Need Advice on Baby Shower Stuff!

Oneday82

Who would've guessed that this baby shower stuff could be so stressful to get sorted out!?  Here is what I need help with:

1- Did you invite family ie: cousins, aunts etc.. who live in states on the opposite side of the country and you know will not come?

2- Is it better to have one large shower and invite everyone, or two seperate showers? (ie: friends, family)

3-  I am a teacher and will have a shower at school, do I invite my teacher friends to another one of my showers outside of school since we are friends, or no?

4- Any advice on places that are cheaper than others to rent if I do have one big shower?  I don't want anyone paying hundreds of dollars just to rent a building!!!

5- I have had a personal blog about my infertility journey and a lot of facebook friends have been following for 3 years and comment and encourage often, but are not people that I normally hang out with in real life (though I would, just don't for whatever reason) Do I invite them or no?

6-  Please give me real answers on what you would do! I totally know it's MY shower and MY time to shine and I should just do whatever I feel like, but I also don't want to encourage anymore drama or hurt feelings than necessary.  This would be why my hubby and I got married in Vegas!  TIA!!!!

MrsGo4Hockeychick

1. I think we did, but did not expect them to come. But I'm not sure. 

2. Depends on what your hosts would like to spend. Has more than one person OFFERED to throw you a shower?

3. No. The only people who should be invited to more than one shower are your mom and MIL. 

4. you can look at community centers, churches, park pavilions...

5. No.  

Oneday82

THANK YOU!!! As far as if others have offered to throw me a shower?  Nobody has specifically said "I want to throw you a shower."  I have had about 7 people say "I really want to help with your shower so let me know when the time comes."  A lot of indians and not yet one chief (or maybe there is but they just haven't said they want to be the ones in charge!)

MrsGo4Hockeychick

well, when someone asks to help, I'd just say, "as far as I know, there isn't one being planned yet. But I'll let you know if someone offers to plan one" 

 

it could be that they want to offer, but assume others already have.  

Mish2g

Oneday82:

Who would've guessed that this baby shower stuff could be so stressful to get sorted out!?  Here is what I need help with:

1- Did you invite family ie: cousins, aunts etc.. who live in states on the opposite side of the country and you know will not come?

We're inviting only immediate family -- that extends from CA to NY, even though we know NYers wont come.

2- Is it better to have one large shower and invite everyone, or two seperate showers? (ie: friends, family)

I'm having two -- one from my husbands side and one from my side. It would be too big with the entire family -- imagine sitting through opening gifts in that!

3-  I am a teacher and will have a shower at school, do I invite my teacher friends to another one of my showers outside of school since we are friends, or no?

If they're good friends, I would invite. If you dont hang out with them outside of work, then no.

4- Any advice on places that are cheaper than others to rent if I do have one big shower?  I don't want anyone paying hundreds of dollars just to rent a building!!!

I don't know where you are!! Are there hotels with minimally priced small rooms to rent? Or a restaurant?

5- I have had a personal blog about my infertility journey and a lot of facebook friends have been following for 3 years and comment and encourage often, but are not people that I normally hang out with in real life (though I would, just don't for whatever reason) Do I invite them or no?

I would not invite them -- if I dont hang out with them and they arent family, they dont need an invite, but that's just me. However, if I felt really close to them and they've been involved in other major events in my life, AND (mostly) it wouldnt contribute to extra cost, then I would invite.

6-  Please give me real answers on what you would do! I totally know it's MY shower and MY time to shine and I should just do whatever I feel like, but I also don't want to encourage anymore drama or hurt feelings than necessary.  This would be why my hubby and I got married in Vegas!  TIA!!!!

ohfour

1- Did you invite family ie: cousins, aunts etc.. who live in states on the opposite side of the country and you know will not come? Just my one cousin and her girls who used to live her but moved out of state. They are home a few times a year and I invited them just in case they would be here. Otherwise, no, because I didn't want them to feel obligated to send a gift.

2- Is it better to have one large shower and invite everyone, or two seperate showers? (ie: friends, family) I only had 1, not sure which is better, but it probably depends on how many people you would invite, too. DH has basically no family around except his immediate and even then 2 brothers and their families are out of state, so, we were able to have one medium sized one.

3-  I am a teacher and will have a shower at school, do I invite my teacher friends to another one of my showers outside of school since we are friends, or no? Nope, I'd say no.

4- Any advice on places that are cheaper than others to rent if I do have one big shower?  I don't want anyone paying hundreds of dollars just to rent a building!!! My mom planned mine and had it at a bed and breakfast that rents out their downstairs (old victorian restored house). It only cost $50. Lots of people here have them at churches and things like that (in a multipurpose room or somehting)

5- I have had a personal blog about my infertility journey and a lot of facebook friends have been following for 3 years and comment and encourage often, but are not people that I normally hang out with in real life (though I would, just don't for whatever reason) Do I invite them or no? I invited a few friends from high school I still keep in touch with but don't really hang out with, but just the closest ones.

6-  Please give me real answers on what you would do! I totally know it's MY shower and MY time to shine and I should just do whatever I feel like, but I also don't want to encourage anymore drama or hurt feelings than necessary.  This would be why my hubby and I got married in Vegas!  TIA!!!!