric609

This was what my SIL just said to me about her cousins baby.

SIL refuses to acknowledge the baby's name  and has told anyone who will listen how much she hates it.

I'm appalled at the level of audacity some people have. 

cantalopes24

What is the name? Is it awful?

*Bre*

you can't post this without letting us know what the name is!

trixiejo

This was my fear with DS. I told everyone I wouldn't tell his name until he was born so I wouldn't hear all the rude comments. I eventually caved and told everyone beforehand. I did get a few odd comments, or no comment at all, but I guess I was lucky that no one was rude. DS's name is Levi...we like it and it's perfect for him.

What your SIL said is awful. I hope she comes around to recognize it's not her baby to name and not a big deal in the long run....but you do have to tell us her name now

freregan

You SIL and my SIL would be BFF.  Yeah, let us know what the name is.  How rude. 

KristaK10

Some people are remarkable!

shediva1

What's the name?

lindylogana

Yep I agree with everyone else what's the name??

forensicmama

My curiosity is piked! What's the  name? Yes, your SIL is being a total biotch. Some things you've just gotta let go!

cnw112784

yea i told my co-worker my boy name and she was like OMG GET REAL ARE YOU SERIOUS, A BOY CANT HAVE A NAME LIKE THAT, GIRLS CAN HAVE WHATEVER NAME BUT A BOY HAS TO SOUND NORMAL....w-t-f....to bad im doing whatever i like...

*Bre*

cnw112784:

yea i told my co-worker my boy name and she was like OMG GET REAL ARE YOU SERIOUS, A BOY CANT HAVE A NAME LIKE THAT, GIRLS CAN HAVE WHATEVER NAME BUT A BOY HAS TO SOUND NORMAL....w-t-f....to bad im doing whatever i like...

and you need to tell us what your boy name is. 

*Bre*

cnw112784:

yea i told my co-worker my boy name and she was like OMG GET REAL ARE YOU SERIOUS, A BOY CANT HAVE A NAME LIKE THAT, GIRLS CAN HAVE WHATEVER NAME BUT A BOY HAS TO SOUND NORMAL....w-t-f....to bad im doing whatever i like...

and you need to tell us what your boy name is. 

rainlily

*Bre*:

cnw112784:

yea i told my co-worker my boy name and she was like OMG GET REAL ARE YOU SERIOUS, A BOY CANT HAVE A NAME LIKE THAT, GIRLS CAN HAVE WHATEVER NAME BUT A BOY HAS TO SOUND NORMAL....w-t-f....to bad im doing whatever i like...

and you need to tell us what your boy name is. 

Now I need to know OP's SIL's cousin's baby name and your boy baby name!  I'm wondering what names could have gotten these reactions?  Cindy Lou Who for a boy? 

jdumbaugh

While we don't know the gender of the baby yet, we already have names picked.  I got odd reactions to the boy's name we picked:  Marek. (sometimes spelled Merrick).

First thing out of my mom's mouth was "you can't name him that...that's the elephant man!"  Sorry, I'm too young to know who that is and I don't really care.  I don't think my MIL likes it either...she commented that they could call him Rick - I said no way!

People need to understand that it is YOUR child and to butt out.

cantalopes24

jdumbaugh:

While we don't know the gender of the baby yet, we already have names picked.  I got odd reactions to the boy's name we picked:  Marek. (sometimes spelled Merrick).

First thing out of my mom's mouth was "you can't name him that...that's the elephant man!"  Sorry, I'm too young to know who that is and I don't really care.  I don't think my MIL likes it either...she commented that they could call him Rick - I said no way!

People need to understand that it is YOUR child and to butt out.

Its your child, but its not YOUR name. YOU don't have to live with it, your child is a person not a puppy and the way you said YOUR implies some type of ownership. If you get that strong of a reaction maybe there is a reason.

grlnextdoor

When we told my grandmother DD's name (Emery), she said that exact thing.  I asked her, well what are you planning to call her then?  She said, "I don't know, but not that.  I'll call her whatever I want."  I just let it go...and she calls her Emery.  People are SO RUDE about baby names.  It was enough to make me want to keep #2's name a secret, but I don't know if we will.

 

 

AshleyEric609

Wow, sorry. When I typed that I SWEAR I added the name in. I think I'm losing my mind. Hah.

Baby's name is Emmie Olivia.

SIL says Emmie is a dogs name and Olivia is a cartoon pig. O.o 

jdumbaugh

What I meant was that choosing a name is the decision of the parents, not the extended family or general population.

PearlPink

I mean Emmie isn't my style but I'd take it over a lot of the other wacked out names I've heard. Its at least recognizable and not totally confusing. and Olivia? SIL has a problem with that? Sounds like she just wants to caues drama.

njrunr3

jdumbaugh:

While we don't know the gender of the baby yet, we already have names picked.  I got odd reactions to the boy's name we picked:  Marek. (sometimes spelled Merrick). 

I have a ton of friends and family members with that name, it's extremely common in Poland. It's their version of Mark, I wouldn't even bat an eye if I saw that name since I grew up knowing so many people named that.   

AshleyEric609

PearlPink:

I mean Emmie isn't my style but I'd take it over a lot of the other wacked out names I've heard. Its at least recognizable and not totally confusing. and Olivia? SIL has a problem with that? Sounds like she just wants to caues drama.

That's exactly what she wants to do. When it's not all about her she makes it all about her. 

Julie822

jdumbaugh:

First thing out of my mom's mouth was "you can't name him that...that's the elephant man!"  Sorry, I'm too young to know who that is and I don't really care.  I don't think my MIL likes it either...she commented that they could call him Rick - I said no way!

 I don't know how I feel about telling people what nicknames they can call someone. A nickname is kind of a personal choice in my opinion, so unless it was something offensive or a name that bothers you for a significant personal reason, what does it matter what your MIL calls  the child, as long as she and the child both like it?

I have a FB friend who named her child Lilith but absolutely hates when people call her Lily. I just wonder what she is going to do if the girl grows up and decides she wants to go by Lily. I think you need to consider the potential nicknames associated with the name you chose - if you hate it that much, what would you do if the child decides they like it better once they get old enough to make that choice?

cantalopes24

Julie822:

jdumbaugh:

First thing out of my mom's mouth was "you can't name him that...that's the elephant man!"  Sorry, I'm too young to know who that is and I don't really care.  I don't think my MIL likes it either...she commented that they could call him Rick - I said no way!

 I don't know how I feel about telling people what nicknames they can call someone. A nickname is kind of a personal choice in my opinion, so unless it was something offensive or a name that bothers you for a significant personal reason, what does it matter what your MIL calls  the child, as long as she and the child both like it?

I have a FB friend who named her child Lilith but absolutely hates when people call her Lily. I just wonder what she is going to do if the girl grows up and decides she wants to go by Lily. I think you need to consider the potential nicknames associated with the name you chose - if you hate it that much, what would you do if the child decides they like it better once they get old enough to make that choice?

That was my point, you are not picking the name for yourself and your child will have their own personality. What if the girl hates Lilith all together and goes by her middle name or just makes one up (I know people who have done this, mostly men).  Her mom needs to learn to get over it now. My mom named my brother a name that has a common nickname with the intention of calling him by his full name. Fast foward on that 30 years and I can't remember the last time even SHE called him by his full name.

Hollygirl7

Julie822:

jdumbaugh:

First thing out of my mom's mouth was "you can't name him that...that's the elephant man!"  Sorry, I'm too young to know who that is and I don't really care.  I don't think my MIL likes it either...she commented that they could call him Rick - I said no way!

 I don't know how I feel about telling people what nicknames they can call someone. A nickname is kind of a personal choice in my opinion, so unless it was something offensive or a name that bothers you for a significant personal reason, what does it matter what your MIL calls  the child, as long as she and the child both like it?

I have a FB friend who named her child Lilith but absolutely hates when people call her Lily. I just wonder what she is going to do if the girl grows up and decides she wants to go by Lily. I think you need to consider the potential nicknames associated with the name you chose - if you hate it that much, what would you do if the child decides they like it better once they get old enough to make that choice?

 

I totally get what you're saying. I know it's traditional, but I've always liked the name Victoria. I'd never use it, though, because it'd get shortened to Vicki or Tory which I don't like (no offense to the Vicki's and Tory's out there!) 

At the same time, though, I have a friend whose name is Kimberley, and her parents hated the nickname Kim, so she's Kimmie or Kimberley. It suits her where Kim does not, and because her parents hated the nn, she's grown up hating it too. It probably helps that her parents could correct the Kim-callers by giving them an alternate name to call her, like, "Oh, we're calling her Kimmie for short." I think if I had another nn in mind, I wouldn't be so afraid of the one that I don't like.

As for Emmie, I think it's sweet! I prefer the Emme spelling myself, but it's totally a name I'd use if my SIL wasn't in love with it already. And it flows really well with Olivia!! It just goes to show you that, no matter WHAT the name, someone is not going to like it. If you're holding out for universal approval, you'll be waiting a long time, because you'll never get everyone to agree on a name.