If I leave, You will Cry

TashaNichole13

I know that seperation anxiety is normal, but I'm worried what my little guy is dealing with is more. I can't leave his sight for two seconds without him having a complete melt down. He acts like he has been abandoned before, which would never happen. I am really begining to worry. When I fold laundry for instance, I can't walk from the bed to the closet with him on the floor with out him flippin out. He crys and crys till he is horse! Calming him down takes nothing and usually there are not tears unless he has been crying for a while. I have tried ignoring him, hoping that he gets the point. I have tried distracting him with toys before I attemp to do anything that requires me walking 2 feet from him. I really don't know what to do. I feel like a horrible mom, but I can't get ANYTHING done around the house unless I just let him cry it out. I don't want him to feel unloved or like i don't care. Any Advice??

DandNclark

I had this problem too and still kinda do but not to a very bad extent because he will usually be pacified by playing with toys now.

What I did was make it a game. I would play peekaboo. I would gradually increase the time I was away. I always say, "where's mommy?" even if he can still see me but just not my face. I also would yell across the house something like, "mommy's still here." Then when I'd go back into the room I'd make it like I was just hiding. I run to him and l tickle him and make it a total game. Then I tried giving him a toy to play with when I was gone.

WildcatPrincess

I just wore her for a week or two when it was really bad. As soon as she knew I was going to put her down she'd stiffen and start to whine and every time I went to the bathroom there was a meltdown. She even screamed when DH came home and kissed her because she was afraid he was going to take her from me! Luckily it passed quickly, I think it was just a week she was like that. At the time it felt like forever though. GL!

Cali Mommy519

DandNclark:

I had this problem too and still kinda do but not to a very bad extent because he will usually be pacified by playing with toys now.

What I did was make it a game. I would play peekaboo. I would gradually increase the time I was away. I always say, "where's mommy?" even if he can still see me but just not my face. I also would yell across the house something like, "mommy's still here." Then when I'd go back into the room I'd make it like I was just hiding. I run to him and l tickle him and make it a total game. Then I tried giving him a toy to play with when I was gone.

Ok, So this is what i am going to try! This sounds like a great Idea. My DS Is the same EXACT way. Im getting so upset by it that i would not have even thought of doing this. OP I feel the same way to. I think its just a stage. The last two weeks DS was this way. This week he has been better. So to be honest, I think it is ok, but i was going to ask my Pedi next week. Hope It gets better soon!

GL

TashaNichole13

Thank You so much for all the advice. I'm deff going to try using all of it, what ever it takes =]